Hard one, maybe see if she'll contribute or leave it til closer to the time? Could ask her and have a back up one for if she falls out with u x
CommentAuthormrsV2013
Are you having any bridesmaids? If not just say your not having any
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CommentAuthorAshleigh:)
Tell her to buy her own stuff and she can be? So if she falls out with you you havnt lost lout on anything, but do you think if she fell out with you she would miss your wedding??
CommentAuthorLauraM9144
i had the same issue. my sister is VERY immature i disagree with most of the things she does but the fact remains she is my sister and i have decided to use this time to build some bridges, i am well aware we fall out all the time so i have accepted that should we fall out she simply wont be there. I bought her dress but as im having a budget wedding its only £15 from the bay of e so im not to bothered if it doesnt get used. On the good side we are forced to spend more time and forced to sort our differences this by no means means we have it all worked out and i expect many more arguments to come before the day but right now fingers crossed its going well. i think if i hadnt given her the chance i would have felt bad , you just never know she might suprise you.
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CommentAuthorSazzell23
I havent always had the best relationship with my sister and before the wedding she didnt speak to me for two months. But I asked her to be my bridesmaid and it did bring us a lot closer together. I just totally chilled out with her and let her come to me over things and I tried not to get annoyed with anything she did. Im glad she was my bridesmaid because on the wedding she was the one that I really wanted there and was there for me. I think you should give your sister a chance? xx
Leave it til about 3 months before wedding then say your my bridesmaid
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CommentAuthorsarah
Let me just say that I'm very much of the opinion that all bridesmaids need to do is support the bride on the day and smile in the pictures. Anything else is a nice bonus. You can work around her absence at pre wedding events and dress fittings. If I were in your shoes I'd make my decision based on how I would feel if she was missing from the bridal party on the day and in those photos from the day. What would you feel 5, 10 years down the line if she isn't standing next to you as your bridesmaid? Families are very complicated but it's worth looking at the consequences both good and bad in the short and long term.
CommentAuthorwelf
my sister is exactly the same, well both of them are very opinionated and the youngest one is just plain lazy, we have our ups and downs and she already has said she didnt want to be part of our freakshow wedding! and now shes my bridesmaid again for the sake of my family, its been hard work and so stressful, but if you think it would cause you more stress to have her there.... dont! its not worth it babes....
CommentAuthorInDreamland
It sounds to me like you don't want her to be a BM and if you're not comfortable with her being one then don't have her. The last thing a bride needs is her sister and BM causing her stress in the run up and on the wedding day itself.
That said you've still got 15 months so if you're not buying dresses etc for them yet then wait until nearer the time before making your final decision. Then when the time comes do not feel obliged or pressured into having her.
You could say you can only afford to have 2 BM's then she can pay for her stuff. Alternatively give her something else important to do like a reading or being a witness.
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
could you ask her to do a reading for you instead making that a much more important job and she could still have a dress to tie in with the bridesmaids
I agree, ask her to do a reading if you're not comfortable with her being a bridesmaid.
She might feel a bit deflated to find out that h2bs sister is being a bm and she isn't, however it is your choice. I do think it could be an opportunity to build bridges though, but equally it could be a lot of stress xx
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CommentAuthorFinally Susan B
Tricky one but I agree with Sarah's post - imagine her not being at your wedding, not standing next to you when your other half sisters are - does that bother you? or does it feel ok? That's how I would make my decision
CommentAuthormillz090
At the end of the day it is your choice and not hers and you have who you want too. Could she do a reading instead so still involved. I wouldnt worry about the seating plan yet as you got over a year to go and friendships change very quickly xxx
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
She has to make the effort or she's not a bridesmaid xxx
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CommentAuthorVelcro
if she cant be arsed to make the effort then i think the decision is made for you.
but regardless of that id call her out on lying to you first and foremost, if shes untrustworthy then she needs to be told to stuff right off off
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I fell out with my sister from September to the middle of last month, I got engaged in that time and asked two of my friends plus h2b's two sisters to be my bridesmaids, I haven't asked my sister and I still won't, I don't think we'll fall out again but I'm happy with the situation of just friends and as she's your sister she's family and still a big part of the wedding as family even if she isn't your bridesmaid so don't feel obligated to ask her just because she's your sister x
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Could u ask her to be your witness at signing the register instead? That's still a big role x
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CommentAuthorsarah
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Witnesses sign the marriage certificate, generally moh and the best man do it but sometimes specific people are designated
