hi i am new to the site! i am getting married in june 2012! but i havea really big family and were gypsys and i have always dreamed of a big white gypsy wedding!! but the other half has got that big of a family and said hes think all his family would wanna come to a big gypsy wedding! i have spend so long trying to find a church and now my local church has booked me in!! hes has said that his family disagree with a gypsy church wedding!! and dont him to be with me if i have a big wedding!! i dont no wot 2 do as all my family see it that i have got 2 coz its ran thou all the family!!
thanks hope u can all help u all seam really helpful xxxx
CommentAuthorJane
is there any way you can compromise? have a smaller wedding ceremony and then a big gypsy style party/reception afterwards? Would that keep everyone happy? x
CommentAuthorHoxxyhula
What do his family disagree with? In the nicest possible way it's not really up to his family what you do - just you and him and what you want! x
CommentAuthorHoxxyhula
p. s hello! x
CommentAuthorGoff
If his family are too damned snobbish to come to your wedding, then stuff them.
H2B needs to grow a set of balls and tell them tough titty its what you want!
Sounds harsh, but ffs why should you have to compromise to keep THEM happy? Its YOUR and your H2B's day!
Hello btw x x
UKB Mad Scientist
Ride it like ya stole it.....
I'm a flippin ORTHOTIST
hi and welcome. its you and h2b day so do what suits you both, not anyone else x
CommentAuthorfoxys_daugher
JANEY i have talked about that but his family dont want me have any family at the after doo as they think all we do is fight as thats wot they see on tv!! so i did try to tell the family that they wasnt allowed and that was fine then they say to my family in the town that were just asking for hassle have a gypsy wedding! so i am kinda in between the both!! i have tryed to carry on with wot my family see is the gypsy wedding!!
HOXXYHULA his family thinks that we should move in to a house and have kids then get married!! and all that where my mum and dad see it that i move out on my wedding day and have kids after! so on so on
CommentAuthorfoxys_daugher
GOFF i no they live in a big house and think the sun shines ... and told me that i wasnt a gypsy coz gypsys olny married gypsy!! they told me that a gypsy wedding is tackky!! i do have 2 agree that simon needs 2 grow some!! i have beeen a gypsy all my life i really dont wanna change xxx
CommentAuthorfoxys_daugher
BEE thanks
EVERY1 HELLO
CommentAuthorJane
i think if i was in your shoes I would grab your man and head for a wedding overseas and leave all this hassle behind! x
CommentAuthorfoxys_daugher
JANEY i have said i would i really have been thinking about it!! i think after 4 years of being together we should have been able 2 get on with a wedding
CommentAuthorKerrylou
Hello, welcome and congratulations!!
Sweetheart, he's marrying YOU for who and what you are, if his family are so narrow minded they view Gypsys (I'm a Romany descendant btw) as the stereotypical trash that gets portrayed on TV then he should really be telling them to take a hike. You're HIS choice and his family really need to accept that! I'm with Janey - elope!! ;) xxx
It's right what they say
"The course of true love never runs smoothly"
But if it had been easy then we wouldn't love each other as
much as we do right now - 1 week to go :D
CommentAuthorfoxys_daugher
KERRYLOU thanks i have thou that i mite just make the biggest weddin out of this and tell all of my family that they are welcome and just have a big party!! i couldnt have a big engament party as his family put there nose in and told the hotel where it was ment to be held and they ran up and canceled the whole thing!! they are so posh they wont even come down to the site and wont get in my car!
CommentAuthordebs x
Hi foxy my mate at work is getting married next year and she is a traveller too and their wedding is going to be lovely, really organised well, why dont you try and get his Mum to make suggestions about the wedding, maybe if she is included she will feel better about it, if not then you have to go with what is in your roots and what you want, after all its your day no one elses x
CommentAuthorfoxys_daugher
yet debs i think her prob is that she has been asked to do thinks and then she says thats she cant as it would take to loong no like i have gave her time!! shes a cake maker and she said that she would have time!! xx
CommentAuthorKerrylou
I can't do with people like you in-laws, if it's any consolation my MIL2B has her head so far up her b um that she's forgotten what daylight looks like ;) You do what's right by you and your hubby and the people who care about you, the ones who do will love whatever you decide xxx
It's right what they say
"The course of true love never runs smoothly"
But if it had been easy then we wouldn't love each other as
much as we do right now - 1 week to go :D
CommentAuthorfoxys_daugher
lol i dont think mind no wot day the wedding is!! never mind day light!!
CommentAuthorfee21
do what you and you h2b feel is right not what others want you to do hun.. x
CommentAuthorKerrylou
lol foxys_daughter - there's your problem solved. They don't know what day it is, 'forget' to remind them hehe xxx
It's right what they say
"The course of true love never runs smoothly"
But if it had been easy then we wouldn't love each other as
much as we do right now - 1 week to go :D
CommentAuthorfoxys_daugher
but then wot do i do if she dont turn up
sorry just worried
CommentAuthorvicz2000
Hiya and welcome I would say make sure you get what you want as its your day and your only get one chance to do it xxxx
CommentAuthorshellay
i think a smaller wedding but a really big gypsy reception later sounds great, i am having a smaller wedding but a bigger reception at night, its the same thing but a gypsy wedding instead of traditional x
I have know my soulmate for 27 years and on the 6th August
I married him and became Mrs Garnham.
It was most definitely the happiest day of my life.
I love married life !!!!
CommentAuthorfoxys_daugher
yea omg i cant belive how 1 person can have so much hate for me
CommentAuthorGoff
Anyway.... ill come to your wedding... i like a big party i do and gypsy's have a proper do!
You go for what you want honey and dont turn your back on your roots... be proud of them and show them off to the world! x x
UKB Mad Scientist
Ride it like ya stole it.....
I'm a flippin ORTHOTIST
CommentAuthorfoxys_daugher
thanks i will invite ya
CommentAuthorGoff
awwwwwww bless ya lol. Im sure you'll have MORE than enough guests!
Get up and at em girly and tell them its the way you want it and if they dont like it then tough shite x
UKB Mad Scientist
Ride it like ya stole it.....
I'm a flippin ORTHOTIST
CommentAuthorfoxys_daugher
should do
CommentAuthorLaticschick Holland
You going to have one of those massive dresses foxy? x
CommentAuthorfoxys_daugher
yea i am getting fitting just now not getting married till 2012 but its going 2 take time its silly my dress will weigh 2 times me btw i am a size 4-6 and 5'8 and my dress in about 6-8ft wide
CommentAuthorLaticschick Holland
bloody hell lol. watched that big fat gypsey wedding yesterday, some where huge. it said one that this dress maker made was 27 stone! She was in liverpool this dress maker and was said to be really good x
CommentAuthordebs x
She should really want her son to be happy and she should know that she is spoiling things for him too as well as upsetting you x
CommentAuthorfoxys_daugher
nicos dress makers!!and my wedding is probs like that my dress 2 day she said by the end it will probs b bigger or as big
debs i thing she need 2 leave me a lone
CommentAuthorNHR115
Welcome to the site hun and many congratulations on your engagement. I think the whole situation is absolutely disgraceful and in a way the in-laws are being nothing more than racist!! That may sound harsh but would they do the same if you were marrying a guy with a different skin colour? They should respect your heritage and let you and your H2B have the day you both want!! This makes me mad when people think they have the right to organise someone elses big day. Is it just the MIL2B that is causing the problems hun or is it the whole family? xxx
CommentAuthorfoxys_daugher
its the whole family aprt from the dad!! i have cryed ova the matter 2 nite!!
CommentAuthorNHR115
I know I've said this before hun but stay strong and don't let them get you down (although I know that's easier said than done) xxx
CommentAuthorfoxys_daugher
thanks
CommentAuthormrs pinkalice
hello, congrats and welcome :) your day, your way xx
CommentAuthorcalamity333
thats awful- stick to your guns- compromise where you can but be firm :-)
CommentAuthorfoxys_daugher
thanks
CommentAuthorWinterrose
U know wot I've been reading all the threads n whilst u sound so fed up n hurt by his family as soon as you started talking about ur dress you could hear the excitement in your voice. I think you should go for it hun, have the day YOU want, marry the man of your dreams and don't worry about the in-laws it's for life not just for Christmas so best they just get used to the idea and get over it. After all they've got 2 years til ur big day & you never know they might just start to realise their views are from the dark ages and it's time to get with real life. You'd think they'd just want their son to be happy... I know I would! As for baking the cake if she can't find the time in 2 years to organise 1 hour to make it maybe it's for the best... bet they don't taste that good anyway lol ;) xx
CommentAuthorfoxys_daugher
yea well as i said i dont need her cake and i dont need her there
CommentAuthorMrsB
At the end of the day you get married once to the man you love if you want a big wedding then who are they to say no! Its yours and his wedding not theres you invite who you want.
At the end of the day who are you marrying them or him?
I would LOVE a big gypsy wedding they look amazing! Don't compromise with people on your big day xx
x
CommentAuthorMrsd2b
Helooo foxys_daughter & welcome hun, i cant wait to see your dress!! i love massive dresses!!. xxx
CommentAuthorEriksfjord
Hi & welcome to the forum! I also think you should stick to your plans. Your heritage is clearly important to you and there is no reason you shouldn't be able to follow your own traditions and have your wedding the way you want. What does your other half say about it all? If you have been together for 4 years he must know how important this is to you and I guess must have also know this would be what you wanted. I think his parents behaved disgracefully by causing your engagement party to be cancelled - they are not interested in thier son's happiness! Are you parents supporting you with your decision? I really hope you can work this out but if not, no-one will be forcing them to come so it will be thier choice in the end - so it comes down to whether they will want to miss thier son's wedding or not! Good Luck xxx
CommentAuthorfoxys_daugher
eriksfjord: my family are really good as they no that i have done every thing by the rules ie no sex and all that i am the olny girl in the family and yes its up 2 them
CommentAuthorRoxii
Well this is how I see it.. you've just said you're from a gypsy family and H2B knows this, and still wants to marry you.. He should know how weddings work within the travellers community! So.. He had already agreed to that and now he's changing his mind because of his family!
Well, if I was you I would personally tell his family, that it is none of their business and if they wont come to your wedding, then tough! And carry on planning like you were! It's Yours and H2Bs day, no one elses!
Hello btw, welcome to UKBride.. :) x
CommentAuthorRelfy
welcome to the site foxys and congrats on your engaggement. i think you should sit down with h2b and discuss and agree on what you both want for your wedding. one you have agreed, unite together and tell everyone what you are having and tell them if they dont like it then get stuffed!!!! Your roots are clearly a problem for his narrow minded parents, have they even met your family to be able to judge them???? Just becasue your a gypsy it doent mean that you are any differnt from them. in fact you probably have more money then them and seen much more of the world then they have!!! What ever you do, never change to please anyone. your man obvioulsy loves you for you and that should be enough for his parents................. im not being funny, but if they believe all of the sterotype of a gypsy, why an earth are they causing trouble with you lol x x good luck sweetie x x
CommentAuthorShellster90
Welcome hun and Congrats on your engagement!! :)
One thing I always stand strong in is that your wedding is YOUR wedding and sodd what every body else says.. Just because your a Gypsy dosn't mean your wedding is going to be the same as all other gypsies.. so how can they say it's going to be tacky??
Your you and your h2b loves you for those reasons so why should you have a wedding that isn't you??
If his family are being pathetic and not wanting to see their own family get marries for that reason then in my opinion their not much good family at all!! :)
Hope you decide on something you both love!! :) xx
CommentAuthorAshlie-Louise
chick, its ur's n ur fella's day, no one has the right to dictate to you what to do and how to do it. do what feels right for you both! if his family dont want to come, they dont have to. its just plain rude of them to dictate who u can and cant invite! me n sam (my fella) r talking about everything, rite down to flowers and wedding favours (except my dress, thats secret :P), and deciding what WE want together. Isnt it funny how parents spend all their time telling their kids to act their age, not fight with siblings etc, and then it comes to a wedding and suddenly some people are all "its ur day ... ME ME ME ME ME!" go with ur heart hun.xxx
