Sorry for the rant girls but I just needed to get this off my chest some how. My Dad is driving me crazy, I don't think he means to upset me but he manages everytime I see him. I find myself in tears every time I come home because of something he has said. He isn't very subtle and hates weddings, he is always telling me I'm fat (even when he weighed nearly 20 stone). My mum is quite ill and I'm finding it hard to do weddingy things without her so I showed my dad some pictures of dresses I liked, they were all too small for me so didn't look quite right but the only comment he instantly made was "well unless you're going to lose a lot of weight you should get a dress with sleeves". This obviously made me feel rubbish but I just made my excuses to leave and went home to cry. He does this a lot but today takes the biscuit.... Generally talking about wedding stuff and he starts by telling me I'm spending far too much money then tops it off by telling me he thinks our wedding is going to be a disaster, he said no one will come because the venue is 45 minutes away from where we live and if they do come they will all leave early and the 'party' will be dead. We showed him some of our venue options and the only one he liked was the one we've chosen! I can't believe he is so negative all the time, I am his only child and we have always been quite close due to my mothers illness I don't understand why he can't see how much he is upsetting me all the time :'( I just feel so angry that he makes me feel so bad all the time.
22-09-2012 I marry my best friend.
CommentAuthormillz090
Ah honey dont get upset by him... maybe he is just worried about your mum or something and taking it out on you.
I would suggest you dont show him wedding pictures or plans then he cant be negative about them... Alot of girls on here talking about people being negative about their plans so i dont tell anyone bar my H2B and 1 bridesmaid. That way they cant upset me with other thoughts/ideas and it s surprise on the day too xxx
Finally marrying the love of my life !!
10th August 2013 - 9 years to the day we met !
CommentAuthorxxRosiexx
Thank you, thing is I haven't shown him anything other than the venue and pics of potential dresses! He knows nothing other than that. He thinks I'm out buying whatever I want and not budgeting at all and no matter how much I tell him it's not like that he won't listen. We've not even done that much yet! Oh well I'll just have to let him be bitter and grumpy and ignor him I guess.
22-09-2012 I marry my best friend.
CommentAuthormillz090
Men dont understand dresses anyway so wasted showing him...
I would ignore him and he will get over it or realise your not taking the bait and back down xxx
Finally marrying the love of my life !!
10th August 2013 - 9 years to the day we met !
CommentAuthorxxRosiexx
I hope so, I'm very nearly at the point of asking my g.dad to walk me down the aisle instead if he is going to be so grumpy!
Could you talk to him and tell him how he's making you feel? xx
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
stop talking to him about weddings ......mu mum put me down about everything .....what we were spending ( she had no idea of the amount) where we are getting married ... even the fact that i sent out save the date cards and didn't consult her over the date
Yeah I think you should tell him how you feel. And maybe if nothing changes you should consider your Gdad. You have to think who do you want and for the right reasons. If my dad was treating me like this then I would definately re consider, but thats just me. At the end of the day you want to be happy on your wedding day and you want to know the person who walks you dont that isle is supporting you and makes you feel like the princess that you will be!
Hope you manage to sort it out. x x
CommentAuthorxxRosiexx
Thank you ladies, I've calmed down a bit now. I'll try and talk to him, I've tried before but I guess trying again won't hurt. I never start the conversations about weddings but will try harder to avoid them. Just wish sometimes he would show that he cares as I know he does really, he is just really bad at showing it.
