Just as the title says, my h2b called me about 20 minutes ago from work to tell me that he doesn't like any of the colour's I have picked for my wedding, apart from the midnight blue bridesmaid dresses, he's not keen on anything else.

I have changed my mind on colours so many times and he know's I've been worried about them but he has never said anything about it till now and I don't really understand why!

His boss is getting married in June and by the sound's of it they have been talking "weddings" at work

I feel totally gutted and now I don't know what to do. I'm upset because he hasn't told me till now and really upset because obviously I haven't been involving him as much as I should have.

I don't know what to do now :-(

I got a bit cross with him and put the phone down before he really explained, so I'm waiting for him to come home from work so we can talk about it. I've been thinking it through and to be honest, it probably is my fault, I haven't really spoken to him about anything, I've picked everything, made the decisions. If I buy something I just show him and he'll often say "Oh, thats the colours we're having, is it?" .. God I'm awful :-(

thats a real shame. My h2b doesnt want to make any decisions, he just wants me to run my ideas past him and he gets to say yes or no. Well I would suggest just asking him what colours he would like! And if he cant think of an answer dont worry about it too much! Are your plans set in stone? Is there any room for manouvre? If there is it might be nice to change some bits and bobs to fit in with what he fancies? Sorry if thats not heplful! xx

You don't sound awful, at all. I have let Dave think he has decided on what trousers he is wearing (his choice looked better on the photos) and the colour of our vintage bus (the one I wanted isn't available). I tell Dave about ideas I have, but to be honest I think he loves the fact that I come on here because i can talk about weddings 24/7. Just tell him that if he wants a say in the decisions, then he should be willing to get involved more. There's nothing stopping him searching for things on the internet etc. It's so easy for a bride to get swept along with the plans, don't let it upset you.

Oh No!!
Im so sorry... He needs to communicate with you a little more... as in talk about the colours
togehter..

My OH hasnt really had a say in the colours, he just said what colour are the Bridesmaids so i know to get the same colour cravat lol xx

Dont feel bad Melody, he knew you were worried! You just need to sit down and talk about what he likes and doesnt like and take it from there! There is a 14 day cooling off period from our contract but it is in the fine print so didnt tell you before hee hee! xxx

i have gold ivory and cream but hints of gold.....

my h2b hates the colour scheme but i dont care :O) were having it end of :O)

What about having gold, blue and cream? Then you havent wasted all that money and still have a very nice classy theme?

where has he got that from???? The 3 colours would still go togehter but you ahve to love it too!

My h2b is the same... he's all 'Yes, honey' 'Okay, baby' about whatever I say... until he actually pays attention and then he goes 'Hmm, don't like that.' Then when I try keep him included, he's not bothered!

Now we've agreed that I get to do whatever I want and if he turns up on the day and doesn't like it well that's just tough buttons and he should have listened to me :P

I think he was probably thinking that he would let you have your day then when he got talking to someone else about the wedding he realised that it might not have been what he wanted. I think in one way he is very brave for being able to tell you and that it shows that you have a strong relationship in which he is able to talk to you when there is a problem so try not to take it to heart and look at the positives that have come from it.

Thanks Jo, I think your right! x

Croc, do you really like it? I'm really trying to picture it!

melody ... i will put am album in my piccs for you for inspiration..... as i was going to have this ... just some ideas but u will see what i mean xx

Just had a look croc, thank you so much! x

Jill, could I get away with just having midnight blue dresses and chair sashes and then everything else gold and ivory? x

remeber u only need hints of blue and gold to carry this off

I've just found a website which has loads of photo's from a wedding which was midnight blue gold and cream and it looks amazing! She's used midnight blue in the bridesmaid dresses, chair sashes and ribbons around the napkins. Everything else in gold and cream. Looks so elegant!

I had this problem......i fell in love with bridesmaids dresses but wanted them in burgandy. In the shop they were £160 each but i found a lady on the bay who was selling hers and that she had 3 for £70 in my colour too :-) so i got them and they are perfect............showed h2b and he hates the colour :-(

So i added a colour and now i have red/burgandy, black and ivory with two bm's in the dresses above and two in very similar dresses but in black :-) with my fg in ivory like me :-)
The only other thing in red/burgandy are my flowers and stationary, everything else is black and ivory!

It can work hunni it doesnt have to be everywhere just slight hints of it here and there and it will look GORGEOUS



i posted this in the wrong thread earlier lol oppppppsie

Haha Hails has the sunshine been getting to you?

OK, so far this is what I'm thinking

Cream and gold wedding invitations
Midnight blue bridesmaid dresses
Cream table cloths, napkins and chair covers
Midnight blue chair sashes

Place cards = midnight blue card with gold baby breath and name's written in gold on cream pearlescent paper
Table name and number = midnight blue card, number in gold name in gold and mounted in a gold photo frame
Menu = midnight blue card, menu written in gold on cream pearlescent paper and mounted in a gold photo frame
Favours = Cream box tied with gold ribbon

Navy blue (close as I can get to midnight blue) wooden rose, led on napkin and tied with gold ribbon

Either gold or clear scatter crystals

Table centre pieces are hurricane vases with a pillar candle inside, the candle is ivory but I will use either blue or gold sand. Vase will stand on a mirror'd plate and I'll use gold tea lights in glass candle holders.

I'm thinking of maybe using midnight blue table runners

And then I'll keep my cake the same as before but just have the colours changed.

What do you think??

Oh and I'm thinking of gold shoes for the bridesmaids

I think it sounds fab. Have it all ready for when the h2b comes home and then ask him what his honest thoughts are and tell him that he speaks now or forever holds his tongue and opinions.

Also if you want some lush ivory/gold shimmer paper I know just the place as it is where I got all mine from and they do the matching card for it too! Dee and dee (I think) have both had it too!

I'm going do just that Jo, I've even found pictures and I think a lot of the stationery stuff I already have I can still use, probably not the invites but everything else should be fine. And yes please, would love to know where I can get some paper :-)

How about reversing the trend and having dark table linen and/or chair covers contrasting with the ivory table runner/chair sash????

Hmmm possibility! I will list it :-)

Thanks Jo, I'll take a look now.

Hail's, your's sound gorgeous. I know the company I am using do have blue linen but I have very strange shape chairs so I'm not sure if they will have chair covers in blue. I've found it really difficult just to find cream

So, Steve think's it will look really nice and it's what he wants but I'm still not convinced. Typical.