My Ant is most definitely the one there's no question about that. But sometimes he drives me mad!!!
When he drinks too much, when he can't control his money, when he p*sses it all up the wall!!! He thinks I'm not being fair when I say I want to spend the weekend in, but I tell him he's almost 35 and I remind him he should have enjoyed himself a long time before now!!! I would never begrudge him going out for a few pints at the end of the week, but does it have to mean that he spends his whole weekly wage by Sunday??? He also smokes but I refusely point blank to buy his fags for him if he runs out of money!!
Do you think I'm being unfair?
Other than this flaw of his, everything else is PERFECT!!! and we will always manage!!! xx
CommentAuthorMrsBroady2B
I know just how you feel hun. My H2B is most definatly the 1. He is a brilliant Dad to are 2 wonderfull children,(although he does get stressed easy) and I know he does love me and would hate to lose me. But he also doesn't realise he has responsabilities. One of his good mates is free and single and is out every weekend gettin completely rat a***d. So whenever he goes out with him, I'm sure he wants to just be the same as him. He goes to the club in town and it's the last place to close at 1. And then it takes him more than 2 hours to get back home (we live 5mins away). He does not understand as to why I get parinoid to his where abouts. Then when I try to ring him he ignores me and then ends up turning his phone off. I tell him this is unfair on me when I'm at home looking after the kids. He is also a bit selfish by having 2 hobbies. His darts on a monday, which I dont mind. Although I hate the fact that he just gets in from work , has a bath, then tea then just rushes straight out. But them on a sunday, the only day we could get to do stuff as a family, he wants to play football too. By time he gets back, it's too late to do anything. So I start to get a bit upset when I see friends posting on FB all the stuff that there little family are getting up to, and I think I would love for our little family to do stuff other than be stuck in the house all the time.
CommentAuthorGregorysGirl
I have never questioned it, he is my everything, but I sometimes wish I didn't love him when we have arguments. I know every couple has them, but he is so over reactionary about the silliest things, says something hurtful and then I don't talk to him all day, he usually grovels wish proclamations of love etc. But I know he is the one and for better or worse I know we will always be together, for although we sometimes are bad together we would be even worse without each other. As for your man, he has to be a bit more adult about money, he isn't a single man and can't live that life all the time. I think there should be a compromise though of staying in and going out, some people can get stir crazy just staying in all the time, but that being said, he shouldn't spend all his wages on drinking, you have a wedding to pay for and it is just a waste of money to spend a weeks wages on. Hope the talks you have with him sink in sometime aoon! x
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CommentAuthorx ashlil x
Kev is definately the one but i do have days where i think to myself is this really what i want?? I think its just when im stressed or the kids are playing up and kev winds me up lol
CommentAuthorMagicFairies
I don't think you are being unfair, i think you are being realistic and i'm sure he'll appreciate you all the more for it! no one is perfect but as the saying goes love is about seeing an imperfect person perfectly! Though this doesn't mean he doesn't need to grow up a bit! I have worried in the past about my h2b because he has the tendency to try to control me if he doesn't like something (not regularly, but it really used to p*ss me off!). It's not bad controlling just feels a bit over protective sometimes, usually this coincides with me going out clubbing so its kind of understandable. But I have noticed i do exactly the same in reverse, I think we keep each other in check :) so even this flaw makes him perfect for me! lol.
I have never questioned that Clive is the one for me. He is my best friend, lover and soul mate all in one. I can tell him anything and know him inside out. I have felt this way since the day we first met.
Ok we don't have a perfect relationship, we bicker and disagree on things from time to time, even have the odd row but it's nothing that can't be solved with a calm discussion. Life isn't perfect and neither is our relationship but knowing that takes the pressure off. Most importantly we respect each other and also take time out and do our own thing from time to time.
Relationships and marriage takes compromise. I hope you can sort things out x
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CommentAuthorAttention seeker :)
i have know graham is the one since the first week we knew each other. BUT as with all men he has his faults.
To be honest if he didnt have any faults or didnt drive me mental at times, I prob wouldnt be marrying him. We all need some problems some times to make us understand that we are alive.
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CommentAuthorsarahuttley2b-[keera
i questioned it when we first went out [12 years ago] but when we got back together 5 yrs ago i knew it was ment to be and would never let him go again,luckily he feels same[or so he says!!! lol] x
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I've never had any doubts about the h2b at all but that doesn't mean that you are wrong to have them. I think its healthy that you can see that he has flaws and you know what they are. All you have to question is does the bad outweigh the good? If on the whole like you say its all good then as long as you can put up with the flaws without it grating on you then there isn't a problem.
CommentAuthorSteffie
It doesn't grate on me as much as it appears to annoy my mum and dad!!! They are forever saying how crap he is with his money etc and sometimes it's them who end up stressing me out so much!!!! they are ever so controlling and over protective!!! I know I'm 23 and Ant's 34 and they know he's the best thing that could have ever happened to me, but they are negative about the cash flow situation on his side!
:(
CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
I am totally in love with my h2b and dont doubt that he is the 1.... though sometimes i find myself worrying how we will manage and how will i deal with it, but then he looks at me and cuddles me and my fears temporarily disappear. Our main problem is that he is part of a highly respected back patch bike club, and sometimes that lifestyle and all the commitment that goes with it is hard going and i doubt my ability to be able to live my whole life this way. But its usually only at those certain time of the month that it really hits me( and its not very often really as i have PCO's), and he is very good and gives me my own way however unreasonable my way is when i am on..... then i make it up to him and show huge appreciation afterwards lol.
CommentAuthorCroc
nope.... i know hes the one... no matter what rubbish i fling at him no matter how annoying he gets how much he is away and no matter how many calls he has a 3am from work i know id be lost without him... and i realised this when we went through a rough patch not so long ago... i was 80% sure that i was going to leave and find my own place etc and as the week went on i realised that were made for each other .... so we talked worked our problems out and were fine... we do have our arguements but i just storm off and couple of hrs later its like weve never had words....he loves me with all his heart and my son aswell and lives for us.... he spoils me and always makes sure my wine glass is at the required level so therefore hes a keeper!!
i just know that we will be old and grey together ... he'll still do my head in with his work and his ocd and his in ability to put the loo seat down in the ensuite and ill stil annoy him by purposely leaving a pea in the sink, and my inability to iron shirts for him... but no ones perfect ... but i will still love him and still be silly with him and still try and beat him up even thou hes twice my body weight and 6inches taller tham me... and thats another reason hes my one..... i can wear sky scraper heels with him and never be taller than him <3
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CommentAuthorUnknown
i know Ed is the one for me but steffie..he really does drive me insane!
he used to be a professional pool and snooker player and he still plays pool on a monday night and i really do not mind this but then he insists on going to a quiz on a thursday and will never miss it as he is letting the other members down.
he then has to go out one night over the weekend and down the pub to watch football. i tell him all the time he needs to grow up, he is 37 not 17!
he also isnt that great with money! he always makes sure everything is paid but he can not save at all which really bugs me as i love to save!
But we also have stupid arguements like this morning over the can opener! he leaves for work before i am up and went to get my lunch ready but he had taken the can opener so i couldnt do my tuna and we had a row...stupid i know and then he refused to answer the phone to me which annoys and upsets me even more and he doesnt understand that! xx
CommentAuthormegs
as soon as i met owen i knew it was different and that i wanted to spend the rest of my life with him..i feel more and more in love with him everyday :) i think men are put here sometimes to annoy us, but they wouldnt be them if they didnt..lord knows owen annoys me sometimes just like i know i probably annoy him sometimes, but i know we wouldnt be without each other and its for keeps...good or bad its strange because before i met him i had no intention of ever getting married (growing up with a family full of divorces and seeing the pain it causes) but he totally changed my mind and i have never been so happy..couldnt imagine being without him love love love my man arent we lucky girls to have found our men eh? :) xxx
CommentAuthorAli
I knew Mark was the one litterally as soon as i laid eyes on him (as cheesey as that sounds) and i wouldn't swap him for the world........but after looking at the bank balance this morning i could quite happily murder him lol. He thinks we have a money tree in the back of the garden.......which is stupid as we don't have a garden.
We've had the conversation before and although he will listen to me and rein in his spending, after a while he's back to his old ways and its me that has to go without. I really want a new washing machine, new carpet for the living room and new bedroom furniture but everytime i think we'll go looking for the replacements he wants something for himself that he "just has to have" so i go without.
Have told him today it has to stop..............so i'll have a few months of money in the bank and then it will be back to normal.
But saying that, he doesn't go out drinking, as he rarely drinks, he does help out around the flat and doesn't expect me to do it all, so apart from the money issue (which is made worse becasue i work in accounts and like to keep a tight hold on things) I can't really complain about anything about him and he is my best friend, soul mate and the man i will be spending the rest of my life with.
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