help i need advice my other halfs parents cant stop interfiring in our wedding? Help i need advice to find out what top do? Please help x
CommentAuthorIgnition
Your doing better than me, my in-laws nor my parents are interested. Be honest and upfront and tell them to back off. That you want to do things your way. But put it a bit nicer than that. LOL!! xx
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CommentAuthorlili1988
Try tellin them that you are thrilled that they are interested but u know what you want, but would like their opinion when u do it. Maybe you could ask them to be incharge of one area (eg cars) so they still feel involved but arent in ur face - this is especially a nice thing 2 do if they are giving u cash towards it, and keeps them quiet if they aren't.
Hope that helps xx
CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
I don't have interfering in-laws, but I do have interfering parents and sister. Don't back down on the bits that are important to you (like the dress, the ceremony, etc) and surrender the bits you're not that fussed about so they feel like they're involved. In other cases where they can't do anything about the choice you make, just nod politely and then do whatever you want (that's how I ended up dealing with my sister... although the result was her no longer caring about the wedding- she's hasn't even bought her own dress yet, but I'm sure your in-laws are a little bit more mature)
CommentAuthorsbride
I had huge problems with my in laws, from them telling me I had to have paul's sister as BM, then telling me the sisters boyfriend had to be usher, then his dad telling us all the money we was spending was silly and we should just go down the pub after the ceremony for a drink, then to this brother dropping out as best man. It got so bad we all ended up having a huge bust up as I wouldnt stand for their rubbish anymore. Dont let it get bad like I did. Tell them from the start, that you are doing things your way, and if you want their input you will ask for it. I ended up not talking to his family for 6 months! The first time I see them after 6months was on the wedding day. I completely runied the build up. Nip it in the bud now before it gets too bad.
Its gonna be as simple as telling them that its YOUR wedding and you will be deciding how things will be done. And that if you want their opinion you will ask them for it!
CommentAuthorMrsCaitiClarke
Couldn't agree more FutureMrsClarke! Although my MIL having been mega enthusiastic and wanting to pitch in and help is now completely uninterested. Me and H2b had a little row last time we were there and she took him to one side and asked if he thought he was doing the right thing. Luckily he told her to p*** off and mind her own business! Why are they always such nightmares?!
I can't wait to marry the love of my life - 28/04/2012
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
Hun please use the seach tool ...you will find lots of thread on the problems brides have had
My MIL has been really helpful going to wedding fayres, buying us wedding items and coming with me to find my dress. I had n issue with my own mum to begin with when we said were weren't having our reception in a hotel but my venue is stunning & in Leeds city centre where there loads of hotels. Her reason was she may need n afternoon nap n a place to change!! She also lives 15 mins from town too!! I basically told my mum that i appreciated her opinion however it was my n the h2b's wedding and we would make all the decisions as we were paying for it n not her. Since then we have not had any more problems n I hope the nxt 12mths go smoothly too : )
CommentAuthorOct12bride86
I have the complete oppsite problem... No one is interested and people are dropping out going already and thats before the invites have been made let alone sent out....
My H2B granny stuck her nose in slightly and moaned about the price of things .... I just stopped telling her lol she cant moan if she doesnt know lol.... she would flip if she knew it was costing over £10000... she said £4000 was too much lol...
Kirsty xxx
Was 14 st now 11st 10lb
CommentAuthormummy2Olivia_Lisa
speaking from a very bad experience of a not so smooth wedding day..............
tell them to back off!!! dont leave it, warn them its ur day n not to interfer n if they dont like it they dont hafta come!! seriously hunny dont just leave it or it could esculate to the day. x
6 n a half weeks scan!!!!!! x x x
CommentAuthorBex
I've been really lucky, both my mum and my MIL2b have been great, they have offered advice but not stuck their noses in, helped me go dress shopping, are helping me out with the wedding funds and yesterday my MIL2b gave me a wedding planner which is great as it is all split into sections and has info to guest addresses, gifts you have received to your dress measurements - very useful xx
CommentAuthorKimi
My mother in law has been paying towards things and has helped out but she also keeps making decisions. I just let her get on with it and do it my way regardless. haha.
I know part of the reason she's so pushy is because it gives her things to do as she's stuck at home so I can put up with it. Tbh if there was something I really don't agree with I do tell her.
