My h2b cousin has put a post on facebook that is she is single. She never lived with her partner but he was coming ot the wedding. We have to have table plans in by weds and not sure what we should do.
We have paid for the wedding but there is another guest I need to pay for and well to be blunt I do not want to pay for a guest if there is a vacant place .
H2b has messaged his cousin with no response. She is known to be very moody and at H2B's sisters wedding she was so sour faced it was horrible.
Should I just cross him off if we do not get a response by weds morning?
CommentAuthorJEm1905
Personally YES! If she can't be bothered to send a reply why should you be bothered to pay for his grub.. let alone hers. x
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CommentAuthorBobsi
I would. I'd give her the chance to let you know what is going on if she doesnt tell her he isn't coming.
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CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
That's a complicated situation because they might well get back together with the way couples are nowadays ! Personally I'd message her 'politely' informing her that seeing as she is listed as single and has not bothered to respond to your message then he is being taken off the list and can't be added back on as seating is now confirmed.. And just add your other guest in.. X
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
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I'd give her one last chance to respond and then drop him.
CommentAuthorJennyHeather
Yea cross him off if she doesn't get back to you.
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I think u should cross him off to if she doesn't get bk to you x
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CommentAuthorKimD7
she has until tonight I am doing the board for the table plan tomorrow. If she does not reply he is off.... I found out today they split a while ago and her mum knew.
CommentAuthorMichelleB2b
I agree with the ladies, cross him off if she doesn't get back to you, but message her politely and explain the deadline you are working to before to give her one last chance.
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
yep tell her that you need to know by Tues 8pm evening if he is coming .....if you have no response then you would assume he isn't and adjust your seating plan accordingly
well we hard from her...not only is he is noting she and her 2 daughters aren't as in her wrods "she could not face happy people"
Been reworking the tables etc now as it left the family tables unequal.
I am lucky our venue has agreed that any cancellations b4 the weddign day the cost of their meal will be taken off the cost of wine or we would have just blown a fair bit of cash.
I have a feeling if OH had not messaged her last night we would not have been told they were not coming.
CommentAuthorsarah
omg... at least you know before the big day x
CommentAuthorAmyK
If she's a sour cow, then say you understand if she doesn't want to come at all, if she'd rather avoid the fuss of family asking her questions about the 'other half' and potential upset of being at a wedding? That way you'd save 2 meal spaces. Plus, is she the type to get all drink and teary and make a scene because she's upset?
CommentAuthorAmyK
...ok, ignore that, I should've read the full thread first!
CommentAuthorMichelleB2b
Well that makes that a lot easier then if she's not coming. At least that's one less person you need to worry about!
CommentAuthorGillianE
she could have still told you the situation before now, i know she may have been upset with the break up. But courtesy to tell you none of them are coming to the wedding without been prompted for an update on the situation would have gone a long way. But at least you know now and you haven't had to pay for them when they aren't turning up.
xx
CommentAuthorLisaT18
i think her mum should have told you that she knew. and at least you know before you had paid for them all
