Hi everyone! For my wedding I'm having my two best friends as my bridesmaids/maid of honours and my boyfriends neice as the flowergirl. My partners mam and dad had a bug argument with him yesterday askin why I hadn't asked his sister to be my bridesmaid. Firstly He explained to them that it was my choice Who I wanted for my bridesmaids. And secondly that we couldn't afford anymore. And thirdly that I hardly know his sister and I don't even talk to her only to say hi whenever we see each other which isn't very often. His parents stated that my partner should put his foot down and make me have her as my bridesmaid as she will be the only one not on the top table. I have two brothers who aren't really involved in the wedding so shouldn't I be makin them the best man lmao anyways to cut a long story short! Do I have to have my partners sister as my bridesmaid when I don't really like her anyways lol
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CommentAuthor~feebee~
In a word No!!! ;-)
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CommentAuthor~feebee~
When I first got married my sister wanted to be a bridesmaid/MOH. She enlisted our mum's help to try and persuade me! I had already chosen who I wanted and didn't like her interfering! I wasn't even close to her. I compromised by having my cute little nephew as page boy in a sailor outfit to match ex hubby2b
I hate interfering people!
(I'm having her this time round as we've not got much family left and I see her and talk to her more now)
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CommentAuthorKellyD
Yeh I don't really see the point in having her either. I have her 3 year old daughter as my flower girl anyways and my partner turned round and said well the only way to have he as a bridesmaid would to not make his neice part of the wedding so they weren't best pleased lol. There's always someone who likes to interfere lol they want us to do it the cheapest way possible and don't see the point in me making a big fuss about the day. I just ignore the rest of the stuff they say but that just got to me lolx
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CommentAuthorlisa123
i wouldnt be bullied into having anyone you dont want. my sil2b coped a right strop as i didnt ask her 4 children to be fg's and pb's, his family dont talk to us about the wedding at all, they really are not interested now, and i think thats mainly down to us putting our foot down and doing things our way only. only do what you want xx
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Yeh I will do. I'm not going to give in. To me being a bridesmaid means that your quite close to the bride and are obviously of some importance to her and his sister isn't so she won't be. His parents problies won't speak much about the wedding anymore. They've already said before that they didn't want to come And my partner talked them round. It's no skin off my nose what they do I just feel sorry for him lol x
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CommentAuthortoritots
Blimey, its your wedding at the end of the day! Dont let anyone bully you into things you dont wanna do.
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CommentAuthorOWB
I'm not even having my own sisters!! Why do people feel the need to interfere?! Hopefully they'll settle down as the wedding approaches.
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
i she was a bm she wudnt be on top table anyway??
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CommentAuthorKelly
NO!! its ur day and if you dont like her or get on why have her there? it will only cause you more stress!! your day your choice!!
CommentAuthorstassylang
No! I agree its your day xxx
CommentAuthorEcoFreak
Big fat NO! You get to choose your bm's, they're supposed to be your closest people. Ignore them Xx
CommentAuthorKaya
Difficult one, I said to my hubby I'd ask his sister to be bridesmaid and he said not to. I wanted to include all our siblings as much as poss x
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CommentAuthorRoxy
My h2b's sis is one of my bridesmaids, but we have a friendship, if we didn't I wouldn't have asked her. The way I see it you ask those important to you and who know you well to stand beside you and support you in the biggest commitment you make, and if his sister isn't one of them, then no sorry. How about letting her do a reading or something?
CommentAuthorKellyD
Thanks everyone! I know that's what I said about the top table that even If she was just a bridesmaid she wouldn't be sitting on it haha. I think some people just like to interfere to try and get you to do things their way. They can try all they want but it won't work I've had it planned out what I'm wanting to do for ages lol. They've got a while to get over it so they should hopefully be ok about it by the time comes. Fingers crossed :D x
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CommentAuthorGoldiepostie
you shouldn't feel pressured in to doing anything you don't want to do. Bridesmaids are your choice and yours alone. I hate when parents try and put their foot down like they've got some god given right to have their say!! NO - only when you're asked.
Your wedding day is about the 2 of you and no one else, it's as simple as that! Stick to your guns, i make you right!
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CommentAuthorliannegoodwood
Its your big day and your choice, dont feel pressured into something you dont want x Like Roxy said, there is alway the option to involve her by asking her to do a reading, or something? That way she isnt being 'left out' and you dont have to have her as a bridesmaid lol I never realised how much family politics was involved in organising a wedding haha x
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CommentAuthorAngie1985
Hi Kelly
Oh God, I know how you feel.
When myself and Dave got engaged in July 2011 his brother was livid as he met a girl a year before and was planning on getting engaged to her in August 2011 (which he did) we were then infomred that we could not have ouur wedding in 2013 as this was taking all the attention away from Dave's brother (I was soewhat bemused at this as I was not going to get married on the same day or month as them)
We were then infomred to book our wedding abroad as this would be better, chose a destination etc to then be told that his mum and dad could not afford it.
Anyhow to cut a long story short I decided I would have my dream wedding and I would be nice and wait until 2014 but although my situation is not exactly the same as yours I know how you feel.
I feel like dave's family constantly dictate thier opinions and what they say should go. I am having to have his sister as a bridesmaid also, not that i want to but to save any arguments and Dave getting hurt I have just went along with it.
I thought it was just me who was in this kind of situation :-I
I hope it all works out and I know that pople say you should not feel pressured but I have just opted to go along with it to save the peace. Might be the easy way out but I figured it was the best option for me as I did not want to have Dave dealing with anymore arguments
Hope you manage to come to a conclusion
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CommentAuthorkrissy905
i think daves brother needs to grow up angie so he was planning on gettting engaged first big deal dave aske you first so why do you have to wait for you wedding. your a lot better then me i would have told them all to bog of and booked my wedding for when i wanted it not when his family said it was ok.
good luck sounds like you will need it with the in laws lol
xx
CommentAuthorKellyD
Oh god Angie I can't believe they told you to wait because his brother wanted his first. I hope you get everything sorted and it all goes ok :D
I've never known anything like families, you can never please them all there's always someone who wishes to voice their opinions and dictate what you should do ain't they.
I've just found out that my partners mam had his dads sister as her bridesmaid as she was made to and she hated her lol and she didn't like it and also that his dad had his brother in law as his best man as he wasn't close to his brother. So you think that they of all people should understand why I'm not having their daughter lol I dunno just all daft haha.
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CommentAuthorAngie1985
Aw I know Krissy and Kelly. I should be big enough to say its up to me but rather than have any more arguments I thought just leave it. Very immature of them to tell me where when and how I should have it (more or less) Completely understand your situation though Kelly it is a nightmare however do what I should have done, tell them to mind their own business. Its your wedding day not thiers. Thats what I should have done..... still have plenty time for all that to come mind you ;-)
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CommentAuthorLegoWife
Also know the feeling, my mum and my aunt have both told me my cousin wants to be a bridesmaid. I rarely see them and I'm not close to my cousin who's 16 and I'm 24. Not going to happen.
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CommentAuthorClareS
it's your day have who you want. I'm having sister and moh, friend and neice as bm. I've not chosen sil2b as she always ends up being the centre of attention and whatever the family do always seems to evolve around her. So I've not asked her on purpose. We do get along ok but she really does take the wee wee sometimes. I am however thinking of getting her to do a reading so for a short time at least she will have everyones attention and have to say something kind of nice lol x
CommentAuthorMadam Butterfly
NO! and how big does his Mum think the top table is? x
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CommentAuthorKellyD
Yeh a Reading should be fine for her to do and if she don't want to do one then that's up to her. Yeh they must think the top table is huge. If I put all his family and my family on the top table it would be a mile long, ther'd be no other tables in the room haha! I'm just gona let them bicker amoungst themselves cos I ain't goin to change my mind lol x
