My partner struggling to decide between going for a kilt or a suit. He likes idea or kilt as its something different and he knows non of his family will do it so it will be something different esp as he can have it in his family tartan. But its 7x more expensive than a suit as its not a normal tartan that shops rent out. He also worried that someone will say something on the day and make him feel uncomfortable at wearing a kilt as its not what you'd expect from our families. Suit will be cheaper and will be same colour as groomsmen but dont Think he wants to Fade into background where as kilt means he'll have black jacket and they'll all be in navy blue so not sure if it would go. Any ideas how to get him to decide what to do? As a suit will be a lot cheaper and go with the groomsmen but a kilt is something different :/ x
CommentAuthorMyranny
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I was talking to a lady at work who has been married twice. She had planned to just go with whatever was cost effective and looked good the first time around, and did, as was the sort of thing 20 years ago. Then she got married again 4 or so years ago, and wasn't going to do the whole big white wedding thing. She's glad she did because she got to have the day she really wanted.
So, maybe ask him to try and pretend he's 10 years in the future, thinking back on your wedding and looking at the photos. Tell him to think about photos of him in a suit, matching his groomsmen, like most other men. They will be lovely photos, I am sure, and you will have saved money. Then tell him to think about being in his kilt, standing out, looking awesome I'm sure, but having spent 7x as much. What will he regret more? Blending in to avoid comments and save money, or being different maybe getting a jibe, and spending more money? It's a difficult one.
Could he maybe get a cheapy sort of kilt, and spend the day at home in it to see how it feels being in it all day? That might sway him one way or the other.
How long will it take to order the tartan, has he got a bit of time to decide? xx
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
He asked my opinion but I just say wear whatever u want as its his day as much as mine. If we go for kilt we can't send it back as it will be bought all different places as it works out cheaper than getting them all in one place. He looks lovely in a kilt but at same time I'd love to see him in a suit ( only seen him in one once!) he has a little while to decide yet but I just want to know so can budget for it x
CommentAuthorMyranny
Well, budget for the kilts, and then if he goes with the suit, bonus :) xx
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I think like Myranny says, budget for it, then if he chooses a suit you have extra to spend somewhere else.
That's good idea. I was guna try and save the £700 and get him the kilt as a surprise but don't want to spend that amount of money if he not 100% on the idea hmmmm. And I thought picking the dress was going to be hard lol x
CommentAuthormichgib
Save the money for the kilt then let him know when you have it so he can decide and then its not about the budget but what he wants to wear
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
Good idea :) will do that, thank you x
CommentAuthorTheFutureMrsK
Thats a tough one, I'm sure' he'll look smart either way :) Can I ask what kind of tartan it is? I'm just curious is all x
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CommentAuthorTeresa
my dad and brother are both wearing kilts and the rest of the groomsmen are wearing a blue suit, it actually looks really nice, i say go for it, why not be different, after all its good to be different xx
CommentAuthorKirstyR386
Would a tartan waistcoat work as a compromise? He could still have his family tartan and stand out with his different waistcoat as the others but not so much that he worries about it. If you could find the family tartan, a seamstress might be able to make the waistcoat especially for him. X
CommentAuthorRachaelB76
has he been and tried either on yet? maybe go to a shop that has both kilts and wedding suits and try both on properly and see how he feels. cos he might be really comfortable when its all on properly or might prefer the suit. Just like the dress you dont know until you try x
CommentAuthorLadyJ
I would say go with him and advise once he tried them on - then he will decide better. Simply it might be the case that it doesn't suit or he doesn't feel right in one of them, problem would be solved then.
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CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
It Campbell of argyll tartan and our colour scheme was based on it as I didn't want to clash so went with navy blue lol, he's turned the kilt in but not a suit so might get him to try a blue suit on see what he thinks. He looks fab in a kilt even with his skinny legs haha. I don't think I could have him wearing a tartan waistcoat instead though lol as so not him haha. I do think a lot of it is the cost tbh. As we are trying to not go ott price wise but I feel bad for him if he can't have something coz of cost x
