Hey girls - just need to sound out - I am probably being silly about everything!
Firstly at the weekend I had a call from my best friend and Maid of Honor to tell me that she does not feel that she can fulfill the role nor does she want to be bridesmaid. Gutted isn't the word! Finally I was starting to get over this bombshell and booked my wedding car and got excited when our newly engaged best man informed us that his wedding has been booked a couple of months before ours :( feels so unfair :( but I guess i'm being silly.
CommentAuthorMartinH57
If the feeling is justified or not - I know I would be very jealous if one of my friends got there wedding in before mine, we may know in our head that they didn't do it just to hurt you but it still dose take away alot from YOUR day ..
I rely hope that your friend is just nervous of being maid of honor and that you are able to talk and reassure her ... hope things go better
CommentAuthorMrsCross2be
Thanks for your understanding words. I know im being silly - as my mum says - save the best til last. I have tried talking to her but to no avail- there are underlying reasons related to her feeling the pressure of planning my hen do etc.
CommentAuthorBeckyU98
i feel a bit like that, one of our friends is getting married 2 weeks after us and H2B's cousin is getting married 4 weeks after us - i can understand how you must feel if they are getting married before you - i would be upset if that happened. im just lucky my wedding is first but means there is going to be a lot of clashes in peoples diaries for all these weddings they could have spread it out a bit! however theres nothing you can do so best to try and forget about it and sorry to hear about your MOH! x
CommentAuthorValentinaK
Sorry to hear about the MOH stuff... at least she told you now and not closer to the wedding!
Why does your best man's wedding being booked a few months before yours upset you? Am I missing something?
Try and chill out about the MOH thing... look at the positives... one less perosn to kit out!
haha just like my mum said Valentina. I think really I was upset with the combination of the weekend. But really because we have dated for so long and had our wedding booked for so long I guess I feel like they just got engaged and we are waiting for aaaaggggeeeessss and they aren't because they got a good deal for an out of season wedding.
CommentAuthorInDreamland
I think it's great that they have their wedding first, means it's out of the way and all the excitement of their day is over when it comes to yours so no one at your wedding is talking about the next one, being theirs.
Do you know what the underlying reasons are for your ex-MOH's issues?
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CommentAuthorMrsCross2be
I do - I have friend requested to tell you :)
CommentAuthorValentinaK
Plus you know how to polish the bits they miss off... and best man will be better prepared for everything having done a full dress rehearsal for you a few months before in your shoes... ;) how kind of him!
I can imagine it made you a bit miffed if you were upset anyway about your MOH... Anyways, embrace this time of your life, when friends and peer family members are all settling down and having families and sharing and making wonderful memories... all the weddings, christenings and parties will be unique in their own way!
I know I remember when I was little, every family did things slightly differently but with common themes which was just wonderful... no-one compared ... they shared!
And we lived happily ever after!
CommentAuthorMrsA-J
Tbh with you my friend got married before me. And I felt it was unfair (mainly because at the time i felt she had to do everything before me!) But you know...its all fine! lol And I agree with Valentina! I know now that my OH will get a good speech cos he did I great speech for his Best man. so hes started on his speech already!
Sorry to hear about your MOH :( hope the reasons aren't too bad. and I hope you get an even better replacement!
xx
CommentAuthorAna40
It must be disappointing about your friend, but at least she has given you plenty of notice. By what you have said it sounds as if she has a reason why she has come to this decision. Regarding the best man, i wouldnt let it get to you. X
CommentAuthorFernP61
Oh no perhaps your friend is nervous about the role? Maybe if you have a chat and see if you can talk her through, as for your best man just let it go over your head just means they have less time to organise stuff x
CommentAuthorMrsCross2be
Thanks girls :) cheered me up. I'm just being silly xx
CommentAuthorMrsK2b
Dont worry about your friend getting married before you, as your mum said save the best to last :) our friends got engaged in September and were married in the May and ours is next month.
At least your MOH told you now and not after the dresses and other bits have arrived. Did she say why she couldnt be MOH?
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CommentAuthorDanni13
Aww that is a bombshell for your MOH to do...i hope she justified her reasons to you? You sound upset more than angry- so I'm guessing she had a legitimate excuse?
With the other wedding- I wouldnt worry, everyone has their own budgets, timescales etc. and (in the nicest way possible) they probably werent thinking about you when they booked it- just what they wanted. Which is why you just have to concentrate on what you want- enjoy their day as a guest like they will yours. Life isnt a competition after all, and it doesnt matter who gets married first, your in it for the life :-) xxx
CommentAuthorBecky1608
Has your MOH explained why she feels like this? I'd be gutted too!
With regards to the best man, as you've said, it was probably just a combination of emotions! I don't think it matters who gets married when. It's not a competition!! As long as you have the day you've been dreaming of then that's all that matters! xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsCross2be
She was finding it tough to plan my hen do - even though all I had asked was that the 3 bridesmaids including her plan it. I gave them ideas etc - I said I wasnt bothered and could plan it myself. Also, she is planning on getting married asap but having a very small simple ceremony and putting the rest into a house which is more important to them as a couple and so, she feels awkward being even my bridesmaid as I cant be hers- not that I asked to be or expected to be. I was paying for her dress so all she needed was shoes if it was money issues and if she wanted me to be hers I could have bought a dress. It all bizarre and no one can understand it.
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
Yeah that is annoying but I guess you should just leave it and don't let it bother you :) That does sound a little weird with your moh but at least she told you before hand. :s
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
Reguarding the bm i agree withthe abover comment of the fact hes doing it all a coupe months before you so will know how it feels, thats a bug problem with me im one of the first an all the other girls and guys have no idea what kind of finacial and organisational strain im under.
As for your moh atleast shes told you she cannot cope rather than alit of moh's on here that want the title yet expect to nit have to do anything for it, and has told you in plenty of time
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