hi i am new to the site! i am getting married in june 2012! but i havea really big family and were
gypsys and i have always dreamed of a big white gypsy wedding!! but the other half has got that big of a family and said hes think all his family would wanna come to a big gypsy wedding! i have spend so long trying to find a church and now my local church has booked me in!! hes has said that his family disagree with a gypsy church wedding!! and dont him to be with me if i have a big wedding!! i dont no wot 2 do as all my family see it that i have got 2 coz its ran thou all the family!!

thanks hope u can all help u all seam really helpful
xxxx

What do his family disagree with? In the nicest possible way it's not really up to his family what you do - just you and him and what you want! x

If his family are too damned snobbish to come to your wedding, then stuff them.

H2B needs to grow a set of balls and tell them tough titty its what you want!

Sounds harsh, but ffs why should you have to compromise to keep THEM happy? Its YOUR and your H2B's day!

Hello btw x x

JANEY i have talked about that but his family dont want me have any family at the after doo as they think all we do is fight as thats wot they see on tv!! so i did try to tell the family that they wasnt allowed and that was fine then they say to my family in the town that were just asking for hassle have a gypsy wedding! so i am kinda in between the both!! i have tryed to carry on with wot my family see is the gypsy wedding!!

HOXXYHULA his family thinks that we should move in to a house and have kids then get married!! and all that where my mum and dad see it that i move out on my wedding day and have kids after! so on so on

BEE thanks

EVERY1 HELLO

JANEY i have said i would i really have been thinking about it!! i think after 4 years of being together we should have been able 2 get on with a wedding

KERRYLOU thanks i have thou that i mite just make the biggest weddin out of this and tell all of my family that they are welcome and just have a big party!!
i couldnt have a big engament party as his family put there nose in and told the hotel where it was ment to be held and they ran up and canceled the whole thing!! they are so posh they wont even come down to the site and wont get in my car!

yet debs i think her prob is that she has been asked to do thinks and then she says thats she cant as it would take to loong no like i have gave her time!! shes a cake maker and she said that she would have time!! xx

lol i dont think mind no wot day the wedding is!! never mind day light!!

lol foxys_daughter - there's your problem solved. They don't know what day it is, 'forget' to remind them hehe xxx

Hiya and welcome
I would say make sure you get what you want as its your day and your only get one chance to do it xxxx

yea omg i cant belive how 1 person can have so much hate for me

thanks i will invite ya

should do

yea i am getting fitting just now not getting married till 2012 but its going 2 take time
its silly my dress will weigh 2 times me
btw i am a size 4-6 and 5'8 and my dress in about 6-8ft wide

She should really want her son to be happy and she should know that she is spoiling things for him too as well as upsetting you x

Welcome to the site hun and many congratulations on your engagement. I think the whole situation is absolutely disgraceful and in a way the in-laws are being nothing more than racist!! That may sound harsh but would they do the same if you were marrying a guy with a different skin colour? They should respect your heritage and let you and your H2B have the day you both want!! This makes me mad when people think they have the right to organise someone elses big day. Is it just the MIL2B that is causing the problems hun or is it the whole family? xxx

I know I've said this before hun but stay strong and don't let them get you down (although I know that's easier said than done) xxx

hello, congrats and welcome :) your day, your way xx

thanks

yea well as i said i dont need her cake and i dont need her there

Helooo foxys_daughter & welcome hun, i cant wait to see your dress!! i love massive dresses!!. xxx

eriksfjord: my family are really good as they no that i have done every thing by the rules ie no sex and all that
i am the olny girl in the family and yes its up 2 them

welcome to the site foxys and congrats on your engaggement. i think you should sit down with h2b and discuss and agree on what you both want for your wedding. one you have agreed, unite together and tell everyone what you are having and tell them if they dont like it then get stuffed!!!!
Your roots are clearly a problem for his narrow minded parents, have they even met your family to be able to judge them???? Just becasue your a gypsy it doent mean that you are any differnt from them. in fact you probably have more money then them and seen much more of the world then they have!!! What ever you do, never change to please anyone. your man obvioulsy loves you for you and that should be enough for his parents................. im not being funny, but if they believe all of the sterotype of a gypsy, why an earth are they causing trouble with you lol x x good luck sweetie x x

chick, its ur's n ur fella's day, no one has the right to dictate to you what to do and how to do it. do what feels right for you both! if his family dont want to come, they dont have to. its just plain rude of them to dictate who u can and cant invite! me n sam (my fella) r talking about everything, rite down to flowers and wedding favours (except my dress, thats secret :P), and deciding what WE want together. Isnt it funny how parents spend all their time telling their kids to act their age, not fight with siblings etc, and then it comes to a wedding and suddenly some people are all "its ur day ... ME ME ME ME ME!" go with ur heart hun.xxx

ps welcome to the site x