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Dressing your venue > theme/colours: Help me choose a theme please?

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- CommentAuthorBlushingbride2b
Hi all, this might be a bit long and complicated but bear with me ;) I really need some help choosing a theme for our wedding as I'm stuck so things can't move forward.

Our colours will be gun metal grey and pale/baby pink but I can't decide on the theme as the two options I have in mind both have negatives to them.

1. Vintage and roses - I would be using foam and paper roses to save money and they look really realistic. I would like to use birdcages as part of this but this is what my friend has said she would like, I'm worried it will cause arguments with her since we have already had issues over the date / venue.

2. Cherry blossoms - I love the way it looks on stationary and is a bit more unique BUT I won't be able to source it as real flowers as the wedding will be early march and it doesn't grow until later and I think the artificial stuff looks a bit rubbish plus is also expensive and harder to get hold of. Also I would like a post bouquet but wouldn't be able to have that shape with cherry blossom. I could always try do a brooch bouquet though?

So what are people's opinions on these themes? Or would it look good if I mixed and matched? Sorry to have gone on, you can probably see how I've done my own head in with this;(

Xxx
- CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
I would say mix and match and just take the birdcages idea out of the vintage rose theme if you think it is going to cause problems (I remember your thread about the venue and how she made you feel about that!). This way you can still have the bouquet you want, and you can add cherry blossom in but you arent concentrating completely on it. I think that they would look lovely mixed xxx

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- CommentAuthorMrsEminson2B
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I think you could have lots of fun with either themes, as you say it depends on which flowers are out when you get married and that adds to the cost,

I think birdcages and roses always look good togeher but i also like the cherry blossom idea (I'm not being much help really am I).

If you both want to use birdcages have you thought of putting both themes into a seach engine and seeing what that brings up for you?

Can you not go with the cherry blossom theme for invites etc but then incorporate some pink roses in so that it is not so expensive?

Here are some cherry blossom idea's I have found for you:-

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- CommentAuthorBlushingbride2b
Linzi-jo, yeah that's what I was thinking too. There have been some further developments with my friend so I'll prob update at some point.

Mrs eminson - they're both lovely themes, thank you for the inspiration.

I've decided to go with a rise romantic theme with a little bit of blossom and a few butterflies, that way it should be very different from what my friend wants. I'm really relieved to have made my mind up on this so I can get stuck into planning. Thank you do much for your advice and I will be mixing and matching like you both suggested. I'll hopefully be able to upload some pics soon, xxxxx.
- CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
Glad you have decided! You can get on to the exciting bit of finding and buying stuff now!! xxx

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- CommentAuthorbex
the theme/colour is a hard one to choose all i would say is go with what u want and dont worry about everyone else, it's ur big day no one elses x

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- CommentAuthorhigginszajac
There is nothing to stop you both having birdcages for your weddings, im sure they wont be the same, as for cherry blossoms maybe somewhere will have them, look it up on the net, we are having real pale blue roses at our wedding, the florists we spoke to said no way would we get them then we saw a guy on bury market selling them and asked him and he said no problem, so thats sorted, good luck xx
- CommentAuthorMrsEminson2B
im pleased it was some help and i am really pleased that you have chosen a theme it will all come together now xx

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- CommentAuthorBlushingbride2b
Thanks girls. There have been some developments with my friend so will prob update at some point. I'm so glad I have come to a decision as it was holding me back. Higginszajac, I have actually found some artificial blossom but I'm not sure on using it alone as it looks very fake whereas foam roses are quite realistic.

I have finally ordered my stds and have gone for a simple design so no need to make sure it all matches exactly. Feel quite excited that I have finally bought something for the wedding even if it is only a small part. Let the planning commence! xxxxxxxxxx
- CommentAuthorMrsEminson2B
you will enjoy every minute of planning I know I am xx

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- CommentAuthorlows
blushingbride2b can I ask a few questions as im a little confused.
1, when is your friends wedding? before or after yours.
2, who was engaged/ started planning first?
3, why are you the only one who is taking her ideas into account? surely if she is a friend it's about give and take and both sacrificing of eachother.

If it was me I would have exactly what you want and what will make you happy. however both themes are lovely and will work beautifully.

Ps. this is why i have avoided talking weddings to my 2 friends and 2 cousins who are getting married this year!! I dont want to know what they are planning and if it turns out to be the same theme or colour so what!! I will have the wedding of my dreams they way I have planned it to be.

xx
- CommentAuthorBlushingbride2b
Hi Lows, lol, no probs.

1. As far as I know she hasn't actually set a date yet, she hadn't even set a year at the time I started planning. I actually posted about this as in a nut shell, I provisionally booked 2 venues both in March and then she told me she was going to book at one of the venues on a date that I was holding. She then asked me to relinquish the date so she could book it. I did this but as far as I'm aware she hasn't done that yet although there is still time. If she does then her wedding will be 3 weeks after mine.

2. I have been engaged for 8 years, I think she's been engaged about 3. I have planned my wedding on and off all this time but have always cancelled for various reasons. She has talked a lot about weddings for the last 6 months but not sure if this is classed as planning since there was no date set. H2B has said for a while that he would like to get married in 2013 s 13 is his lucky number but we initially wanted September but we had to choose March as we have saved money by having our wedding in winter.

3.Um, that is a very good question. I'm a people pleaser I suppose, and I don't want to upset a friend. It's difficult because she's had the advantage of talking openly about her plans for some time. I have liked birdcages for a while when they appeared in a shop about 3 years ago. I didn't realise that the other things I like are classed as vintage until I saw my ideas labelled as such on wedding forums and on google images. There is very much an atmosphere of 'this is what I am doing so you mustn't'. I think I would really just like to plan my wedding how I want it and if there's overlap then so be it. I'm not intentionally 'copying' her anyway.

I had actually settled on the rose theme but i have seen a beautiful dress today which I think is the one and it has blossoms on it, so may rework my ideas if I go for it.

I agree with you on the whole not talking about it. She's just at a major advantage in that she has talked a whole lot about her plans and in her eyes has 'dibs' on it. I'm trying very hard not to take what she will think into account and just go for what will make me happy and give me the day I want. Thanks for the advice, xxxxxx.
- CommentAuthorEcoFreak
Blushingbride2b I remember your other post about the venue and tbh your friend is behaving like a child.
You already handled her venue tantrum far more gracefully than I would have done so please don't avoid having things YOU want for YOUR wedding just because she wants them too. There are other ladies on here who have used birdcages as centrepieces - none of them are moaning at you for wanting them too!
It's very nice of you to be a people pleaser but when it comes to your wedding you need to make sure you prioritise pleasing yourself & your h2b - NOT your friend.
Your day your way! :D Xx

Ps - I love the idea of combining themes. The cherry blossom cakes & stationary posted earlier were gorgeous :)
- CommentAuthorEcoFreak
Also the way you describe her as "at a major advantage" makes it sound like she's making you feel your weddings are a competition - perhaps stop telling her anything at all about your wedding?
Each of your weddings will look completely different overall, even if there's a few items that are similar - don't let her make you sweat the small stuff :) Xx
- CommentAuthorlows
hey blushingbride2b, thanks for answering my questions has really helped me to understand your situation.
If she has not booked the date in the venue you GAVE her then why the HELL did she pull such a tantrum over it?
as for the theme I would go with what ever makes you happy and the beauty of vintage and roses and cherry blossom is that they are so versitile and really work well together. vintage is all about mix and match and quirky so even if you had the same general theme as your friend they will look totally different.
btw does your friend know about this website? if she doesnt then this is your advantage!!!

Also if she tries to talk to you about weddings in the future you just need to very politely tell her that you dont want to know about any details of her day until you turn up at her wedding. And you wont be sharing any of your details with her. then just change the topic of conversation.

xxxxx

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