Hello, I need some advice. We have invited an old work friend to our wedding along with his girlfriend who we also know (but not as well) Well just after the invites went out we found out that they had broken up, and now I have recieved a message from her to say that the reason they broke up is because he punched her and was having an affair with another of our work friends and that she didn't really want to come if they were both coming, but would if we want her.
Now I really dont think a wedding is the right place for all this, and although I want him to come what I really want to do is just message both of them and remove our wedding from there issues that they are having (i.e. uninvite them both) I know this is harsh but the situation they are clearly in now is not nice and I'm worried that my wedding cant be making it any better, also I dont want any upset at my wedding.
What do you all think?
CommentAuthorfee21
i think you must do whats best huni, and if that means removing them both from your list go for it because i agree your special day is not the place for them too start as you don't want your special day ruined and i think they have to respect that too!! xx
CommentAuthordebs x
Thats a really difficult one hon I would tell them all the same thing and that is that because of recent developments within their relationships its probably best that none of them come to avoid any upset to anybody x
CommentAuthorworkingkate
Personally i think its your day and you dont want it ruined by any bad behaviour! The best thing to do hun is uninvite them both and explain that you cant have the akward situation on your day. I would do it asap before its too late. I understand you may want him there but do you really want to risk upset on your big day?! A wedding is neither the time nor the place for trivia like that. The only other thing is uninvite her and just invite your old work friend. xxx
CommentAuthorJane
I agree with debs, you just need to be honest with them and if they are true friends they will understand and wish you well.
If it was me I would let them know your thoughts in a nice plesant way and basically say if you feel this isn't going to be sorted by the wedding then please don't come.. Obviously we would love you to come but we want our wedding to be a happy day with no animosity so please think hard on what is best for our wedding. Etc.. something along those lines. xx
CommentAuthorcandygirl1uk
Thanks guys, I really cant see any other option. I also feel that my invite could be causing them both more grief so I just want to remove us from there issues. I'm going to sleep on it, chat to H2B then send them both a message I think. Yikes talk about DRAMA!
CommentAuthorworkingkate
You'll get it sorted, good luck :-) xx
CommentAuthorCupCake
I think you shouldn't have either of them there, it will save alot of drama for you all! x
Became Mrs Lyons 30th July 2011 x
CommentAuthorgrumpyoldmoo
Good luck messaging them, as someone said earlier if they are true friends they will understand and respect your wishes and fears that the hostility between them may cause on your big day and have the decency to offer not to come without you having to put yourself into the awkward position of having to say to them!
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
yep moo your right , they wont want to cause anyupset if they truely love you candy
