what is the point in trying to plan a wedding if people just cant be happy for u and let u have what u want, im now stuck and unsure what to do i will not have my dad give me away but i would want my grandad(mums dad) but he doesnt want to cause more conflict in my family then there already is, i will not under any circumstances have my dads wife there as she is a stuck up cow and nothing will be good enuth for her its bad enuth my dad has a daughter in her eyes but now if i tell my dad that he will kick off but i want to be happy on my day and not have her there as she is nothing to do with me and have not even seen her since i was 14. it will also not be fair on my mum who is mentaly disabled and it will be hard enuth for her to even be in a room with other ppl let alone my dads wife. and as for the partners family his mum and dad dont talk his sister dont talk to his mum and his dad couldnt even text us to say happy birthday for my daughters first birthday merry christmas for her first christmas or even remember to text my partner on his 21st birthday urgh i feel like im going insane how does every one else get around awkward families

ps and i may add if i dont invite people others will kick off so ive had enuth now

i would but honestly we cant afford to go away any where and i would then have to deal with the crap after of getting shouted at being asked why im so useless im actualy tempted to not even bother any more

yea it does my sister keeps saying oh dont worrie mine went ok but then she has a diffrent dad to me and she didnt have to invite hers as thy dont talk and he doesnt live in the country any more. i just cant understand why ppl dont just go along with what we want im lucky none of my friends have argued about bridsmades and that cuz its going to be my daughter and no one can say any thing about that lol. ah well i guess my job is to keep on smiling and just pretend i dont care what my family thing :)

at least you have some good coming out of it all. you dont have to have anyone give you away but what about your mum? it might make her proud for you asking her? x

Firstly - in my experience, families kick off whether you try to keep them happy or not - therefore if i were you i'd do what you want and tell them to get over themselves. You are the bride (equivalent to supreme ruler of the world for one day :D) therefore invite only who you like - if your dad or anyone else doesn't like it they don't have to come.

Secondly- have your grandad give you away - it's what you want and i'm sure he'd be flattered that you chose him.

I haven't always had the support i wanted from my biological dad or his side of the family. Therefore i'm not inviting my aunts or uncles on his side - only him (because he's started to earn it in the last couple of months) but because i have the most wonderful and supportive stepdad i've asked him to give me away instead of my biological dad. some people don't like it (my dad's family mostly) but they are the people who don't matter and so aren't coming :D - guess it's a pretty good way to weed out the trouble-makers!

xxxx