Hey Ladies.

I did a wee post on the newbies bit saying I was back but it was from my phone so didnt have much on it!

Since I can not sleep and there is snoring in my ear I decided to get up and am now on the laptop!

Some of you may remember me from a year or so ago.

There was a lot of ups and downs and it just wasnt great!
My ex and I split up for good in October 2011.
He hadnt been working for almost a year and I was working non stop to keep us going and trying to save for a wedding (which lets face it I knew wasnt gonna happen!!).
His granny - who brought him up so he called mum, was diagnosed with terminal cancer and he went into a complete state of denial. He would not accept the fact that his mum was seriously ill.
I had gone through the same thing with my aunt the year before so knew what he had to be going through and tried to stick it through but it was clear that there was nothing I could do.
He got angry and aggressive about everything and actually at one point made me feel like crap about my situation with my aunt!
I had my 16 year old cousin living with me for a bit at the time and things got out of hand when we had an arguement so I told him to leave! I was worried because if he could be like he was with her in the flat, what would he have been like if it was just me!!!

He was back and forth to the flat to pack some boxes and get things while he was in a hostel and each time was an a***!
The last time I allowed him into the flat he was "packing" a box. I put a box out side the door as he was supposed to be taking them with him and he took it back in the flat, even though it was completely full.
I told him he was leaving it and I was making room as I was tripping over these boxes!
I picked another one up and he picked up one of the vases I had been painting for the wedding and he told me that if i didnt put the box down he would smash it as there was no point in having it anymore as there wouldnt be a wedding!!
I dont know what happened next but the box went flying out my hands! I dont know if he went to push me or tried to grab it form me but it went rolling down the steps and he went mad saying I had done it on purpose and smashed the vase!
My ex was a big guy but some how I had the strength (adrenaline is the only answer) and throw him out the door!!!
Almost the second I had it shut he was texting me askin to come back in coz he needed the toilet! I wasnt that daft he just wanted an excuse to come back in, he even left one of his boxes as an excuse to come back to the flat!
This did not happen as I got my brother and his mate to get a van and take everything he left up, and all the furniture his mum had bought us (even though with the lack of rent and bills he was paying i was quite entitled to keep it I wanted no excuse for him to come back)
His mum passed away on the 28th of Nov 2011 which I went to the funeral and on the 29th of Dec 2011 I went to drop the last box of things I had found and maybe to talk to him about the situation, he didnt want to so I walked away, as I walked away he asked me to go back so I turned round and asked him what he wanted to talk about and he said nothing, he just stood there, so I walked away again and he screamed a whole load of abuse at me and slammed his door shut! From that day he has on various occasions text me, like my birthday, when my new man and i go together and the aniversary of his mum death. I have not once been in touch with him as I do not want him in any aspect of my life ever again! This man brought me down and put me in debt!!!

Well that is enough of the bad and depressing! On to the new, good and happy!!!!!

In February 2011 I was quite down, recently single, my cousin had moved out and my best friend had just moved away, but this was also when I got in touch with an old friend, he was friends with a boy I was seeing back in 2008.
We were friends for some time but lost touch when my ex and I got together as they didnt really get on.
In the may I had mentioned I wanted to see a film and he said he would go with me. After that night I said if there was any films he wanted to see let me know and we could go together.
We then went out for an icecream a couple of weeks later and ended up going round the ruins of Slains Castle in Cruden Bay (Dracula's Castle in the book) We then decided we would go round the old ruins of castles together. We worked out that the weekends I didnt work were the same weekends he didnt have his two sons, meaning we were both free so this worked out veryt well for us!
We spent alot of time together and there was one week that we went out with a mutual friend who had just recently split from her husband and was going out a lot so we decided to keep an eye on her so she didnt make a drunken mistake! Well we got quite drunk that night and one thing lead to another :S!!
He then booked a night away for us, a surprise he said and well he wouldnt tell me anything about it!!
I didn't want him thinking that he was just going to get me on a plate because he was taking me away etc, the week before the weekend away I was having an IUS fitted - which gets checked after 6 weeks to make sure it is still in place! - I told him that I couldnt have sex in that 6 weeks until I had it checked - this is not the case but I kind of wanted to make sure he was worth it and if he would wait or if he thought after our drunking night I was a sure thing. His response was the most romantic thing ever!
He said - "That's ok I am fine with just lying in bed cuddling" - that was it I was smitten!
Our weekend came and he took me to Stirling Castle!
We then Stayed in a castle!! I was a proper princess that weekend!!!!
When we pulled up to the castle and got out the car I was speechless! I threw my arms around him and gave him a kiss and actually had to stop myself from saying " I Love You!"

It is weird but now it seems that everything that happened to me in the year before happened to someone else! It feels like Stu and I have been together this whole time and none of the things I have written above about my ex actually happened!

There are no plans on us getting married yet but the other week he decided that we should go to the wedding exhibition to see our friend who had a stall there and we ended up spending 2hours there going round all the stalls!!!!!

Just thougt I would pop on and let the ladies who remember me know that I am doing fine!!!!!!!

Congratulations and Good Luck to all Brides and Grooms to Be!!!

Claire
xxx

Sorry about your ex but I suppose everything happens for a reason! Glad you are now happy! I suppose that's all that matters! Good luck for your future xxx

Sad to hear what happened with your ex, but everything happens for a reason and your new man sounds great. Glad you're happy again :)

Brilliant news about your better situation x

Glad things are looking up for you. This one sounds like a keeper he treats you like a princess :) xx

Thanks ladies!
We may not have any wedding plans as yet but I know it isnt out of the question!
I am planning on popping on now and again for/with advice and a nosey on how plans are going amd hopefully will be on planning in the near future xxx

So glad to hear that out of everything you've endured came this beautiful relationship! Hope to see you on here :)