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    • MrsBull2B
      CommentAuthorMrsBull2B
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Aug 6th 2014
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    Hi Guys,

    Not been on here for a couple of months. I lost my job, and it was my wages that were paying for our wedding. We have paid deposit for the church, and my dress is paid for and is to be picked up this week. because of the job loss it makes makes it nigh on impossible to have the wedding we wanted originally, but I got thinking that the day itself isnt about the amount of money you spend or what decorations yo have on the table or the theme etc its about the bride and groom and the vows they say to each other. Anyway I have suggested to my OH keeping our date, and reducing the numbers, nd just booking out a restaurant for during the day then have a big party on the night and just tittivate the room up a bit. But he said no, he would rather wait til we can do it 'properly' What is properly??. So pissed off and annoyed and upset, hes now just said its just a bit of paper and we can wait a few years for a bit of paper. I still dont have a job, but hes starting uni as a mature student next month and im waiting to hear back to see if ive got a part time place at college.

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    • KatieH
      CommentAuthorKatieH
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Aug 6th 2014
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    Aww hon I'm so sorry. Men don't think before they speak sometimes. Hopefully you will find a job soon and have the wedding you want xx

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    • KatieH
      CommentAuthorKatieH
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Aug 6th 2014
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    Also you never know, he might come round to the idea of a smaller wedding xx

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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
      CommentAuthorWelshBrideBethan2015
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Aug 6th 2014
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    *BIG HUGS*
    Firstly good luck on the job hunt
    Secondly like Katie said maybe he will come around to a smaller wedding from what we can see you do still have a few months until the date x

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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Aug 6th 2014
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    Oh sweetie I'm sorry. It's so frustrating when people don't get what it means. It sounds like you need to sit down and explain to him exactly why it's so important to you to be his wife, and why that's more important than the big day. Maybe even write it down.

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    • MrsBull2B
      CommentAuthorMrsBull2B
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Aug 6th 2014
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    There is a very small chance we might be able to have it next year still as I have just started a claim for an accident I had a couple of weeks ago, but dont want to rely on that too much just in case it doesnt pan out they way my solicitor wants it to! I am also thinking about selling my dress (it just cost me 850 quid brand new) to put a deposit down on a different venue maybe for 2016. What do people think? x

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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
      CommentAuthorWelshBrideBethan2015
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Aug 6th 2014
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    I think it's something that can only really be decided with you and your OH hun x

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    • ErinV
      CommentAuthorErinV
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Aug 6th 2014
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    I wouldn't make any rash decisions hun, sit down and talk it through with h2b. Perhaps look at what means the most to both of you with regards to the wedding and what you could do without, then do your sums and take it from there.
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    • Scottishbride2016
      CommentAuthorScottishbride2016
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Aug 6th 2014
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    Sorry to hear that you lost the job . Maybe your hubby to be wants you to wait and have the big wedding that's he thinks you want and deserve and by having small wedding that you are missing out . I would wait a little while then talk to him again . Xx

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    • AmandaK74
      CommentAuthorAmandaK74
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Aug 6th 2014
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    Aww sorry to hear about your situation I feel so gutted for you. However things may take a turn for the better.
    I agree with the others, dont go making big rash decisions just yet. I take it you didn't get wedding insurance?
    It may all work out in the end... fingers crossed for ya x

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    • MrsBull2B
      CommentAuthorMrsBull2B
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Aug 6th 2014
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    we didnt get insurance as the only thing we had paid for or put deposits on was our rings, (I got my deposit back for that and transferred it to his ring and paid it all off so we now have his wedding ring) church and my dress, the reception venue is the local rugby club where OH plays, they are like family there so havent had to put a deposit down, but Ive told them that if they get an enquiry for our date and someone has the deposit there and then to pay then just to take it as I dont want them hanging on and losing out if we arent able to stick to the date x

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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
      CommentAuthorWelshBrideBethan2015
      Got married 5 years ago
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    Defo try and sit down with your H2B and discuss everything and at least then you will know when to aim for wedding if it's next year or 5 years x

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Aug 7th 2014
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    Sorry to hear about your situation! At the end of the day, the most important thing is the bride and groom and the vows you say to each other! I think an intimate, more low-key wedding sounds fab and you would have an amazing day.. but on the other hand, I also get where your H2B is coming from. We could have probably got married a while ago if we didn't want our day to be so perfect i.e. everything we have dreamed of and everything we don't want to compromise on. We will have been engaged 4 and a half years by the time we get married which would have given us the time to save up for everything we want. Without sounding harsh, just because you have had a change of heart doesn't mean your H2B should automatically have a change of heart too. It's important that he respects your feelings but you also need to do the same back.

    You definitely need to sit down with each other and discuss it in depth. Hope you work something out :) xx

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    • Teresa
      CommentAuthorTeresa
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Aug 7th 2014
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    So sorry this is happening to you

    I hope you find a job soon, hopefully that will help,I agree with everyone that says sit tight for now,who knows what's round the corner,if you go ahead you can save money in all sorts of ways
    Big hugs x
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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Aug 7th 2014
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    It really depends on what means most to each of you, to be husband and wife sooner rather than later, or to have a big formal wedding. I would be miffed if H2B said it was just a bit of paper. Also it depends on whether you want kids, whether you want that to happen after you are married, and how old you are. I've had to remind my H2B when we've talked about the timescale for upsizing to a house where we would have room for children that I will be 32 when we marry, and I only have a few years to have children. I take it family can't help out?

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    • Scottishbride2016
      CommentAuthorScottishbride2016
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Aug 7th 2014
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    You could have smaller relaxed wedding then when you both have more money re new your vows and do it the way you want to xx

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    • MrsBull2B
      CommentAuthorMrsBull2B
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Aug 7th 2014
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    We have had a tak about it, we have compromised on numbers, taking it from 50 to 38 during the day, which means that instead of having all the decorations in a function room, we can hire a restaurant at the rugby club and just put a few tea lights etc on the table, and take off the table wine. So its still going ahead with a few compromises :) xx

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
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    Glad you have sorted it out :) xx

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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
      CommentAuthorWelshBrideBethan2015
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    So pleased you have come to a compromise and it's all going ahead :) x

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    • CharlotteE98
      CommentAuthorCharlotteE98
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    Glad it's still going ahead :o)

    Best of luck with the job search xx
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    • KatieH
      CommentAuthorKatieH
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Aug 8th 2014
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    Really pleased that you've sorted things. Good luck with the job search x

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    • Velcro
      CommentAuthorVelcro
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Aug 8th 2014
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    oh thats good news, glad you have managed to reach a compromise :) good luck planning! xxx

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    • *KelBel*
      CommentAuthor*KelBel*
      Got married 6 years ago
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    Oh no!! I actually think your idea sounds great, you don't have to spend lots of money at all xx

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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
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    That's great news. It doesn't have to be a huge expensive wedding as long as you are happy.

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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Aug 9th 2014
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    Glad you've sorted things. Like you say, it's about you and h2b and your vows to each other, not how much money you spend on decorations. Hope everything works out for you and you can still have the day you both want. Good luck job hunting too x

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    • MrsBull2B
      CommentAuthorMrsBull2B
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Aug 11th 2014
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    Ive applied for loads of jobs past few days, my mam is going to help out with the decorations, we are going to have a look about closer to the time, and Im only having a maid of honour, instead of the 5 bridesmaids, Ive found my MOH dress on the bay for 30 quid :) x

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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
      CommentAuthorWelshBrideBethan2015
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Aug 11th 2014
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    Bargain !
    Glad you have help and that will help with costs :)
    Good luck job hunting :)x

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Aug 11th 2014
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    Love a bargain! Do you have a photo you could share? :)

    Good luck with the job hunting x

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    • TanyaS78
      CommentAuthorTanyaS78
      Got married 5 years ago
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    Good luck with the job hunt hun. Im sure you will be able to work something out with the wedding, sounds like the compromises are working so far with the OH :)
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    • MrsBull2B
      CommentAuthorMrsBull2B
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    Bridesmaid dress :-)

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 7 years ago
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    Just read your thread. Glad it's sorted out and good luck with job hunting x

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    • MrsBull2B
      CommentAuthorMrsBull2B
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    Thank you :) x

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
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      Posted: Aug 12th 2014
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    Oh lovely dress, really pretty x

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