I paid for our bridesmaid's dresses they were £60 each (as they were just maxi dresses but that's still a £240 out of our budget)
Now 1 of the bms has mentioned a couple of times how its a dress you can wear out for other occasions and how she'll deffinately be able to wear it again, i havent said anything but shes mentioned it a couple of more times now. I did tell them all though that if we paid for their dresses we'd be keeping them after as I was planning to sell them off along with other wedding items. Should i remind them all of this as this was last year now? maybe shes forgotten?
My sister has already said she has no problem with this and she'd proberly buy it off me as she really likes it.
Is it rude of me to expect them to hand back over the dresses after the day? or should they be allowed to keep their dresses.
CommentAuthorPrincess2be
I don't think its rude at all if your paying for them. I'm doing the same. Definately remind her that you need it back to sell, after all if she likes it that much she can do the same as your sis and buy it off you. x
CommentAuthorVelcro
If you've paid for them, and already said you want them back to sell on then maybe she just needs a gentle reminder that no she won't be able to wear it again, unless she's willing to buy it off you for whatever you were planning on selling it for
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
As you aid for them not at all! If she wants to wear it to other occassions then she can buy it off you if not get it back and sell it
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CommentAuthorShazk
Dont think it rude at all to reminder her that this is ur intention at all if this is what was planned all along and like toehrs and ur self ahve said she can always buy it back from you if loves it that much xx
No, I don't think it's rude at all, maybe she's pulling a bit of a fast one and is after a freebie dress? Just say, well, you can buy it off me after the wedding! Xx
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Like the others have said, just tell her you have paid for them and would like to sell them after, but if she is willing to pay for hers then she is more than welcome to keep it.
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CommentAuthorSamanthaG76
Reading the title i did think it was rude but after reading that you paid for them and told them at the beginning that you expected them back then i dont think it's rude at all. I'd definately remind her and suggest her buying it off you x
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CommentAuthorMrsbayliss2B
I agree, it's not rude, if u told them before hand and you paid for them! I told my BM's I will b selling them after the wedding and they totally understood, as the one they choose was much more expensive than some of the others, £50 each more over my budget but they were also the best ones! X I would just remind them all again that you want the dresses back after the wedding, or like samanthaG76 said offer her to buy it off u :-)
CommentAuthorlizzylou
I don't think it's rude. You might find that your bridesmaid felt awkward coming straight out and saying "can i keep it" so is trying to work out whether she can by mentioning wearing it again and judging your reaction. Just say, is it ok if i have it back as i'd like to sell them on. If she really wants she'll offer to buy it off you. i've never assumed i could keep a dress and have always asked after the day "what do you want me to do with the dress" - although my less up front way to ask is to ask "when would be a good time for me to drop the dress off" then the bride can say either bring it or keep it. Don't make a worry of it - just ask. xx
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CommentAuthornatalie2614
No it's not rude at all, especially if its something you've previously told them you were going to do. Stick to the original agreement and just tell her straight x
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CommentAuthorMrsHarrison
It's not rude at all.. You've paid for them (: I'd do the same if I bought my BM dresses, but they're paying for their own so obviously they can keep them anyway. xx
CommentAuthorSam
You paid for them, so in a word no it isn't rude. I'd give them a chance to purchase themselves if they want to keep it.
CommentAuthorRosyF77
I don't think its rude esp as you bought them. Im sure she will understand...maybe she could buy it off you like your sister is doing, too x
CommentAuthorMrs Davro
Not at all. I will be letting the girls keep all their stuff but that is because I'm not spending a fortune on it but if I had of bought expensive dresses and shoes and headbands (they are having jewelry as their present) I would definitely be ebaying them after.
CommentAuthorMrs Davro
I would tell her you need money for it. Maybe let her have it slightly cheaper than you were planning on selling it for. X
CommentAuthorsuzky123
to be honest, we were going to get them back as we paid 300 per dress but then because they all needed altering to fit them perfectly, we just let them keep them. They had knocked a lot of beads and crsytals off anyways so it was more hassle getting them ready for ebay than just giving them them. Also we would have been lucky to get back 30-40 per dress back so they might aswell have them.
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CommentAuthorOWB
edited
I kept my dress after a friends wedding and she was happy to do that as long as I was prepared to go halves on the dress - which I was. Luckily we got the in the sale so they were only £40.
Edited as I hit send early... The point I was making is that if she wants to keep her dress then ask her for a contribution towards it - essentially whatever you think you'd make by reselling them.
