Hi all, your opinions on this would be most welcome. Our venue is quite restricted on numbers so we have to be really tight on who to invite, obviously all our close family & friends & even thrown in a few of the Mob & Mog friends in to keep them happy....or so I thought.....my h2b used to be best friends with this guy & was even usher at his wedding however in the past couple of years we have hardly seen them not for lack of me trying, we have had 2 daughters in that time & they didn't come to meet them despite us arranging a date (they disn't turn up) although did buy a gift for our 2nd daughter born 8mths ago. It was my partners 30th in Match & I sent at least 3 texts to this guy & couple of messages on fb inviting him out which he did not ever reply to & my h2b never heard from him, which he was quite disappointed about. I therefore do not feel the need to invite them to our wedding as we have clearly drifted apart, which obviously happens sometimes, but the problem comes with the fact this guys parents are best friends with MIl (we have invited the parents) & mil feelsfor sake of her friendship we should invite them! This really annoyed me as I'm already not inviting any of my cousins (am inviting h2b cousins) and sacrificed a few friends for others she wants to invite. At the end of the day it is our wedding & I really only want the people that care about us there. Sorry for such long post but felt the need to fill in the details. Am I right to not invite them? Oh and it's not just the vase of it being 2 people, I would have to invite his bro & Sis plus their partners!! X

I think you invite who you want there and please yourself. It's your day! You could spend forever trying to please everyone, and they don't seem to make the effort with u! I'd be inclined to agree with you that they shouldn't be invited!

why should you have to invite them it would be different if they made an effort but not replying to anything is generally just rude your wedding, your guests xx

Yup I agree, don't feel pressured to invites anyone you don't want too! you both should only be inviting people you really want to share your special day xxx

Thanks people, we can only have 120 in the evening anyway & that is really small, there are other friends I see more often that I would rather invite than them but may not be able to due to numbers anyway. Plus the family seem to have weight issues and always say if someone has put on weight & I would feel really uncomfortable with them there. Sounds good to me, our wedding, our guests. Thanks xx

Of course you are being unreasonable ....what on earth make you think this day is about you ...shocking , you should know that it is all about inviting people that you havent seen since you were four that your parents insist will be hugely dissappointed if they are not invited because "they always ask about you"

I wouldn't invite someone I hadn't seen and who hadn't responded to invites or made any effort to meet up - not unreasonable at all xxx

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. I think the guest list is the most stressful thing about a wedding, lol. xxx

its ur special day and u have who u want there hun xx

I think the guestlists cause the most blow up arguements, i have a large family and h2b only has a little, so compromises needed to be made largly by me, things kicked off with the Mil2b when she was not only adamant that her cousins turn up, but also people that my h2b hadnt seen in years were invited, i compromised on her cousins and cut out some of mine (who even now i think have more right to be there as they are more closly related to the bride and groom than her cousins are) but i comprromised coz if not there would be very little of his family there, but i drew the line at the others, like a couple that my h2b had been a page boy for 15 odd yrs ago and have never seen since