Wedding Forum - H2b not helping...

my h2b picked the date and time thats about it.. oh and his suit bt thats not getting done till may lol! other than that nothing. we arent marrying till july 2015 but im very organised brcause of our budgrt ive had to be bt same i dont bang on about it(my mam on the other hand is getting quite annoying lol)
his cousin has had huge input in their wedding but their budget is muuuucchhh higher than ours and hes paying for it so in that sence i see why he wants to be involved... h2b just wants to be married lol hes not fussed on much. luckily we arent doing a full day we marry 3.30 and go straight onto our reveption n party from about 5pm x

Myself and oh are the same. I feel like I'm doing everything and every time I mention the wedding he's not interested. I asked him earlier if he's actually bothered about getting married. He said he just wants me and our little boy there, friends snd family and a big party afterwards. All the actual planning he has asked me to do. He's just got to work to bring in the money for it. OH chose the date and the reception venue and also the cake. Everything I've got to research to find things within our budget and then let him know x

mine has done nothing. He couldnt even pick his suit on his own! I dont mind at all but i must admit now its getting to the last few weeks and all the silly little things need sorting i wish hed help a bit more but hey ho thats men for ya x

Ha he sounds sweet but he can be a pain in the bum lol Footy season is starting so I'm making sure to give him tasks or ask for help on non footy days or day after depending on scores lol
It's good he keeps kids away as I bet that can be chaos if they move stuff around :)
Vicky I am letting H2B go alone to suit choosing but I can expect a call of panic as I think he thinks it choice between colours and not styles lol
Sally from what you have said I can understand why you are frustrated I think men kinda think women have always dreamt of the big day so will know what to do all on their own. Especially when you got engaged if you were anything like me I was literally showing my ring to strangers in the street as I couldn't stop smiling or looking at my ring so you have every right to be upset if his family haven't asked to see it, is his family involving themselves at all? or have you both sat down to talk them about wedding ? x

They all sound like their making some effort and even if it's just looking after you when you're planning all the H2b are helping in their own way. I especially like the surprise Mrs Pendlebury, very romantic :-) welshbridebethan, they have only mentioned the wedding to me once and that was to complain I was buying bridesmaid dresses too soon and I've spent too much on my dress after those few words they proceeded to get out the photo album of their daughters wedding and boast about that and how she is perfect, they are not contributing in any way and I'm starting to think they might not even like me xx

Aww futuremrsp I love that, I think your H2b has got it spot on, it's his day too so why not be fully involved and show off his suit :-) it is upsetting, we went to enquire about the groomsmen's suits yesterday and he said he would rather be at home playing xbox! I did all the talking whilst he showed no interest, it really makes me feel like this isn't what he wants xx

Really sorry you feel that way Sally :( you've said you've talked to him, so I don't really know what to suggest.. apart from bribing him to do things and get involved!? Hehe x

My OH is an idiot when it comes to planning OUR wedding, I flipped on him a few times at the beginning of planning but now we sort of decide together I do all the research and then say to him what do you think his response will be 'whatever' or 'are you happy with it'.

Sometimes he will say so what's next to get like he has tonight as we have just confirmed coaches he says he is paying for it so that's as good as anything lol (cheeky pig he doesnt mean anything by it but he makes way more cash than I do as I only work PT)

That's the same as my h2b Lana. He can't wait for the stag do lol x

Oh dear alot of you are in the same boat i see. My oh has paid for my dress and has helped decide venues and guest list but thats it. Hes super busy looking for a job so we have a better budget which i am happier with to be fair

My OH has definately gotten more involved lately especially since I had a few major down points and realised he really needs to help. Don't get me wrong he isn't as involved as I am and there are times I need to light a fire under his backside to get him to do something (right now he has the job of organising the chocolate fountain and he is as of yet to contact them).

Unlike a lot of men he really does not want a stag, he would rather just hang out with his BMAN and play a PC game. I do know however the BMAN is going to plan something though but it will be low key.

Sally sorry to read they are like that ! You have better patience with me if someone pulled out lil miss perfect wedding album I would put it where the sun doesn't shine lol
My friend went through a stage where her H2B was moaning anytime they visited any wedding related place even the suits so she stayed calm and went home and asked him would he rather she organise everything and he agreed ..... So she made up a scrapbook of real extreme wedding stuff where everything had pink glitter from the grooms suit to the seat covers and put about everyone having some sort of face paint on and then accidently left it on the coffee table open, a few hours later her H2B they discuss some options and he helped slightly more, it wasn't 100% effort but it was enough that there was no moaning or feeling like she had a toddler and not an adult :)

I'm glad I'm not the only one! Although in fairness my H2B has chosen, ordered and paid for a pocket watch by himself and is currently messing about with stencils and fire buckets that we're putting flowers in down the aisle of the church. He organised the church side of it (I wrote the emails he pressed send!) and me and a close friend went with him to sort the suits out, and he's come up with some good suggestions, but generally it's being left to me. We went to visit his brother last night so they could start sorting out the stag night. He was a nightmare because he couldn't make up his mind what he wanted to do or who he wanted to invite! I made up his guest list in the end :o/ His poor brother has a real challenge on his hands!

My OH isnt that bad when i think about it - I organised venue viewing etc and he came to every single one then we sat down and decided together, although i think he felt a little bad for doing this as its my parents who are paying for the venue (they paid for my sisters so its always been said they'd pay for mine) we decided on a colour together, he's picked his suite - and i mean colour, style, waistcost etc - only thing i've told him is that he has to have smart shiny black shoes (no DC's!) lol, I'm the one that does most fo the research into things and going to wedding fayres etc but hes never once moaned and he always has a opinion on what I'm doing or looking at so i'm quite thankful for that :D

He's always said the day is mainly for me as all girls have a 'dream' wedding in mind but give him his due when I ask or tell him to do something he'll do it :)) xx