Hi all I need a massive rant and some suggestions please!

Me and H2B are getting married in November leaving us only 5 months to plan! We have been engaged for years but haven't felt we were in the right financial situation (we have now figured out you never are!) so we are only getting our act together now. Originally we were aiming for 2013 because FIL offered us a nice chunk of money but could only give it to us then. It changed from 2013 to 2012 when my parents said they could afford to do it next year then from 2012 to this year when our wedding venue had an amazing deal for this November. I would just like to say that the decision to move the date from 2012 to november happened within a week. I now have the MIL (who doesn't seem that keen on me anyway) whinging that she doesn't feel involved in the wedding and no-one is keeping her updated! As soon as the date was moved we let her know!
She was also unhappy because me and my mum went wedding dress shopping and I didn't invite her but I felt that it was a very personal time for me and my mum and I didn't want anybody else there, she doesn't understand this obviously. MIL is now insisting that she comes to my next dress fitting but I don't know how to tell her that I don't want her there, My own father does not know what my dress looks like and he won't until the day of the wedding. I just want to keep it a surprise =(.
We now have another seperate major issue to deal with because said MIL is splitting from her partner (not my H2B's father) who she has been with for 8 years (so has been in H2B's life since he was a teenager) and FIL is splitting from his partner of 8 years as well and to top it all off MIL and FIL are supposed to be getting back into a relationship with each other! This has raised many issues with whether or not we should invite the step parents because although we would love for them to be there we don't want any frostiness (which will be made worse if H2B's parents do get back together) and if we do invite them where would they sit as they will know no-one else at the wedding! I really do not need this extra stress when trying to plan a wedding in 5 months! Can anyone offer advice?! xxx

Breathe - I am organising my wedding in 5 months is very doable just dont let things worry you do what you and your parent wants and people will kind of work around you. There will alway be someone that is not completely happy xx

Only my mum and my sister have seen my dress, MIL2B is not allowed to see it and was told this from day 1, that it was to be a surprise for everyone. Infact, my in laws to be are not involved in our wedding in any way, they don't seem to like me (not that I particularly care now) and are making waves about the stupidest of things.

Do what is right for you and h2b and tell your family in a very matter of fact way that this is your day :-D

the onlt people who have seen my dress are my friend who was with me when i bought it ... my daughters and my bst friend .

i am not allowing my mother in my room while i get ready .. i want it to be a surprise for everyone

Hi

My partner and I are too Brides, I believe Kims mum has seen her dress, Only my Sisters have seen my dress, BUT obviously not with hair sorted and makeup on, I want that WoW factor with my family as they have never seen me fully prep'd lol .

My mum was a bit peeved but has come around, just now she wont even tell me what colour her dress is, Kim mum (my future MIL) wouldnt even think of going wedding dress shopping with me, She'll go shopping on a normal basis lol

Lol Lala, thats exactly what Im doing re my mum and other guests, As soon as the Hairstylist arrives, then both brides rooms are off limits to everyone apart from, Kims Dad, Bridesmaids, Hairstylist, Makeup and photographer

They will only see us all made up at the ceremony, and that is where i will see Kim for the 1st time ever in a dress and fully made up xx

hi reading this post how glad am i not to have a mil2b, i took my mum and h2b to try on wedding dresses just to get a feel for them and deside which style best's suits me so i could tell my dress maker the style ?(A-line) no1 but me will see the dress b4 the day

Try not to stress.... I would tell your MIL that you want to keep your dress as a surprise for the day! I will only be going with my Mum and I MAY (haven't decided yet) take my bridesmaids along when trying on but not let them know which dress I choose! You only do it once and having your dress be a surprise is really exciting! Surely she must understand this.
As for the step parent situation if you feel that having them there will cause an atmosphere and/or arguements they may end up spoiling your day I wouldn't invite them but if on the other hand you really want them there then invite them and sit them together! :) Good luck hunni - families can be so stressful! xx

everything went fine with the registrar yesterday. We managed to get a copy of his BC on the day so it was a bit of a close call! We have asked his mum as well now about the step parent situation and she says to invite them as her and H2B's Dad are taking things slow...I don't think this is going to make a blind bit of difference as to how the tension will be but there you go. H2B is having a tough time accepting his parents getting back together =( he wants to feel that as long as they're happy he's happy but in reality thats not true. Unfortunatly it is not a situation where he can be open and honest about his feelings with his parents and i can't say anything to them because i'm not meant to know. I am quite annoyed that they have put this on Gav's shoulders and demanded that he didn't tell anyone. Am I being unfair?