HELP!!!! one of my bridesmaids dislikes the dress ive bought for them each to wear, the other three like it and say its really nice, we chose it cos it was cheap, right colours AND we thought they would all like it especially her! but now shes told me after its too late to take them back that she doesn't like it, she said she would step down (which i dont really want her to do) or she would buy her own but i wanted them all to match!!!! what can i do :( im so stumped and any ideas would be amazing!!!!
thanks in advance! clair xxx
CommentAuthorkrisw86
sounds like she is acting like a brat. personally i feel u should explain how much u want her to be a bridesmaid and that you want all of ur bridesmaids to wear the same dresses. cos it too late to change the dresses, u should play the friend card. if she that much of a good friend, she'll wear it.
sorry to seem blunt hun but she probably was hoping for something very expensive xx
CommentAuthorladyannwyn
thanks hun! im not sure but im glad of the honest answer really! i think i am going to have to say shes either going to have to wear it or be just a guest either way i want her at the wedding, im gunna just have to leave it up to her i think! damn it y does it have to be such a pain!!! grrrr!
thanks again tho! xxxx
CommentAuthorTikobear
Bless ya, what a nightmare! What is itr she don't like about it? Is it cus she thinks she won't look as good as the others?
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CommentAuthorkrisw86
thats ok hun. see what she says. it is a pain, and i wish things were so much easier, especially when working on a budget!
its only for one day surely she could give you that??
CommentAuthorkrisw86
yh i agree. surely for one day she can wear something u want her to x
CommentAuthorEcoFreak
I agree - particularly if the others like it Xx
CommentAuthorladyannwyn
well thats what i thought, she didn't say what she didn't like about it, i bought them for them from a boutique shop on the spur of the moment (with a bridesmaid with me) and then took a pic of it on one of em, she has yet to see it in the flesh but all the other bridesmaids like it, i wanted something pretty but not to prom like, not a loo roll topper (rememeber those hahaha!) and something i thought they would like and wear again, im having to alter hers as it is cos she is quite big so i bought 2 and am putting a panel in, she isn't the only big bm anyway. im gunna get her to come and see it in the flesh n if she really hates it then i think i will have to say im sorry but i want you all to match so i think its best if she comes as a guest :( thank you all for your coments, i really appreciate it! going to bed to try n get some sleep :) thanks again girls! xxx
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
Good job, hope you get some sleep!!
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
Maybe that's why she doesn't like it, because she's a bigger girl and seeing it on someone who's not her size is knocking her confidence slightly and she can't imagine the dress on herself. I'm a bigger girl and I'd feel like that, so I can only put her behaviour down to that possibly being the reason. I'd talk to her before sacking her, let her see the dress and explain you will alter it, boost her confidence in the dress and then if she's still not happy, explain it would be best if she's a guest so she can wear what she likes. Good luck x
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CommentAuthorFutureMrsPite
i think she should at least see it in the flesh to discount it completely, but i agree seeing it on someone smaller has prob knocked her confidence so just let her know exactly what u will do with it and how it will look and hopefully she will be happy with that and continue to be a bm, good luck x
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CommentAuthorbabybex
My best friend had us buy our own dresses for the wedding, all she said was as long as they are black, however there were 3 of us adult BM's 2 living over here and the 3rd (her sis) in Aus, me and BM #2 both liked the same dress and bought the same, however sis from Aus as she wasn't going to be here with time for alterations she bought a dress online after seeing a pic of me and #2s and somehow managed to get it so that it was identical material, colour difference not obvious but every1 thought they were all from the same designer, which they weren't plus Aussy BM was MOH so it fit in well. With regards to your "friend" lady ann, she should be priviliged that you have asked her to be ur BM, and she would do you the honour whether you had told them to wear a bin bag or the worlds most expensive dress. Cost is nothing, its being a part of your friends big day that matters and making sure you have the best day. The dress that I wore fit me (a bigggg girl) and also an 8 and half month pregnant BM (who was a size 10!) so if the dress you have picked suits other BM's who may be larger then she can't neccessarily use that as an excuse. Sit her down with a large glass of vino and have a thorough chat about it all, I'm sure after seeing it she could change her opinion and also when she tries it on. Good luckx
CommentAuthorKaya
My bridesmaid said she's wear anything - regardless of if she hated it.... luckily she liked it! I'm now a bridesmaid and would wear anything, it's the bride and grooms day, not mine. If that's how they want their bridesmaid to look, taht's how I'll look.
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CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
basically tell her tuff she has two choice she shuts up and wears it or doesnt be a bridesmaid ffs what is with ppl its for a few hours out of her precuiouse lifes she supposed to be a friend and she shpuld wear what ever u want her to wear its fr yor big day tell her tp sling her hook of shes not happy u dont need the stress why should u accomodate what she wants on "YOUR" wedding day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :@ x
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CommentAuthorJennaLouise
Oh dear. I feel for you chick, but tbh she should just wear it! I have been a BM 6 times and have always worn what I've been asked to. Unless it's really revealing and will make her feel uncomfortable I think she should just feel honoured that you asked her to be your BM! I think its terrible of her to have put you in this situation! xx
CommentAuthor*Kat B*
didn't want to run and not leave a comment - personally tough! she'll just have to like it. My sister likes her dress on the rail but not on herself just give her reassurance that she looks nice in it. Some people don't do dresses very often so have huge hangups about it. One of my bridesmaids is going to be a bridesmaid again later next year and she really doesn't like the brides choice of mustard but she's biting her lip because it's not her day
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
can you post a pic in your album babe ... you will need to unrestrict you profile
got a pic of the dress up on my album if you girls wanna see it, the bridesmaid wearing it is the second biggest (the one who doesn't like it is a bit bigger) and i will be adding a panel into this one's dress just because her bust is a bit squished in! lol. i think im going to get her down to see the dress soon hopefully and im going to just say that if she really doesn't want to wear it then she can come as a guest and maybe do a reading at the ceremony so she will feel more comfortable i really do appreciate the help, i was worried that i was being abit of a bridezilla about it and it was 'just a dress' but im glad im not the only one who would be a bit upset! i mean i wld wear anything at her wedding, even if it was A horrible dress! thanks again girls! xxx
CommentAuthorladyannwyn
ladies we have a winner!!!!! she came down this weekend and saw the dress in the flesh and liked it so back to square 1!!!!! but i did tell her about if she didnt like it then she couldn't b a bridesmaid and that went down fine!!!! im soooo chuffed, we had abit of an issues with one of h2b nieces as our marriage 'makes her feel sick' (shes autistic (slightly) and 3 years younger than me with h2b 17 years older at 41) but we just said thats fine, thats your oppinion and if you don't want to come then don't. so overall bk on a level playing field once again!!!!!
