Our date is on a tuesday the last week of term and with the new rules and fines about taking kids out of school im now a big worried. A few people have also mentions there kids schools do trips etc the last week , our family os really important an we want everyone there specially the kids , so our daughter has her cousins to play with.
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
What have you already got booked and paid deposits for? Will you lose much if you change the date?
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
Booked an paid deposit, think the venue would transfer the deposit to new date and would assume would have to pay the £10 admin fee for the registra which at the moment we need to regardless of date to a earlier time
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
If that is all and you don't have florists, photographers, transport etc. booked then go for it, better you're happy you have everyone there than on the day wishing you had certain people there xx
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
Only thing is we sent our save the dates, well Zi suppose could send a message with new date an a sticky label to stick over date on current ones.
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I guess this would be a personal choice. We are only having 3 children attending our wedding which will be on a Wednesday. This date falls the Wednesday before the Easter holiday for our 2 boys, the only other child there will be a family friends child who calls me "Auntie Kate", however his school holiday doesnt start until the week after our sons holidays do so it will be 2 weeks before his holiday. I will be upset if he is unable to attend however, his parents have joint custody & there is no guarantee his mum will have custody on that day anyway.
However, the most important thing for us is the date, we will have been together 8 years the day we plan to marry & from the day we got engaged we always said we will get married on our anniversary. If people are unable to attend, then thats understandable, but due to that date meaning so much to us, we are not willing to change the date for other people.
Its a personal choice hun, if your date doesnt mean too much to you, then i think that changing it is an acceptable plan for you.
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
The daye is the date my gran an grandad got married on an my gran passed away last year. But seeming as she never even told us there wedding date an only found out when we found thete marrige certificate I think she would of been touched that we wanted to pick that date to remember them but she would not mind us changing it so all the family can be together.
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CommentAuthorElizabethF49
Im not up to speed on the whole fining for being off school but wouldn't a wedding be an exceptional circumstance its not like the child will be missing a week or 2. The schools round here don't do trip the last week but the 2nd last week at the very latest
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CommentAuthorElizabethF49
I also think the reason you picked your date is lovely an dif its what you really want then stick with it. do the kids break up on the Friday of that week?
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CommentAuthorkatielea100
ive just realised my daughter will start school the week of my wedding and my wedding is on a friday but its too late to change lol my younger brothers and sister will be missing a day of school too if they go back that week, its only one day they arnt going on holiday for a week lol x
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
Depends on schools, my cousins kids break up on the thursday , im not sure on the other cousins schools further up country. I just don't now if I would prefer to change the date toa week later when sll thekids will be broken up to save a hassle and stress as I reslly do want them there. Think I will chat with another cousin of mine with dchool age kids about how she feels about it. We have 10 school age children attending.
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CommentAuthorCatherineR
I think you should keep it given the reasons behind having it that day - It's sentimental and has a great deal of meaning for you both.. I think a wedding is a justifiable excuse xx
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CommentAuthorCatherineR
Also, if you booked this before the new rules came in then this will take precedence x
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CommentAuthorthefuture:Mrs_Hurren
It seems like the date is more important to you thanhaving the children there although you want both so I can understand the decision is difficult to make. My oh works in a school so I asked him about the fine business and he said as far as he is aware that it would be classed as an unortharised absence if the children are ment to be at school and are not. These are nit rules set by the school but the gouvernment. He said the school may give allowance for say your own child but as most schools finish around 3-3:30 they wouldn't expect a child to be taken out for a wedding as they can attend later in the day. So the parents would have to be prepared to face a fine if they take a child out of school.
I know that seems a bit unfair though. X
CommentAuthorTrasaD
Ours is going to be on a Monday, so what we've done is arranged for an evening wedding so that our daughter and other family members can be there too. We're arranging ours to be for about sunset, that way we can keep our so special date, it's late enough for everyone to be there and the sunset will hopefully add to the scenery:) (not to mention it also saves a fortune on the meals Tec, because of the time for it, we're going straight into a reception where food is expected to be provided anyway) I hope it helps hunni :) xoxox
CommentAuthorMrsRobson2Be
I would speak to your family members (those who it might affect) & ask for there opinion. If you do decide to go ahead with the weekday wedding I would suggest to the parents calling in sick rather than booking it as a holiday.
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
Hi as for taking kids out of school ...
Firstly how strict the school is will very much depend on whether it is primary or secondary ..i think primary are lots more flexible ..
If its only for 1 day, then there should be nothing to worry about. The education department only generally fine the parents of children whos attendance is that of 94% or below... so I would speak to the school in question as they would give you info on their policies. Hope this helps!
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CommentAuthorVelcro
it might not even be just the one day..... If they are getting home at 9/10pm it's not really fair to send the kid in knackered.
I took my kid out of school for two days for a wedding last year. I wasn't happy about it affecting her attendance if I'm honest, but I did it. However, if I was going to get fined for it, I just wouldn't do it. If that date means more to you than people being there then don't feel like you should change it. However, it is only a date....yes, it might have meaning, but still.... Is that ore important than the people you are closest to not being able to make it. And before people jump in with 'but if they care, they will come!' I'm sorry, but taking a fine per parent for each child is no small ask, if that's what it comes to.
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CommentAuthorKatya
I just spoke with the headteacher at my sons school & he said that as far as he is concerned a wedding is an exceptional circumstance as such they will definately consider the request but that "you should not worry as we do consider a wedding to be an exceptional circumstance so dont worry about it" so basically hes saying yes without actually saying it lol. i also asked if i could put in the request for my youngest aswell as my eldest, my youngest wont start school until september, so they will also be considering it on a child not currently in their care but that WILL BE in their care at the time.
This was the first time i have met the head teacher, so i think that this informal chat in the playground went quite well, it is always worth asking.
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CommentAuthorCharlieBe-Cool
We had this, as ours is a Friday and the last day of term for our region before summer hols. We considered changing it to the Saturday (way too expensive) or having it the week after, but we have chosen our date as it sits right between OHs 40th and my 30th, which we are tying in with the celebrations. We are also having no kids apart from our sons and nephews so it doesnt affect us too much. I'm hoping taking our boys out for the day will be fine, and my nephews (who will be 14, 10 and 6) wont have too many issues, as its just one day before they break up anyway. The only issue we may have is our guests arranging for someone to have their kids for the day, but as we're sending save the dates soon, they have enough time to sort it out!
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CommentAuthorLauraK7
I think you need to talk to the family members and see how it affects them before changing anything and then see x
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
Have talked with the venue today, the date a week later is avalible and would not cost any more and would not charge anything would just change the deposit to that date, they cannot believe im being charged to change the time by a hour when i've got over a year left to go. have messaged some of my family who have school age kids to get opinions etc. the week after is the Tuesday 28th July. Would like to get it sorted if were going to change it asap as i got a appointment with the photographer I want to book on friday.
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
Have now decided to change our date after speaking with a couple members of the family with kids, it would be much easier, and then they can come down on the monday, hang out etc, and even have a mini holiday down in devon if they want. so come tomorrow will have to call regitras office and change date (and time) then call venue again and change it with them. and then inform everyone that the date has now changed.
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CommentAuthorVelcro
charliebecool, it might be a lot of notice, but regardless there will still be people that may not be able to make arrangements anyway. doesn't matter how far in advance a weekday wedding is, some people with kids just do not have that support network to arrange someone else to pick them up from school.
that's good you have changed your date without issues lana! what has the registrar said, have you to give notice again?
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
Like I've said in a different thread If i was invited to a family wedding which was no kids etc I would not be able to go as the only people I trust woth her is my mum an cousin.
Called registras office today and they seemed to have changed the system from last time I called . They took the details of what I want to do and pass it on to the wedding team who will call me back in the next 7 working days. So now I have to wait a week. Hipfully they will get back sooner rather than later.
We have not given notic yet with 16 mo ths to go. So no stress there.
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CommentAuthorbarbie86
I work at a secondary school and it would not be an issue for parents to take their children out for a wedding, provided it wasn't a regular occurrence (which would look suspicious).
I would suggest trying to speak to those with children and see if they can speak to their children's schools to see what the score is, as as far as I know, it really depends on the school. Failing that, if the schools are going to be awkward, could they not just 'call in sick'? No-one will know or be able to prove otherwise.
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
Have now changed that date. Registry office called back within about 10 mins after being told 7 days! Im alot happeier about the situation now. I would of been very dissapointed if alot of people could not come due to schools etc. alot of kids in 2ndry have activity weeks and trips the last week. And have alot of people thank me since i broke the news.
Alot of them had all had letters from schools statung kids out of school apart from for illness/medical appointments wpuld be fines something like £50 per child per parent per day.
Rediculous! But all sorted now. And slot are having to travel from oxford/ london to devon.
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CommentAuthorScottishbride2016
Fab news x
CommentAuthorLauraK7
Great news now you can relax knowing all the people you want will be there x