What about a different style of photographer? Alot of them can do very different stuff from the old fashioned "stand in line with all the relatives" shots. Would he perhaps go for something like that? Would you be happy with that as a compromise? I'm trying to remember the names of the other styles - I think "reportage" is one?

how about you make a compromise, saying that you'll only have say, 5 posed shots, and then have the photographer snap away during the day without you even noticing, i often think that unposed photos are much more special!! :P
I def think you shouldnt give in about the photos cos they are sooo important!! :P
good luck x x

tell him you can both have that time mingling and talking to people. It'll take that long for everyone to congratulate you! Some of the best wedding photos I've seen haven't been posed at all! Can you say the photographer will just take natural shots and not make him pose at all?? If he hates photos that much, they'll probably turn out better if they are natural shots :-/

Find a photographer that specialises in reportage photography, that is the type where there is no posing and they just capture photos throughout the day. You would still end up with some traditional shots because you would get those of you both saying your vows and probaby of signing the register too. For those people who you definitely want photos of, you just provide a list of the people you want. Definitely one to look into - and it can't hurt to ask.

Tell him how upset you are, and how important the photography is to you hun.
And tell him "if you really loved me you'd compromise"! hehe x

just ask the photogrsapher to be very subtle?? i asked mine and explained a weddin i went to wen phot man was soooooooooooo annoyin kepot makin us move etc said i dint want that. mayb a little pre shoot wud b gud to get him used to it

It sounds like rather than you both warring over the issue, perhaps you both need to meet a few photographers and let him voice his concerns/hates to them, and let them put you both at ease with what they can do to cater for both your desires regarding photography....

Do you have a wedding fair coming up locally you could maybe drag him to?

i strongly reccommend the pre weddin shoot!

my h2b is exactly the same, hed rather spend a couple of hundred pound on disposables and then get the cameras off the guests and pick the best pics, ive put my foot down tho and said i will not spend the amount we are spending on our wedding unless we have a photographer lol

my problem is gettin him to the pre shoot! he says its gay etc etc

oooh liking that idea sbride!! i saw one photographer at a fair and he did pics of the groomsmen looking in in a huddle n he took it on his back looking up and someone on outside took one of it too and it looked funny cos the photographer was on his back haha x i want that sort of ting hate posed pics too but i know if i dont have a few then i wont get any of my mum cos she always has a camera in her hand and gets everyone else!!

I am like your H2B, I hate posed shots and look awful in everyone.
Someone is booking and paying for a photographer for us, so we have compromised and said just parent and couple staged shots then everything else relaxed and informal.
I know I would regret not having any at all and I see your other halfs point of view. Stop messaging him and wait to talk to him properly as things never sound right in a message!

i think you will regret it if you dont get photos ! defo informal fotos is the way to go,i think !?

good news hun ! x

Wow, this is the biggest 'photographic' day of his life, he wont ever spend as much on photography again proabaly, he should just leave it to the pros who are well used to being told this. I can't remember a single client ever saying they love having their picture taken, this is why hiring a pro is essential - most spend more time with the bride than the groom does. Now-a-days (I have been shooting for over 20 years) the reportage style is what happens, wheather asked for it or not, as digital photography is made for it. Couldn't do this in the film days as was too expensive. Reportage is just story telling in pictures, afterall that's what the days is photographically a love story. Having said all of that, all my clients who start by saying "I don't like my picture being taken" or "I don't like posed photos" etc... always - without fail, on the day, ask for them :) There are many wedding photo styles, if you are interested my blog has a description of them, which I wrote for a local magazine last year... ************ have a read through it will give you a lot of information. Wedding photography often gets a bad wrap - mainly due to the amateurs who dont know what they are doing - however, it is still the hardest form of photography to do well..

Please please remember (or probably convey to h2b), that if you remove the romance and honeymoon (lets just do that for sake of arguement) then the wedding is all about what you see, the 'show' if you will i.e. the dress, the suites, the flowers, the car, the venues, even the food its all about how it looks, and you want it to look great - more importantly you want to remember it. Why would anyone not want a professional photographic record? These images are historic records, an heirloom for your decendents....

My 2 cents anyway?

Steve
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I am pleased you finally got him to agree to the photos. With the price of an average wedding, the photos are a small part of the overall cost and yet they are the only things you have to look back at.
As people above have said, the right photographer (check my site!), will be able to get relaxed, reportage style images which reflect the day perfectly and allow you both to relax.
Hope it all goes well for you.
Insist on a pre-weddig shoot, it does help.
xx

and you can get a videographer free too (i think?)hehehehehehe

Glad he agreed to the photos now hun (:

hails i dont reckon he realises yet lol

Haha, bless thats one way to get him to change his mind xx