Not going to rant on I'm too angry & shocked right now
H2B has been saying for a while his parents will be lucky to receive an invite........ After recent event's, he has confirmed this evening he is done with them!
So, at this stage it looks like the relationship (with him & his parents) is over (confused what to do about the children)
We have a year to go so will see how things pan out but looks like they wont be there Should imagine, due to this, his sis & her family will not attend either as she is practically attached to their hips 24/7 (even though she is a 32yr old married mother of 2!)
Think I'm gonna step back & stay well out of this one!!!
I've had this problem and I hear exactly what you're saying about sil being joined at the hip to mil. If I could get rid of my il's I would. Take a deep breath and cut them off if they have offended you both.
Do they provide childcare or are you just worried about the kids not seeing their gp's?
Xxx
eru, shiteiru ka? shinigami wa ringo shika tabenai?
^_^
CommentAuthorElle23
No they provide sweet FA for thier grandchildren!!! Not even an ask about how they are doing!!!
But me being me think family is important & do not feel it's fair for the children to suffer when this is an adult issue
I will support H2B in his decision though They have pushed him too far & not even tried to take on board his feelings or the fact he has opened up about how he feels & offered the chance for things to be put right & the response (which we had to wait 4 days for) was all about MIL and not once did she acknowledge the issues and points he raised!!!
To be wed on our 10 year anniversary! 23.08.2013
CommentAuthorElle23
The only good to come of this is the promise I make to my children that they will always be treated exactly the same There seems to be a common issue with Mothers & son's
i havent spoken to my Mil since last august ( when amongst other things she told me that my children would be better off if i was dead ) and mr lala hasnt spoken to them since christmas .
My son doesn't get a look in. Everything revolves around sil son. Who she only got pregnant with because I was pregnant. For Xmas sil som got a bike, a puppy, and various toys from that expensive toy shop. My son got a second hand jigsaw and a bag of charity shop tat that didn't fit so I see where you are from and when your kids get older it won't get any better but the kids will start to notice and then resent their cousins and their grandparents anyway so it's less damaging to just cut them off.
eru, shiteiru ka? shinigami wa ringo shika tabenai?
^_^
CommentAuthorElle23
They do get the same gift wise but not in respect of time spent or caring & thoughts if that makes sense?
So sorry for your son Dominica x
To be wed on our 10 year anniversary! 23.08.2013
CommentAuthorLlosa
oh hun I'm sorry, its hard especially when its parents/in-laws...all you can do is be there for h2b, wish i could give you some advice
CommentAuthorElle23
thank you x
To be wed on our 10 year anniversary! 23.08.2013
CommentAuthorTsukijin
Thanks :) she only does it because sil's baby's dad never wanted their child and sil got pregnant by deceiving him just because she wanted all the attention. Mil also knew I had very little money at that time and wanted me to feel inadequate compared to sil :/
She looked an idiot when my son opened his card from his wonderful uncle and it had £500 cash and £500 toy vouchers in And got a ride in uncles Audi to the toy shop
Really if you have the go ahead from your oh, cut them off. Poisonous inlaws are a cancer.
eru, shiteiru ka? shinigami wa ringo shika tabenai?
^_^
CommentAuthorHobbitBeth
I hope it can get sorted hun, luckily for me, i love my MIL2B! I just hope something does get sorted for the kids more than anything. I've had a life with grandparents that arent interested and it does get to you in later life
x
CommentAuthormym72
We don't speak to my mil (husband's egg donor as I prefer to call her lol). She's a nasty, vindictive drunk who told me over the phone that she wishes I'd die in a car crash so that her son could find someone better. Strange one though - as her son (husband) can't stand her either lol.
CommentAuthorTsukijin
Mym...egg donor...really??? Jk I think I love you :D
eru, shiteiru ka? shinigami wa ringo shika tabenai?
^_^
CommentAuthormym72
Well she's never been a proper mother to him Tsukijin. Since his parents split up when he was about 13 all she did was drink. And when she's drunk she's nasty. She's fallen out with all her family because she's been known to hound them by phone after getting home from the pub. She's never met my family, but we didn't invite her to the wedding because we knew she'd start on them for no reason whatsoever.
When husband made contact with his dad again a couple of years ago, she had a go at him for that - then started on his dad as well (and his wife although they've never met). The only person who tolerates her now is my bil (hubby's brother) but she's picked on him on occasions as well.
I started referring to her as husband's egg donor and it's just stuck. Good job hubby has the same sense of humour as me lol.
CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
My MIL, FIL and SIL are wonderful. Its my Mother I can't stand! She's very vindictive and even blames my oh 4 Mossilini being involved in World War 2???!!!!! It may have something 2 do with oh being Half-Italian but still!!!! I told her 2 be nice otherwise she will never speak 2 me again. She didn't last literally 5 mins and she went on another of her ridiculous rants about him and so I walked out the door. That was 7 years ago and it was the best decision of my life. No more 'treading on egg-shells'!! If ur oh has made this decision, then he has obviously had enough.
2 see some of ur comments saying ur MIL has said ur 'better of dead' is just awful! How can someone even think of saying something like that? Some ppl r just not worth the energy!!! :S
Met 18/09/03
Engaged 06/09/08
Getting married 05/09/17
CommentAuthorElle23
It's a horrid situation to be in, after all these are the people that have brought our OH into the world!
It is a little reassuring (although sad) that we are not the only ones going through this x
