My h2b totally shocked me yesterday! Basically his mum was going to get us a personal reg for our wedding gift, but theres none out there for "Moore" that we like!!! And we were talkin about it yesterday and he just said "well i was thinking about taking your name" I said "wudnt ur mum be upset" and he went "its not my mums surname" Basically his mums surname is Cheng or something like that, but she obv married my h2bs dad and became "Moore" They divorced when my h2b was 3 but she is still "Mrs Moore" His dad passed away 2 years ago and my h2b doesnt speak to any of his dads side of the family cos basically they let him pay for all the funeral costs, gettin him in debt (sorry background info) He gets on with my dad soooooooo well and my dad even calls him son now. So for him to want to take our name is just amazing!!!!!
Now I know this isnt traditional, but whats everyones thoughts on it?
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Happily Married! :) xxx
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
That sounds brill! I think your names are an important part of your identity- and it sounds like your surname is a part of the identity he wants. So go for it!
I believe you'll have to change it by deed poll.
Now a extremely happy German housewife and now a Mother!!!!
Islay Jean born 24th June in Hannover.
CommentAuthorbabycham79
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awww thats lovely of him wanting to change to your name x
CommentAuthorFordie
The ultimate commital!!! ;) Ask any bloke if they would be prepared to give up their 'identification', the name they've been known by all their life, and majority will say no....at least the blokes I know do, before I cause uproar lol. My partner point blank refused, even though I never expected or wanted him to do it, I asked him to see if he was willing to do it. I'd read an article in a magazine by a relationship expert about men expecting women to 'cross over', without really thinking about how it might feel to do so bla bla bla..I blagged h2b for years, that when we evntually got married, I refused to take his name, as he hadn't even given it a thought. I only realised recently, that he actually felt quite saddened by that , bless him. In reality, I am taking his name, as I've never really felt like I've ever 'belonged' to a surname anyway (personal circumstances), but would have loved it if he would have said that he would definitely consider my surname. xxx
CommentAuthormrs pinkalice
sounds good to me! how do you feel about not changing your name? im quite looking forward to getting a new name lol x
Im alright with it actually - it sounds silly but becos of how much i hate my MIL2B i would rather be Mrs Ross (like my mum) then have the same name as her! x
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CommentAuthorrainykins
MY h2b is taking my surname aswell nicola, mainly as he has his ex-wifes surname at the moment, and he doesn't really get on with his own family that well. We know that after our hols in august, he will have to go see a solicitor and have his name changed by deed poll, before we can book the registrar to get married. Although if he wanted to become mr badger instead of mr morris, i would be fine with that, i'm marrying him for him not so much what his surname is :)
CommentAuthorwelshcerys
Mike would like to keep both our names and hyphenate them so we would be Mr & Mrs Morgan-Williams but personally I dont really like hyphenated surnames so I will be taking his and we will be Mr & Mrs Williams!
Plus Morgan (my surname) would be a nice christian/middle name for a child (should we decide that we will want them!) so we will probably do that
CommentAuthorKesha
Thats lovely of him, My surname is double barrelled so we had the whole 'what do I do with my name' conversation. I am the only person with my surname in my family and thought it would be lovely to start a whole family with that surname but actually I wouldnt feel married lol, so I am dropping both surnames and taking h2bs surname.
CommentAuthorJoolsy
Aww I would love for Hubby to take my name rather than taking his name. This is the part i'm finding the hardest to get my head round I love my wee name but I do want to have the same surname as my H2B but no way he will take my surname!! Thats so lovely Nicola xx
Officially Mrs Julie-Anne Muir
CommentAuthorb2bnicola
Im confused, so does he have to get his name changed by deed pole before the wedding? xx
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CommentAuthorb2bnicola
I had a look on google but im still none the wiser! xx
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CommentAuthorrainykins
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i found this when i was looking for all the information on it nicola, am not sure it will help atall but hope it sheds a little bit on it :)
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the above page is saying about a mans right after marriage and the choices etc and how to go about it, hope it helps :) xx
CommentAuthordebs x
Yes he does my h2b changed his surname by deed poll and when you see the registrar you take your birth certificate and change of name deed too then you get married in his new chosen surname x
CommentAuthorJoolsy
I found this on a website Nicola
There is of course no reason why your husband should not change his name to your maiden name upon marriage. If you plan on doing this, you simply continue using your maiden name after marriage. However, your husband will need to take additional steps to change his name.
Most simply, your husband can just start using his new name after your marriage. However, if he wishes to get all his records and documents changed without any problems or delays (for example, his passport and records such as income tax, national insurance, bank and building society accounts), he should execute a change of name by Deed Poll (see footnote below).
will post the website on your wall xx
Officially Mrs Julie-Anne Muir
CommentAuthorb2bnicola
Oooook read that website... im still a lil bit confusled.....
So he changes his name by deedpole before the wedding? So he wud sign his name on the wedding day? Does it matter if his passport is still in his old name for the honeymoon?
Apparently if im changing to Mrs but not changing my surname i dont have to do anything other than send my marraige certificate out to the people that need to know!
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Happily Married! :) xxx
CommentAuthorb2bnicola
cheers Joolsy :) xx
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CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
I don't think it matters whether its done before or after. But if you want the same name on honeymoon, it would probably be before so he can order his new passport.
Now a extremely happy German housewife and now a Mother!!!!
Islay Jean born 24th June in Hannover.
CommentAuthorb2bnicola
Well we've booked it in our current names, so i dnt think we'll be changing our names for the honeymoon - just taking the certificate with us to show them :) xx
Happily Married! :) xxx
CommentAuthorTrasaD
Bumpety bump:) xoxox
CommentAuthorTeresaC54
I did this the first time I got married 20 years ago, sadly we got divorced and he remarried....keeping my name......his new wife and their kids now have my name O_o !!! So, I will definitely be changing mine to his this time!
