We were discussing the other day when we might finally be able to afford to get married. We then thought about guest numbers because we don't want a venue too big or small. When we started thinking about the guest list we realised that our guest list will be really very small. I don't like a lot of his friends and he doesn't like a lot of mine. So much so that we have both said out of each others friends who we don't want coming. This might sound a bit harsh, but seeing as it is both of our days, we need to both feel comfortable with who is there. Also, I wont be inviting my dads family because it would end in arguments and my mum probably wouldn't even go. I don't blame her or resent her for making that choice as to be honest if I had been through what she had with them, I would probably be the same.
The thing is, with our guest list at about 15-20 people is it worth paying a lot for a venue or would we be better off re thinking it and having a small scale wedding? I would love the celebratory party after, but with such a small guest list, would there be enough people to create a good atmosphere? If people left early for whatever reason, it might just fizzle out and that would ruin it. The other option, which I think I am favouring, is to get married abroad because, more than anything I don't want to be telling my friends that they aren't coming. Also, would it be cost effective, because as I have said previously, money is a big issue for us. I am not opposed to a registry office wedding, but my H2B doesn't want one so really, that's not an option.
I don't think the wedding will be happening within the next year unless things drastically change, but I want to get to the point where I feel like when it is time to really start planning and booking that I am not stressing out about this stuff.
Sorry to have a rant x
CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
About 18 months ago 2 friends of our got married. She was my hubby's ex-housemate and a very good friend of both of ours and she met her (now) husband who is German. Within just a few months, she'd moved out there but when he proposed her one stipulation was that it would be back here in London. So, in December 2012, they came back here and got married in our local registry office. She has a lot of friends over here, but they were on a very tight budget. After the wedding itself, they hired out a local Caribbean restaurant that we have all been to before an d her friends had secretly decorated it with bunting and made wedding cupcakes for them. All in all, there were about 18 of us but it was seriously one of the best weddings I have ever been to.
It was so intimate and full of love and both the bride and groom got to spend a good amount of quality time with each one of us. We were also asked to go round the table and say one memory we each had about the bride or/and groom, which was so lovely - you couldn't never do that in a room full of 100 people LOL!
After the meal, some people carried on the party at a local pub that she used to go to, to dance the night away. There they were joined by a much larger group of friends who wanted to add their congrats to the couple.
I really don't think it matters about the number of people. I think they did the whole wedding for under a grand too :)
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CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
There will be venues that do weddings from 2 people up to 300 so look for those venues so you can still get the glitz and glamour but on a small scale. I will have a wee look see if i can find something for you xx
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
Found some plces and put links on your wall xxx
CommentAuthorsarah
With those numbers it would be worth looking into restaurants with private rooms. Also most venues have small rooms as well, so they're still an option.
a small hotel? a plus if you do go abroad you could have a party when you get back and invite all of your friends, even the ones which either of you don't like, you'll be surprised how people will treat you after your married :) xx
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Small intimate weddings sound lovely, you could go for a nice hotel with a small private function room or nice restaurant with a small private room. You can even have a ceremony in one of those nice manor houses without having your reception there. The options are endless. What about a local tea room if you have one for example?
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CommentAuthorBev
I love the thought of a small wedding (no chance for us as both our families are huge!). Whatever you decide to do, make sure you're doing it for yourselves and not to please others x
CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
Thanks everyone, this has made me feel a bit better about doing it here :) I still worry about upsetting one of my closest friends though, but an after-party style celebration sounds good!
Thanks for the links I will have a look :) xx
CommentAuthorHappyBunny
and another chance to wear your dress :) xx
CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
That is very true ;) lol x
CommentAuthorGem
can anyone help please?? im just doing my guest lists on here and have finally finished my daytime one :) but!! i want to do an evening one and cant seem to set up another guest list for the evening guests?? ive been on the help and it says use the create button but i cant find te create button anywhere?? please if anyone could shine some light on this it would be very much appreciated :) thanks xx
CommentAuthorCharlieBe-Cool
Gem - I had the exact same issue. Contact UK Bride direct and they will probably email you a link to create a new one, they did for me.
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CommentAuthorGem
charlie your a life saver :) thank you, ive been going out my mind trying to get it sorted :) x
