I'm sorry to say, I have to agree with Laura about this being the perfect cover... Sorry, I have a very cynical mind..

Will be thinking of you and checking back over the weekend for any developments.. xxx

He's very angry because you nag? His reaction is disproportionate to what he says is the problem. He's nice over text but nasty in person? Again,not normal behavior.
There is a serious problem with communication in this relationship and being apart is not going to solve it. Is there no way that he would agree to counseling? He needs to start talking and being honest now if there's any chance of salvaging your relationship. A neutral party might be the key to getting to do this.

I hate to say it but even after all these posts I still think he's baiting you & you deserve better.

Enjoy a girly weekend. You deserve it. If you find that you're desperately missing him, great. When he comes back you can think about what steps to take. Ask him what you can do. If you don't miss him, or even find it a relief to be away from him, then maybe you need to think further about things. Your feelings matter just as much as his.

At least he's talking - that's something - and he doesn't want to cancel and says he loves you. You've gave him every chance to let you know it's over and he didn't want it, so there's hope this really is just wedding jitters.

Like the others I wouldn't be happy with him staying alone at a hotel - after all the fb/hen party stuff. That's a big ask, for you to trust him - but I get it that you are kind of treading on egg shells around him right now. I think I'd go into 'nagging' overload though about it - and he would just have to lump it.
Keep in mind, if you have to bend over backwards, give in, stay quiet, change how you are to keep a man happy and not angry at you- that man isn't worth keeping x

Why is he guilty? A relationship is between 2 people and 2 people only. He isn't culpable for his cousins bad choices. All your reports of your h2b's actions can't help but make me feel like there is something else going on that he isn't talking about. Something he was dealing with before the stag do and that was brought to the surface because of events surrounding the stag.

He just keeps saying hes felt like it for ages but going away for a bit made him realise how bad it was. As i said, he said it was me nagging, the fact he feels i need attention 24/7 and feels i don't like him going to see his friends. He said maybe i need someone that will want to be with me all the time and worship the ground i walk on but he's not that sort of person and he loves me but i need to have more of a life without him. I think hes just needing more space or am i being silly?! x

There's a little part of me that wants to log into this thread and read that you've posted " You know what, I've told him to Pee Off and come back when he does want to worship me".. but that's by -the-by

With my rational head on..
In his defense, possibly in the lead up to your wedding, you've come across as needy - asking him stuff, talking wedding, planning stuff together - all perfectly natural imo - maybe it has felt suffocating and made him look at you differently to how you are usually. Could be why he's bolting for space - and once the wedding is done things will go back to normal and he'll realise it was all wedding related

Again, same as my ex told me when he wanted to break up. " you need someone that can support you", "you want to settle down, i dont", "you are still young and should be with someone who isnt boring".....

It took me to scream at him and ask him if he wants to be with me yes or no.

I know your scared to do that because you dont want him to say "no".

Believe me, its worse filing for divorce within a year because you hate each other by then.

please dont let him do this to you anymore. YOU ARENT THE PROBLEM!!!!!!! I promise :) xxxx

I have point blank asked all these questions over again and he was very sure of his answers. He's even text me today about remembering to pay the registrar?! He's also openly talking to his friends about the wedding like there's nothing wrong! Ive decided to leave it until Sunday evening, give him his night of space etc and see if i notice an improvement, if not then i'll just tell him i cannot carry on like this and that he needs to start telling people it's off xx

i really don't think he is going to cheat at the hotel, i think you are right he wants to do a tit for tat - you went away now its his turn...he is obviously being an idiot to you but its up to you what you want to do. After all, you know him best whatever anyone writes on here is speculations as none of us know you or know you as a couple. Wait til the tantrum is over, after the weekend demand that you get the answers...if he is still carrying on after the weekend i think you really need to think about your options (cancelling postponing etc)

Good luck! xx

wow lala you really took your time on this one!! lol ive checked hourly and everytime i have looked for the little man bashing his head with a rolling pin but this is close enough! if the bloke kees messing her around reckon there might be a queue of mad b2b's at his door ready to bash him lol

i'm glad you've decided to take the bull by the horns hun, even if does mean we may have to wait until sunday/Monday to see how you are and whether we need to smack him one or not, like some of the other's have said this is the first thread I check so I can see how you are, I hate seeing another person so upset and it really get's my goat when they're being blamed for something when the person pointing the finger is really in the wrong.
I really hope it all works out the way you want it to but if it doesn't you know we're all here for you (and I know i'm talking for a few other's but i'm sure they'll agree with me) good luck sweetheart xx

i live fairly close so im in lol !! lala will be guest of honour!! this bloke needs to see what "nagging " brides can really be like lol!

Wow, just caught up with this since last night hun.

What on earth is he on blaming you for nagging that is making him behave like this? The boy needs to learn about proportionate reaction!

On the other hand though, hubby in the 3 to 4 weeks before the wedding did have some seriously moody moments and I did have a go a few times about whether he wanted to marry me just because I was fed up of his moods, we're now obviously happily married and since the moment we said our vows he's been back to his happy loving way, relaxed and just like the man I fell in love with and chose to marry. I think that with us literally having just moved house 5 weeks before the big day, the house still full of boxes, being fed up with work and some pre wedding nerves he just behaved occasionally like a complete knob.

My point being with my little story there is that maybe he is worried, stressed and fed up with a number of things and that picking on your apparent nagging is his way of justifying his behaviour. At least I hope that is the case.

I did ask hubby last night for his views after reading your posts to him (just yours, not the other b2b's otherwise I'd be reading all night), his honest opinion was that your h2b has a bad case of pre wedding jitters and still loves you and wants to get married. I hope hubby is right, he's usually good at reading into things.

Fingers crossed for you hun that it all has a happy ending but if it doesn't we're all here for you!

aww hun I wish I could i'm only over the bridge (in Newport) but no car lol xx

it's very tempting, if only we could without getting into trouble lol, he def need's a stern talking to xx

im at he arse end of cornwall but im happy to travel!!!! no seriously i hope it turns out ok but you really need to think about how you let him treat you! after all in this scenario you actually were innocent!

Who needs phone tracking when you can call on uk bride welsh watch haha

seriously, good to hear he's being better tonight - I see a flicker of hope here for you after feeling so doomed about it all.
So hope it works out for you x

Ty for telling us where he is ......I "know"" people and would more than happy to bring them with me although I would require a few minutes in my own with him ... ..... Just to talk !!!!!!

My slapping hand is just itching to go to work .....lol

Maybe it's just me but i think most of our h2b's could do with a good slap every now and then, just to remind them who's in charge lol!

I am available to dish out a good Slap whenever i`m need ladies ... just let me know

How are you today Rachael? Hope things are better and you're okay xxx

Well said Velcro - I hope she's having a fab time and he's sitting alone in his hotel room, brooding and missing her ;-)