We never really discussed stag/hen nights until we were out with my mum and some of her friends, and the men started talking about what my OH wanted to do for his stag. They started joking and trying to wind me up saying they were going take him on a week long bender around the UK and over to Amsterdam and take him in less than reputable places etc etc. Which got me to thinking about what he would actually want to do. And he said nothing, he doesn't see the point in celebrating his last day as a "free man" because he can't think of a happier day than the day he marries me and he doesn't see it as the end of his freedom (I know he's so cute!). Problem is this has started a bit of an issue with my mum's friends who think that he has to do something, and now really do want to take him out to get drunk and go to strip clubs and gambling etc etc. I'm sure I can handle them and keep them off his back without a problem, but I was just thinking, shouldn't he really have a good night out with his mates, not to celebrate his last night of freedom, but to celebrate getting married, the start of a new chapter? I'm sure I'll go out with my friends at some point to celebrate that I'm getting married. Should I push the issue or just leave it be? Just seems a little sad that he wont get a night out, especially as he works so hard and his friends are so spread out that they dont all get together often, seemed like it would have been good for them all. Hmm...
CommentAuthorweemindyxx
hey hun i was a bit the same my h2b best man kept putting of arrangement for the stag do and my h2b said he wasnt bothered about a stag do, and i said to him but you have to have one i didnt want him years down the line thinking to himself what did i do for my last night and do nothing special, by the time his best man got his finger out it was to short notice for my dad, brother, his dad and brother in law to be able to go so its just him and a couple of friends but at least he is getting to do something they are going go karting then going to a few pubs.xxx
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I think it's just personal choice, I think it would be nice to have one to get his friends together but I don't think it's a major issue if he doesn't want one,there's lots of brides on here not that bothered about a hen do, so think the rule can apply to the men as well? Xx
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
My hubby was the same, said he was not having one as he could not afford it. His brother who was the best man did not organise anything for him so I told him that I was having a 'at the house hen night' as I had already had mine, and he was to go out with his friends. I even purchased all the stuff for him to take out and wear.
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
He doesnt have to do a big night out, my h2b wont as he doesn't like them. Instead he is going to go paint balling or something of the like and then go for a curry and a couple at the pub after. Not the typical stag but it is something he will enjoy and in his eyes he is still celebrating getting married. Could he not do something like that instead? xxx
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My h2b was the eexact same and said he doesn't want a stag night but has now decided he wants to go to a gig wwith some friends and have a beer or two so small but still marking the occasion x
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CommentAuthorKistHall
Yeah that's what I suggested, doing something more to his taste that will fun with his friends, but I think he's just got this idea of what a stag night is in his head and he's really just not interested in it. I just worry he'll regret it in the future.
CommentAuthorKristina
My H2B doesnt want to have a stag do either at the minute, as his bestman etc dont live where we are. So we are planning to have something together instead.
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CommentAuthorGirl-groom
Rather than celebrating his stag do as a last night of freedom he should look at is as a a celebration of your wedding with his nearest and dearest mates! I'm not a big drinker/party goer so I am going to a zombie apocolypse survival event (zed events) 3 hrs of exciting nightmare! Can not wait!! Was going to go paintballing but I'm a horror fan as are my group of friends that are coming :) Maybe he can do something he has always wanted to do but just needs an excuse :) x
CommentAuthormym72
Tbh it's down to personal choice - and if he doesn't want a stag do then I wouldn't push it.
We didn't have stag or hen nights before we got married - and didn't feel like we'd missed out on anything. My husband's dad and his mates were trying to get him to go to a strip club etc, but he's been there and done that already, years ago with his mates so wasn't bothered about doing it again (especially with his dad lol).
I wasn't bothered about a hen night either - and tbh when we go out we tend to mix with the same friends so it seemed stupid to try and organise two different nights and split the people we drink with.
On the plus side as well, the money we saved on not having these we put into more spending money for our honeymoon (quality time together instead).
CommentAuthorSarah1865red
I've been to a great 'STEN DO' (Stag and Hen). It was fancy dress and your costume had to begin with J or P the couple initials. It was just a night out in London but it was such fun. The coupld decided to do it together as they had the same friendship group and it worked really well.
My h2b is looking forward to his stag do however isn't a big drinker so is thinking of going on a golfing weekend with food and a few drinks in the evenings.
Sarah xxx
CommentAuthorMichelleB507
My OH doesn't want a stag do either but I think he might regret it esp as he recently moved away from his home town and all his mates are there. Don't know what to suggest but a STEN night sounds fab x
