I am absolutely 100% fuming today......I need to get this off my chest as if i don't i feel i may end up saying or doing something stupid.....

I know that my soon to be in-laws have a slight issue with me, which is fine as tbh, i can't stand them, but what his sister and mother has done to my h2b is horrible.

His sister got married on Saturday and we weren't invited......H2b told me that he'd being told it was just a small affair and that not many were going as they were keeping costs down. On Sunday h2b started getting tagged in photos on fb.........photos from the small wedding that no one was going to....

I then asked him if his brother had being invited, to which he said "No". This morning whilst having my coffee, i noticed more pictures had been added, so thought i'd take a peek........well for a small wedding that no one was attending there were at least 100 people there, including his Brother!!!!

I can't talk to h2b about this as i know it will upset him, as although he says he doesn't care and he has me, to be ignored by your family is just the worse!! Even if his mum and sister have issues with me, h2b should still have had an invite to the wedding, I wouldn't have minded not going as personally they are not my type of people.

Some could say that it is payback because they are unable to come to our wedding, but that is because we are doing it abroad, and on the cheap and not having a massive affair, even his father whom we see every week isn't coming. I just can't get my head around how they could cliam it was a small wedding when every man and his dog was invited but just not h2b.

Grrrrrrrr

Aww hun that is seriously off! Surely they would have realised you would find out it wasnt a small wedding? I would tell h2b as if so many people went he is sooner or later going to hear off someone, or on facebook. Well at least you know that you are doing your wedding for you and h2b instead of trying to please them. They dont sound the kind of people you should waste your time, or effort with. xxx

I don't think he will talk to them, on saturday when he realised that she was getting married I asked if he was going to send her a message wishing her good luck and he turned round and said no, as he wasn't invited so why bother.

His mother upset him christmas eve ringing him whilst we were in Egypt and telling him off for not sending her a card even though we weren't in the country and she knows from previous years that we don't do christmas cards as they are a waste of money and he hasn't spoken to her since then (there's being a lot of b1tching from his mother and it all started when we got serious!)

Its as if he has written that side of his family off and i just feel so much for him. I'm so close to my family and when we had a falling out a few years back, i was devasted, so really really feel for him.

Just don't know what to do....x

I don't see why she's jealous, its not as if she cared about him when he was growing up, she was too interested in booze!!!

Maybe you're right and he doesn't mind, but i do, don't know why as i couldn't give two hoots about his mum and sister, but i care that they are behaving like this towards him...xx

omg that is so childish and nasty of them ur poor h2b.x

I know you feel for him and for how hes being treated but why seriously do you feel like you don't know what to do for the best? Obviously they are in the wrong and if your h2b isnt bothered about them, then you shouldn't be. Live your life happily with your h2b, ignore them and don't waste time worrying about them. Does he really need his mum in his life to be happy? By the sound of it she hasn't been there for him in the past. Obviously your h2b is more than happy that he has you in his life and by the sounds of it thats all he needs. He is lucky to have you, some people have no one at all so he must be more than happy with his life the way it is. xxx

thats really nasty hun!! if h2b is not bothered then dont let it upset you. some people are just pathetic xx

I totally understand your anger and disappointment for your h2b, I would be too,but they made the choice to shun him. In my book that would be unforgivable and from that point on Iwouldn't waste a second thinking about them or what they have done. Lifes too short. Make every second count by doing your bit to make h2b feel loved and v much wanted by you. xxx

sounds like you have all the love and support from your family that you need,stuff them let them get on with it and you n your h2b just carry on with your lives and being happy,u dont need people like that in your life.x

i dont have a very close family.... i prob see my mum maybe twice a year ...my sister is like my best friend and speak to her daily but my other sister maybe once every 3 months... i never used to live with my mum so maybe that is why i dont feel the need to speak to her... she lived in NZ for 3 years and i never saw her!! families are funny old things.. and to alot of people not being close to your family is odd. maybe your h2b isnt close and maybe used to being pushed aside as it were... perhaps it doesnt seem to bother him simply bacuase if mil2b was more intrested with drink than him growing up maybe he is used to it....

i know that the last time i went to stay at my mums i rung my h2b up angry because i felt pushed out like i didnt belong and wished i hadnt of bothered goin.... yet i feel very welcome at h2b family and he doesnt feel welcome at my parents (my step dad doesnt do small talk ever)

maybe its kind of the same thing that because he isnt close he really doesnt mind and like he said hes got you your his family too... unfortunatly we cant choose our familes yet we cqan choose our froiends and sometimes there more like families than are real ones

You obviously care about your OH2B otherwise this wouldn't be bugging you so much, but I agree with others than if he isn't bothered then that's fine, leave it at that. It doesn't change the fact that what his family did was outrageous but it's not worth getting upset over believe me.

I fell out with my entire family over my Dads death two years ago, they all treated me like dirt and offered no sympathy and compassion whatsoever. I now have no contact with them and won't be inviting them to our wedding. My OH was initially upset saying they should be there but we have had long discussions about it with me explaining how I feel and my reasons and that was enough to put his mind at rest, I am happy therefore he is too.

Don't sweat about his family and what they do, enjoy your time together and what you mean to each other, that is more important

at least he knows ur there for him huni,men arent big talkers but ur clearly supporting him and im sure thats all he needs.xx

I know, and I agree with what everyone says, and i will try not to let it bother me, but easier said than done.....Families aye, who'd have them.

Just thankful my family are not like that and have opened their arms to Mark (even if he is not what they expected me to spend the rest of my life with) xx

I do :o) So amazing my parents are tiling my hallway floor this weekend as i can't because of my back, god love my family