Basically, I've told my bridesmaids that they can choose the style of their dresses as long as it's the right colour and that it can't be super short. Now one of my future sister-in-laws came round to visit yesterday and we looked on the web for a bridesmaid dress for her. She told me she already had an idea in mind and we spent a fair while finding her 'perfect dress'. The only problems with it is that it is skin tight all over and it looks like a dress from the front and a bra and skirt from the back, ultimately WAY TOO MUCH skin. I don't want to be a bridezilla but should I get her to pick another dress or do I trust her to make it look classy?
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CommentAuthorSamanthaG76
I don't think you're being a bridezilla! Personally i wouldn't be happy with that myself so i would try to talk her out of it x
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
No I wouldnt be happy with that either. Erm politely remind her that she is a bridesmaid and not a guest at the wedding!
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CommentAuthorPenguinJ
I would totally just say that its just not in with the taste of the wedding and you want something classier. then again i wouldnt pick something like that
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CommentAuthorSamanthaG76
I just thought, are you having a church wedding? If so, you could always use the excuse that its not suitable for the church? x
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Id be reminding her it's not for a night on the tiles, and to choose something else!
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CommentAuthorMrsEminson2B
i wouldnt be happy altho you have told them they can pick the dress u still have to like it after all its your wedding xx
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CommentAuthorJill
I dont think there's anything wrong with telling her that you're happy for her to choose her dress, but you do still want it to be suitable and you dont think that is? x
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CommentAuthorClareS
I 'd take them out for a day. Tell them you'll still let them pick a style but within reason. I've let mine pick their styles, but very strangely they've picked similar ones, again all in the same colour x
CommentAuthorShelleyM46
iv told mine this n all but its hard 2 match my colour.so i set up photos on fb only they can see n made em vote on 1s that i liked lucky for me they agreed on sum n they want 2 wear the same now .x
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CommentAuthorSam
If you aren't marrying in a church, maybe you could suggest that the venue has a dress code?
CommentAuthorRavenwithbite
I'm not getting married in a church or I'd use the 'not appropriate for chuch' excuse. I've spoken to my mum about it and she suggested that I look for alternative dresses similar to the one she wants but with less skin flashing and ask her to choose between them. Is this a good idea?
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Just tell her that it is not an appropriate dress that you were thinking of having as a bridesmaid dress. How many are you having?? Maybe say you don't mind them having different but could they all be along the same lines, get the others to pick what they would like and see if they all match together. If not, try and persuade them to chose something else. If nobody can agree, just say sod it and you pick them. I was picking out dresses for my two daughters and H2B's daughter. My MOH picked her dress with me but it was one that I would have picked anyway. I showed the younger girls theirs and my girls were happy but then H2B's started saying, oh not sure I like that one, or they will make me look flat chested bla bla bla. So in the end I ordered some dresses which even my girls did not see until after I had paid for them.
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CommentAuthorcarnally
It's your wedding day and you'll have the photos forever so be honest now. If you don't like it, say it. Tell her it would be lovely for a guest but not suitable for a bridesmaid
CommentAuthorNicholaP44
I would defo ell her its a bit revealing from behind. Its ur day, I think uve been nice enough 2 let them choose. xx
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CommentAuthorShazk
I have said the same thing to my bm but if one of them chose something like that I would be saying something!!!
Like other have said tell her U dont think it apropriate etc and like mentioned if having church can always use that as well x
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CommentAuthorbarbie86
I've said the same to mine. I don't mind them wearing dresses that are above the knee (my MOH does NOT suit knee-length or longer, and would feel uncomfortable; plus I'd feel weird seeing her in something she never wears), but wouldn't want anything that's cut away/very low-cut (though they're all small-busted so even that wouldn't really matter too much).
I would just be honest: say you think it's too revealing, and then show her what you do think is OK. Maybe compromise and agree to something above the knee, but not cut-away at the back/not too revealing on top. Plus, there's above the knee, and there's just covering the bum; I've told my MOH than something about 3 inches above the knee is OK; anything else IMPO is too short, and she's cool with that (that was the length she was thinking anyway).
CommentAuthorAmyP7
You have to tell her, it's your wedding and you will be reminded all the time by the photos x x
CommentAuthorAmberG30
I'm choosing my bridesmaids dresses - my sisters can't be trusted! Do it and tell her straight - it's your day, she can wear what she wants when it's her wedding day!
CommentAuthorLulu1388
I wanted my BMs to have a say in what they wore, i told them one i found that i loved, but that they were welcome to choose their own... they both wanted me to decide as its my day, but i turned around and said i want you to be comfortable in it as you are the ones spending 12+ hrs in it! Luckily they both fell in love with the same dress and it just so happened to be the one I realllllyyy wanted for them!
I'd try and be as honest as possible with your BMs & also, are they to wear the same or find different/similar styles? You could always say that this is a little inappropriate for a wedding as photos for life, not just a night on the tiles which embarassing photos always occur...& can be deleted. You can't delete a one day only event! Also maybe suggest that even though they can choose their own it would be nice to go for similar designs and your not sure this design will suit your other BM or is in her tastes? xx
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CommentAuthorSam
Perhaps you could suggest she wear it in the evening, and that you could pick out something together for the day?
CommentAuthorRavenwithbite
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That's a great idea SamanthaP91! I shall try that!
I have found three alternates that are similar to what she wants but show less skin. They are all on **************************, including the one she chose.
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CommentAuthorSam
I hope it works for you. I always change between day and night, it's become my signature move lol. Honestly, I just don't like wearing shorter dresses in a church (hence the changing).
CommentAuthorLaura JaneW
I'd maybe just laugh at it and pretend you thought it was a joke haha! You are going to need to be firm and just say its not appropriate for a bridesmaid and not the style you would want your bm's in.
