Hi just wondered what peoples opinions are on guests to hen party. Do you generally also then have to invite them all to the wedding aswell? I donot have alot of friends but work with alot of girls i get on with. As you all know weddings are expensive as it is so cant really afford to just invite people i know but whom arent particularly close to me!? :# all opinions welcome please xx
Met 10/09/2011
First Date 19/09/2011
Engaged 26/06/2013
Getting Martoed 26/06/2015
CommentAuthorMidgetGem89
i think any pre wedding event must be followed by an invitation to the wedding unless good reason like theyve already in advance told u they wont be able to make the wedding(i think its just how its goes rly u wouldnt be to keen on going to a hen party wthout being invited to the wedding itsself)
CommentAuthorFlossie
I'd say they at least need to be invited to your evening reception if they are invited on your hen do! A lot of people have people there who won't be invited to the whole day, as some people may just want family at the actual ceremony with friends joining them in the evening. If I was invited to a hen do and was not invited to any part of the day though I don't think I'd be inclined to go and definitely wouldn't feel excited about it.
I will probably have about 10 people on my hen do, including myself, who are a mixture of close family and friends but they are all invited to the entire day xx
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CommentAuthorAprilS61
I woud probably have to ask why you haven't already invited them to the reception at least if your good enough friends with them to include them in your hen?
Mr & Mrs Swan 04/04/15
CommentAuthorVickyB70
I had a few hens that have only had an evening invite but I don't think its fair to ask them to pay money for your hen and for them not to be involved in at least the evening reception x
The only time I think it's acceptable to invite people to the hen and not the wedding (at least the evening reception) is if you are getting married abroad... I don't think it's fair to invite people if you're not inviting them to the wedding and like April said you can't be that close to them if you don't at least want them there for the evening reception.
CommentAuthorbarbie86
I only invited people who were invited to the whole day on the hen do, as that's the traditional way to do it. It would be OK though to invite people who are evening only, but I wouldn't invite people who aren't invited; the hen party is a wedding-related event, and IMO it's rude to invite someone who isn't invited to the wedding. The only exception IMO would be as people said above eg if you did invite them, but they can't come.
Otherwise, I'd maybe just suggest drinks after work one night before the wedding; that way you're all getting together, but it's not an actual hen do.
