We were planning to get married around Aug 2013 but I have found a hotel that I love and they have an all inclusive offer (everything from the ceremony right up to the dj at night) for £2k for 50 people and its £39 to add day guests and £6 to add evening guests.
I thought this was a really good deal but its not available in 2013 and the only Fri/Sat dates they have left in 2012 are one in Aug and some in November. I talked to my OH about it but he is unwilling to move the wedding forward coz one of his pals is getting married in July 2012 at Gleneageles (super posh!) and he doesnt want our wedding to be the cheap joke wedding straight afterwards. I disagree with him and think that how much we spend wont be on everyones minds, but as long as we give them a good time.
Does anyone agree with OH? Would we be the "cheap joke" wedding?!
Thanks Sarah
CommentAuthormadison_uk
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dont think you would be, wish i could find something that good has he been and seen the place? and for that price you could add to it to make it what you want.
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
No way, it's all about the experience that people remember - and as a guest, I only started comparing weddings when I started planning one myself, other than that I just turned up and enjoyed as each one is unique in style and personality! I'd go for Aug 2012 as then people won't get confused with the date from Aug 2013!
CommentAuthorLegoWife
Weddings are not competitions! Besides, it's not like everyone at your h2bs friends wedding is also going to be at yours, are they? I think that's the only real issue, if lots of people are going to be attending two weddings really close together. Would you both not consider a November date? Would solve both issues?
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CommentAuthorMrsC2B
I totally agree with Hollhollholly and think the package for 50 people sounds like a bargain! By having your wedding in November it would be totally different, but so would having an alternative venue to theirs. Your wedding should be about you and H2B not how much you've spent on it. xx
OMG slap the man .....i have been to some very expensive weddings where people were to scared to let them self go and have a good time and weddings done on a shoestring where everyone had chipped in and we had a blast ...
its not the place that makes a wedding but the people there
that is an amazing price, but how do you know there won't be the same offers for 2013??
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CommentAuthorSpecialSundae
Honestly, I went to two weddings a couple of years ago. One was an enormous, upper-class Indian wedding (5 days and 700 guests at the biggest event) and one was a small, modestly budgeted winter wedding (about 60 people during the day)... Both were AMAZING! You can make a big budget wedding tacky and a smaller budget wedding fabulous; it's all about what you put into it.
It is worth trying to agree on a venue though. Which hotel is it?
CommentAuthorKerrylou
I'm out playing Devil's advocate for a sec - Yes, YOU have found a bargain hotel deal, YOU love the place and YOU want to move the date forward A wedding/marriage is about BOTH of you and what you are BOTH happy and comfortable with - he doesn't sound happy with the idea. No, it wouldn't look like a cheap joke wedding in comparison but I do understand his reservations. Hotels have wedding package deals all the time, this isn't a unique offer and if you don't snap it up now it isn't a case of you'll never find anything like that again.
Talk to him, attempt to understand his concerns and, if you can, alleviate those concerns. Marriage is about compromise and it's something ALL couples have to learn in order to have a successful relationship - use this as a starting block for that learning, talk about it until you've reached a compromise you can both be happy with. Pushing him into it is the worst possible thing you could do xxx
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CommentAuthormrsMcF2b
HELL NO! Ya know ive been to a wedding in a v. expensive hotel and one in a local sports club and I tell ya what when the rooms decorated there was no difference whatsoever and I actually prefered the meal in the sports club to the very overpriced, tiny portioned food at the hotel.. your guests will (or at least should be) happy to be a part of your day and greatful to be invited.
I do think its pretty sweet that he is thinking like that because a lot of grooms dont care about the details :) xx
It will be beutiful day no matter what you's decide :)
CommentAuthorSsouter
Thanks girls! I agree that I dont think the weddings will be compared and I dont believe that anyone will care how much we have (or haven't!) spent.
Kisywisy - My OH called them to see what their deal for 2013 will be, and they said that it would be similar but less months will be included and it is likely to only be week days (excl Fri). They also said that they hadnt yet confirmed the price, so not sure if the deal will be as good.
Kerrylou - I get where you are coming from. I maybe didnt write it very well lol! My OH loves the place too and his only worry is that his friends (who will be at both weddings) will compare.
Sarah xx
CommentAuthorLegoWife
If they're going to compare it, they'll compared it no matter how far apart they are. So I don't think when you have your wedding will make much difference!
