Apart from viewing our venue 3 times and meeting our wedding cordinator once we havent actually spoken to anyone about our wedding and what we need to do other than through emails to our venue or through you lovely people on here...i have no idea what i am doing so i am hoping someone on hear can shine a light.
has anybody else met up with their venue to discuss what they want, numbers menu etc...or am i just getting ahead of myself, i realise i cant discuss numbers until i get my Rsvp's back, but when do we talk about the smaller details, when do you have to let them know what menu we have decided on? i know these are questions i should be asking them but everytime i send an email with a list of questions half of them dont get answered and when i do get e reply i feel like they are just fed up of hearing from me, i feel like i am havin to email them everyday because i never get a proper answer.
Someone said we meet up 6 weeks before but is that it, it doesnt seem like much time to me but then ive never dome this before so maybe that is plenty of time, i just feel like there isnt much comunication but maybe there doest need to be at this stage. Am i just panicking about nothing at this stage???

oh well thats at the most 8 weeks then isnt it, yes that helps a little thanks, i'm thinking 6 weeks that not very long lol i am a panicker haha x

I've been to our venue yesterday, and decided on menus, given rough number already and arranged little details with them, but all that cause I am really impatient and need to get things done when I decide. They aren't a traditional wedding venue, their main business is being a restaurant, which in a way is great cause they said they only need final numbers something like a week before, but I will give them a month before

i have my menu choices as we sendin out menus wiv teh invite shun x

Hiya,

We are actually booked in for a meeting with our venue tomorrow evening - Our venue require 50% of the estimated final cost 6 months before the wedding date, ...she said if i have any other questions etc she would be happy to answer them, but did want to know who were our suppliers, (florist, cake , decorations etc) so off i went to think of some things i want to sort - or tell her about .....ooops 2 sides of A4 paper later - she will be sorry she asked me! hahaha!

I have to be organised! simples :)

they require final numbers/veggie and allergy details/menu and wine choices 4 weeks before hand with the final payment and our table plan need sto be with them at least a week before (even tho i am making my own, but i guess thats how they know who is veggie/highchairs etc) xxx hope thats of some help |:) xx

I think I may try ringing again just to put my mind at ease, may be she may actually answer my questions then, but it seems that 6 weeks before is the norm so that at least puts my mind at rest slighly xx thanks ladies xx

On looking around they gave us a wedding pack with menues and other bits of info etc. They said they'll get in touch to arrange a meeting about 8 weeks prior to the big day where we can give menu options and rough numbers. also to iron out the finer detaisl and pass on and other supplier info. There will then be a quick meeting 3 weeks before where we give final numbers and confirm table plan and other set up bits and bobs. Invoice to be paid a fortnight before :) they did say they were available to answer any questions at anytime we want to ask them and they've been true to their word :) can't fault them so far. Keeping fingers crossed lol

I live in lancashire and Im getting married in scotland near H2B's family. So everything is being done by phone and email. He said they need final number about 2 -4 weeks before (and we have to have paid in full 2 weeks before). I asked if I could change the menus as neither me or H2B really like everything on any of them. They have been really good and said yes but they need to know the final menu 4 - 6 weeks before the wedding.

They have recommended that if we are in the area to make an appointment to go and see them as it is easier to do it face to face, but if we can't manage it a meeting the on week of the wedding will be fine to set a room and show how things will happen. So I think you will be fine hun, dont panik just enjoy the planning as hopefully you will only do this once xx

We met with ours last week. They usually contact people 6-8 weeks before but I called them and they were happy to do it earlier. Helps me feel a bit more organised and I know what's going out. Give them a call and see what they say. We got confirmation through the post this morning of all the details and menu etc :) xx

i have my meeting with my venue tomorrow night to asort out dates for tastings ect so i would say its about the right time xx

oh god Anastacia i would be going insane lol... i just like to be in control of EVERYTHING haha!! I gave them a ring today but there was no answer and nobody has replied to the message i left, i bet theyve all gone home now arrggghh!! xx

lol...oh god, is that what i am hahaha

Haha I didn't say a word! x

Thats fair enough Kelly, you need to know what your aiming for dont you. I want to meet up with ours before the 6 weeks prior so we can give her rough numbers as we hsve a rough price in our head and eant to make sure its rught, we dont want to get ther with a price in our head ans they give us a price for twice as much.

Lol Anastacia...i adnit it myself, I am haha

Well i have had an email back and she said we meet 6 weeks prior to discuss menu, numbers, table plans etc and if i have any more questions to just email her but if we would like to meet up before then to give her a ring. however her message did read a tad sarcatic, maybe its just how i read it because i feel like ive just hammered her with question lol. maybe i'll hold off on the questions for a week or so. give her a break from bridezilla hahaha xx