I have had horrid bits during the planning, but to be honest, it has mostly been the parts where OTHER people are involved, for example RSVPs (deadline tomorrow still waiting on 42 rsvps, mostly family), accommodations and expenses, and people booking holidays "before the invites came out"....oh, but AFTER the save the dates by 4 months! Registrar friend cancelling on us because they couldnt afford to travel up here (4 hours by car) and stay over...fair enough, but maybe look at that BEFORE you confirm to do our wedding and we've gained special permission for you to be here?
Lots of little things like that.

However, all the bits where it has just been Dave and I? Fabulous. Booking correct things, paying them off each time is little victories and seriously, with 7 weeks to go, that is what I am trying to focus on rather than the fact my family cant give a straight blooming answer on whether they are travelling 1 and half hours to my wedding or not.

Oh, and my band may or may not turn up...no idea. Giving them the benefit of the doubt, but his shaky and delayed replies to my emails are not filling me with the warm and fuzzies.

Hope your planning gets better hisduck xxx

So sorry to hear you are feeling like this hun :(

I'm not going to comment too much on how I feel, as obviously I'm still in the earlier stages of it all compared to you, but I have had moments-like I'm guessing you and everyone else has, where OTHER people-make the problem.

All I can say is maybe try and relax a bit now, I know you don't have long until the wedding now, is most of your planning sorted? Could you pass some things onto someone you trust, a parent or a good friend? Try and take some time out with you and your fiancé or your girl friends and just do something fun.

Then most of all when the big day comes, try and remember what it's really all about, you are celebrating you and your soon to be husbands relationship, don't let anyone ruin that day! Just enjoy it *hugs*

I'm having a horrible pre-wedding day but the way I feel now there might not be a wedding. I had a florist booked then an old friend was setting up a new florist and asked if she could do my wedding. Cancelled first one, then friend rang me today to say the business wasn't working so she was closing. 10 weeks before the wedding and I need to find a new one grrrrrr.
Then...when I met h2b (if that's what he is lol!!) he was living in a house that he'd shared with his ex, in fact she was still on the mortgage. He is like a drip sometimes and dragged his heels til Dec last year when I told him I wasn't going to marry him whilst he still shared a mortgage with her. (She moved out a few years before and he paid the mortgage himself, which he did when she was there as she never worked, although they were never married) He's just been told that due to poor credit he can't have the mortgage in his own name, so I really don't know what to do. I really think it's unfair on me to marry him whilst he has this unfinished business with her over his head.
So yes wedding planning is rubbish!!

I have to be honest, I've loved it, but I've been lucky in that everyone has been reasonable. H2B's aunt and uncle have caused slight problems due to them hating each other, and I think each one has been hoping that they can persuade us not to invite the other one, but we've stood firm. We know that if we didn't invite them neither us of H2B's parents would hear the end of it, so we've been firm and said that all aunts and uncles are invited. They will probably cause problems afterwards as well, as each one will say that the other one ruined it for them. We're just assigning people to keep them occupied and away from each other on the day. Hopefully that's the only difficulty we have.

I've also loved it. I started hating it when I realised that I didn't want to blow all my savings on a fancy venue and have the wedding that everyone expected us to have. Since changing that me and h2b have had a blast. We've made our save the dates and started on our bunting. We've not argued once (except for me getting in a flap over bunting flags not being in the right order). And better still no one has interfered, except for my dad, who is not happy with my choice of car. I'm going in our friends vintage vw beetle and he wants me to have a silver shadow. But he's not paying I am :) xx

So far its not been too bad. My bridal shop closed their local store and now I have to travel an hour for fittings, but if thats the only thing that 'goes wrong' (please God) then that's ok. I'm in the early stages though! Most of our woes come from family; like my sister jumping in and booking her wedding before me (long story short, she ALWAYS copies) and just 'happeneing' to be using the colour scheme I was going to have, planning it 2 weeks after her 30th and basically stealing all my ideas with regards to food/music/jewellery so ive had to change ours along the way! That and the fact OH's mum is now claiming she wont be coming. PAH!

Rachel - can you not transfer the mortgage to yourself and hubby? It wouldnt be the mortgage being in joint names id be so bothered about (as she remains liable if he defaults), its the fact the property itself will also be in his ex's name, meaning she's still entitled to some of the equity! If he's been paying the mortgage anyway he really should get the mortgage and property transferred into your joint names to avoid any issues later on.

YES!!!!

one big fat massive YES YES YES!!!

Ok, so that was 4 yes' but good god. i never ever want to hear the word wedding EVER again. I said to tom, if this is as bad as it gets throughout our marriage, then i can handle it lol.