A major newspaper called like what's shining during the day and sets at night had an article about Couple supposedly spending over 20k on their big day and the first couple featuring (Kelly &Tim) are OH's cousin we went to their wedding last year. MIL2B told him last night as it came out at a little bit of a scandal, and OH was as surprised as I was knowing that this bride kept telling me all along her wedding planning how she was proud to pay for her own wedding with her life savings (and daddy's help paying for food and drinks at venue) and telling me how bad it is to start your life in debt when I mentioned getting a small loan for mine (not big interest it would have been as I work for the bank) but not only have OH and I managed to pay for everything but I don't understand why she's been lying about the cost of her wedding as on article they say. 20000+ and I know for a fact it cost less than 10000. Is this a pride thing to appear on such a newspaper and pretending your wedding cost loads when it didn't? Now am afraid that when her family comes to mine and OH wedding as ours will appear to cost a lot more they might make sarcastic comments about it thinking we got into debts for it when we haven't. Link on my wall for those of you who want to read it.

I agree with Mrsk2b - leave them to it and dont worry about what they think - if it makes them feel better going on national press and saying that then thats up to them - enjoy your day
But seriously who gets into 12K debt (the second wedding) for a 20k wedding - whats wrong with people

I am 100% happy with what we got, but even OH who knows less about wedding costs starting to say last night that ours will sound like so much more expensive than theirs and his family is very judgemental, the father of that bride, OH's only uncle on his mum's side rsvp NO as he doesn't like me after one little comment from me on Face book last year saying simple "Gary is unsupportive" and his eldest daughter goes out on National Newspaper for something like that. I know it is our day but because all his mum's side is being so judgemental all the time, I am just worried they'll slag me off behind my back, as we got videographer, magician, and extra bit Kelly didn't have, and they know that since I have been in car accident on New Years Day money has been tight, but we still manage to pay off our bills and wedding, and not getting credit cards or loan.

I am not close at all to MIL2B, I feel that she doesn't like me and from time to time only make effort because of OH. I have spoken a lot to OH, and don't want to bother him no more with my insecurities, as he's got a lot on his mind with his work, and we're close to the wedding so a lot of stress from that as well.
I think I should just relax, but its so tough so close to the wedding now.

oh dear, why to people have to make out something when they havent even done it! especially doing something that includes thousands of pounds in debt just to have a wedding.....

Like others have said sweetie, rise above it, you know full well your wedding was paid by yourselfs, your not making out that you went into debt like them. if you MIL2b has a problem then let her be.

xxxx

I've read that article now and think it's even more ridiculous hun, they've made themselves look stupid for not checking the interest rates first. No sympathy and I dont think anyone will judge you, just more like to think oh's cousin is mental x

ha!! i think YOU are the person who can hold your head high. who on earth would go on a national newspaper to discuss how much their wedding cost AND how much debt you're in?? very UN-classy. fair enough coming on here to talk about finances, as we are pretty anonymous, but it's just not the done thing!! i am a pretty open book about the vast majority of things, but i've been brought up not to discuss money outside the bank or home.

maybe i'm getting people on here mixed up, but aren't h2b's family rather up themselves and have a tendancy to look down their nose at you?? if so, YOU can have the last laugh. i'm still laughing...who would DO something like that?!?! have your face splashed across a paper talking about how little money you have??


yes, she probably WILL make some catty remarks, but you can mention in passing that not everyone discusses their finances in public.

What makes me prouder than anything else is the bargains I have found. not how much things have cost, but how much things havent cost.
I am always so made up when I make a saving and bagged a bargain.
And if I paid full price for anything......these are the things I keep to myself as I am gutted to have had to pay so much.....
How many threads are there on here where we come and tell everyone about a great deal they got? and how pleased we all are for getting that information? LOADS.......

Expensive doesn't equate to nicer, just dearer.

lol - funny article and just makes me proud we can do it through DIY and having fun trawlling charity shops for bargins hehe! :)

Thanks so much to all of you for your support and nice comments, makes me feel so much better, and you're right I should held my head high, and I am PROUD of all the bargains I got, and the DIY, and if anyone makes a comments I'll tell them off (nicely) saying WE didn't need a credit card to pay for it.

i have just read the article and in all honesty, if that was me, I would be ashamed to admit I had acted so irresponsibly and gotten myself into debt just to 'show off to people'. If you can afford it then go for it as this is then you knowing what you want and working hard for it. Thats what we did, we decided what would be a sensible time to save for without affecting our life quality and thats the money. Not one penny in debt and have the nice big wedding we could dream of. But we worked hard for it and people know we have no debt. Yes a tad silly for spending so much but people know we earned it. Those couples on there just look like divvies and are showing they are living in a fake world and the fact they are going in to debt is only to show off.... it is not to get the wedding they want... just to people please.

And yes I think you are right in that the wedding didnt cost 20k. A divvy can see that it was less by looking at her dress, flowers and his suit haha! Again bigging themselves up to show off and making themselves seem stupid! If it cost 20k fair enough I apologise but I think you are right as it doesnt look 20k so again they are embarrassing themselves. People would respect them more for saying the truth even if the wedding was 1k as then they wouldnt be seen to be showing off as much.... does this make sense I am very tired and falling asleep haha!

I absolutely agree with you suzky, I am not jealous about people spending lot of money, and if I am more money to spend I might or might not spend it on my wedding, the thing that really nearly offended me, is how SHE kept showing off to me how much they had managed to save and then find out her daddy paid a large part and they borrowed money to do it. Not looking at interest rates for credit cards is very stupid, and I work for a bank, so in doubt she knew she could come to me ask for advice, but the showing off for something that is not true then it's really disappointing. I hate fake people, and organising my wedding as well, I made the count and even her venue Bridlington Golf club would be the most expensive bit but still with wedding menu at £21.95 pp (60/70 people) then at night very little bacon butties at £2 pp, and drinks bucks fizz on arrival and cava for toast, I can't believe it was more than £3000, her dress was less than £1000 their rings not sure two platinum bands, but thats all, she had no activity, only a cheap photographer, so its stupid to lie

Have u read the comments after. Just remember they have high credit card interest and by the sounds of it they cant afford it. You both have paid for the wedding yourself. You should be proud of yourself

I am not paying for my wedding on a credit card......OK there is debt everywhere, but a wedding is not worth getting into debt for.
They deserve to be in the state they're in for their stupidity.

I agree with you on definition of debts, I am gonna get a mortgage in the next 12 months, at the beginning of our married life, but it is to get OUR house, not to pay for our wedding, I am only using my overdraft (repaid every month with very little interest) but that's it, no Credit card, no wedding loan for us. I never had a loan or credit card, and only time I'll borrow money is to get the mortgage. What mostly shocked me is how they still seem PROUD to be on the Sun, what a shame on all of them to think its normal nowadays.

I know it is so disappointing to lie in order to show off, which is not working, I am so not jealous/envious of people who spend tons of money cause for me my wedding will be the best... FOR ME!!! it's about having what you really want within what you can honestly really afford.

It wouldn't be a good story if it was put that their wedding only cost 5 grand or whatever. I know from experience that that paper changes details to make a story more exciting which is what might have happened. I don't read that Conservative comic anyway although I did go and read the article online to see what was said ;)