Hello,

So I'd like some outside advice. I'm a hairdresser, not been in a salon for years , just do it on the side now. So I have a old friend who I've known on a off for about 9 years, she's a bit older then me. She always don't my hair for me, but the. She fell pregnant and left the salon she was is to do it at home, in the last 2 years she's had 2 babies and got married, she's been VERy unreliable when it comes to texting back and ringing . Before Christmas I went to someone else, and didn't speak to her for a while. The. I handed out my invites and gave her and her husband one, and we text a couple of times. I asked I she still wanted to do my wedding hair, and she didn't reply, is was going n for a few weeks. So I was always never knowing if she would do it or not,but her baby was only a Couple of weeks old. My fiancés step mother has her to do her hair and she is a nightmare with her too, she said she spoke to her and said i want hr to do my hair but she doesn't reply back, she said she knew se was bad and would contact me. So that took a coupe of weeks,and I was stressing in the mean time, as I wanted to get it sorted. So I had 2 trials, the first she was with her baby and she kept crying,NAND she charged me £25, and said the day would be a present , the. He next trial shoe said I would need to pay, so whilst I was there I made her write down in her diary for the next appointment, then she text me later saing she will sneed to charge me £10 for each trial in between, I agreed,f the. The next trial came, she was breast feeding for the first 30 minutes, and it was a bit scatty, the I booked for yesterday, my sister was going to come, it was at 3.30 , she text me at 1.30 saying she couldn't do it, never gave me a explanation and axed when I was free next, I text back straight away saying Monday, and I never had a reply, I tried calling twice, and I can't get hold of her, I am now panicking, cos I don't want to be let down yet again, and I don't think she realises how frustrating and stressful it is not knowing when she will contact me next,I obviously want to know its booked in and secure, and I'm worried she's going o let me down near the date itself. What should I do, am I being silly, or is this bad? Also how long should I lea it before I just cancel her? It's awkward cos its a friend, and I don't know what to do? Xx

i understand she prob has alot going on, however she is either doing this as a gift for you or shes running a buisness, charging what is has been sounds like a buisness and with that she should realise how stressful things like hair can be on a wedding day. To be honest i think you should cut your losses and arrange for someone else to do it, things like this can ruin friendships and if she lets you down not only will you be devestated on your special day but you will have also lost a friend. Let her down gently and soon, to give yourself enough time to find a new reliable hairdresser and keep a friend !! good luck x

Forgetting her lack of communication, it doesnt sound like you are happy with the service anyway. X

This is just out of order, go with someone elsa am an mobile hairdresser even when I do friends that's paying I always book out longer because we always ended chatting but I still 100% the hairdresser whilet doing they hair then after iv finished hair it time for a cup of tea and chat when it my time not they paying time, me and oh has already talked and I will be going back to work after we started an family but I only be working days he home from work I would never take baby with me to work like you said your mind not the job, how is she getting busy when she does asker her phone, I get moaned at from clients when I got away for the weekend or it my day off and I have my voicemail set to telling that am away to leave a message and I be back to on so and so date and I phone back then, the way she been with your tails I wouldn't be able to trust her to turn up on your wedding morning and get it right, defo find someone elsa to do it,