After several heated discussions with MIL regarding inviting 2 of H2B's cousins (we dont want them there and she does), it all cooled down and MIL siad that it was okay not to invite them as 2 of the other cousins we wanted to invite are going on holiday therefore not all of the cousins (on her side!) are invited. Okay so invites have been written and H2B and I spent ages having to remove people from our evening list as we have 140 people and can only have 120 max. MIL got the invites to give out to her side of the family (can I add here that she has got all her brothers and sisters and their partners invited, and is the only parent there that has! FILs two sisters only went on at the last minute) and politely informed H2B that I had forgotten some people - The TWO cousins that she told us we didnt have to invite!!! ARRRGGGHH. I informed H2B i didnt forget anything they are not bl**dy invited especially after we have just had to take people off the guest list that we actually want there. OMG I'm furious I cant believe it. H2B is going to have to sort this one out I'm too angry to speak to her, all she is bothered about is what if someone from her side complains that they arent invited. I've already said she just needs to politely tell them its not her wedding ITS MINE! Sorry ladies rant over. Any tips on how to let MIL know she is not having every tom dick and harry from her side of the family there?
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
Ask her who from her side of the family she would like to replace them with.
Now a extremely happy German housewife and now a Mother!!!!
Islay Jean born 24th June in Hannover.
CommentAuthorJane
Good one Dove!
CommentAuthorceli
Oh I had the EXACT same problem - three people who i have never met MIL2B "really really really would like them to be there." It caused me and H2B to have a massive argument which annoyed me as its neither of our faults. I definately sympathise with you hun! i like Doves suggestion, i'm going to do that right now! x
CommentAuthorfuturemrsstockwin
poor you! leave it up to h2b to sort out and stay out of her way until its sorted. We have had a few problems with his side of the family and i have just let him deal with it i am sure we are going to have issues when the invites go out but i will cross that bridge when we come to it lol! familys aye! xx
Nightmare! Why does it always have to be hard work, its YOUR wedding, not a day for your MIL2B to show off!
UKB Mad Scientist
Ride it like ya stole it.....
I'm a flippin ORTHOTIST
CommentAuthorCupCake
I would say ... " if you are paying for the extra guests have who you like! " if not "sod off" lol
Became Mrs Lyons 30th July 2011 x
CommentAuthorbillybob
Ha ha love it Dove your comments always make me smile. We have previously threatened to not invite any of the cousins that kept her quiet for a little while. I wish I had read Hails - tips for the MOG 6 months ago- it basically says she can help draw up guest list AFTER asking how many guests she can have. Her side of the family have already taken priority. I could actually threaten to invite all my Mums side (she is one of 6) including my cousins (there are many!) and we'll have to wait another 12 months for the wedding while we save to pay for it and find a bigger venue.
CommentAuthorbillybob
Cupcake they are contributing, and their offer made by FIL was followed by how its our money to spend on what we see fit and they will not tell us what to do. Its not the money thats the problem our venue has a max capacity of 120, we have already taken people off the guest list that we actually would like to be there. I have never met the cousins in question and H2B hasnt seen 1 of them for about 10 years and doesnt like either of them.
CommentAuthorCupCake
I'm having MAX of 56 in the day as thats all the venue will hold for a civil ceremony.... it's been HARD! sometimes you just can't have everyone! I have left out some of my cousins kids etc ( as I NEVER see them) and have invited mutual friends of ours instead who we see all the time and love dearly! I think you just get more balls when you get older and tell people how it's gonna be, not bow down to bossy family members! xx
Became Mrs Lyons 30th July 2011 x
CommentAuthorHoxxyhula
There's no way they would stay on my list - I like Dove's suggestion. And then (if you're feeling like a bit of fun) add that she will need to think of a few more to go on her side as some more friends of yours will be coming instead!
stir, stir ;)
CommentAuthorsbride
I had the same hun, we just didnt invite them, and if they dont like it, then tough, its your wedding, not hers!
I am now Mrs Stacey Stiles and loving it!
CommentAuthorbillybob
Cupcake I have done the same I left out aunt's, uncles and cousins because I never see them and dont know them, instead I have some of my closest friends who mean alot to me, MIL asked me who they all were and then said she supposed they could come! (This came right after the "we wont dictate speech" and the money offer)
