Wedding Forum - Guests dropping like flies...but i'm kinda...

i posted a few days ago about how my bm has yet to book her flights and wanted me to basically book them for her as it was 'too difficult' for her. well, yesterday i told her that i really needed definite figures for the food and she said she was still coming. i did a costing of flights for her and her son, told her the price and it was more than she thought it would be, but she'd put it on her credit card. i told her to think long and hard about it. fair enough h2b and i spending that sort of money as it's our wedding, but we have not, and will not, be getting into debt for the wedding. i told her that she would probably need about 1k in total for flights, transfers, spening money etc for her and her son, and that's including me having them staying at our villa free of charge.

she is now decided not to come and i'm glad. she has annoyed me from the very start by not answering texts/calls and showing no interest in things like her dress arriving. now, i know this wedding is only a big deal to h2b and i and i don't for one minute think that anyone should care as much as we do, but it's an honour to be asked to be a bm.

h2b's best man works on the rigs and has calculated that he won't be able to be in cyprus, but will be home for the blessing. he said he could try and get cover, but would mean losing at least a week of wages (which are pretty huge on the rigs). we would never ask him to do that. we understand though and it's not really in his power. h2b is a bit upset, but he understands.

we now have us, our 3 kids, my aunt and friend, sister and (alky) partner, my moh and partner, sil2b and her 2 kids coming. fil2b and his partner and sil2b are looking at hotels, but it's looking like they can't afford it, which is fine, we understand.

so we have 14 people (including us) at the wedding. i'm actually happy with that. it's brought the cost of food down by almost half!! will only be £280 for the bbq instead of over £500. plus, we'll all get to have more wedding cake

the blessing will have 180 guests and it's looking like it's going to be a lot bigger and better than i ever dreamed possible on our measly budget

i do have one question for you all. do you think i should say to moh not to come and to save that money?? i know she really wants to come, but i really don't like the thought of her spending so much on us. also, i know it's not just about people WANTING to come, lots of people WANT to come, but is it actually fair for me to ask they pay so much, just to share our day??

I would say to your MOH that you understand if she cannot afford it, seeing as its alot of money. She would oviously still be your MOH at your blessing, right? xx

This is why we didnt invite anyone, i would of loved to invite my MOH but she has uni commitments etc and i wouldnt ask her to spend that sort of money for me etc. I would talk to her hun tell her how you feel about it xx