I just showed my h2b the grooms checklist put up by hails and he saw the bit about groomsmen. Are they pretty important and do most people have them? Can't the best man or I help him out with clothes or are groomsmen more than just a male version of bridesmaids? xx
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
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I think groomsmen/ushers are there more for the guests on the DAY (handing out order of service, confetti etc) while the best man tends more to the groom, before, during and after the day. I dont think you have to have them its really up to you..............Your best man will do!
Sorry for giving you more questions lol, they were meant to help not give you more to worry about lol Im sooooorrrrrrriiii
edit - just read my post and it made no sense, so ive rewritten it lol
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CommentAuthorvixen
think were having groomsmen only cause my h2b has got 4 bro's..lol x
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CommentAuthorlillylou
ah, no problems, was just wondering. So do the ushers as well as the best man stand by the alter with the groom? Guess we could go for same numbers of BMs and groomsmen to make it symmetrical and fair in that case. :-). x
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
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Hi ya, just found these for you
Whats an Usher? No, not the R&B singer Usher – but wedding ushers! They’re the first smiling face your guests will see. Ushers help greet guests, distribute programs, and escort people to their seats. They may also help prepare the ceremony location, such as arranging chairs or testing the sound system, or any of those other essential last minute tasks that you really don’t need to be doing in your wedding gown.
What’s the Difference Between Groomsmen and Ushers? At some weddings, there might not be any difference between the two. But when differentiated, the groomsmen are typically people who have a closer relationship to the couple than the ushers have. Ushers are sometimes not included in pre-wedding events (such as the bachelor party) and may be dressed differently than the groomsmen. Both ushers and groomsmen should be given boutonnieres to help guests identify them.
Do You Need Ushers? Certainly the duties of ushers are important, but some couples ask the groomsmen to fulfill this role instead. At very casual weddings, guests might find their seats by themselves. But especially if groomsmen and other members of the wedding party will be occupied with getting dressed and/or taking photographs before the ceremony, it’s helpful to have some ushers who can direct people to restrooms, assist handicapped persons, and answer questions. I especially recommend ushers if you need to keep divorced guests separate from each other, or anticipate any other seating conflicts.
How Many Ushers Should You Have? The general rule is one usher for every 50 guests. I suggest that for small weddings, you have still have 2 so that they can keep each other company.
Who Should You Ask to Be an Usher at Your Wedding? Traditionally ushers are men, but if you’re having a modern wedding there’s no reason to let the boys hog the limelight at the ceremony doors! Choose family friends, cousins and other relatives, or other people you are close to. Make sure they are people persons who feel at ease talking to strangers and will be glad to be helpful.
Of course you can have as many ushers groomsmen as you want or none at all. Hope that helps babe
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What is a groomsmen? A groomsman is typically a man who is important to the groom in some way. He may be a friend or a relative. Like a bridesmaid, a groomsman is visible on the happy couple’s day and may perform important tasks before the wedding. In some cases, a groomsman may not be a man at all. Some men ask their female friends or relatives to act as their wedding attendants, wearing dresses instead of the usual tuxedos.
Similar to the way bridesmaids help the bride, groomsmen are expected to help the groom. Before the wedding, a groomsman acts as an advisor to the groom, supporting him and helping him to overcome any pre-wedding jitters. He may also help the groom with staying organized and planning certain wedding details. The groomsman also assists the groom with choosing attire for his attendants.
A groomsman is expected to attend all pre-wedding parties. This may include engagement parties, a bachelor party, and any coed showers. A groomsman is expected to attend the wedding rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner as well. A groomsman is also called on to provide moral support on the day of the wedding, helping the groom to relax and dress for the ceremony.
Typically, a groomsman has important jobs to perform on the day of the wedding. He is usually tasked with showing guests to their seats before the ceremony. However, some grooms do have separate ushers for this job. Groomsmen are also expected to stand near the groom during the ceremony, participate in formal photographs, escort bridesmaids from the ceremony, and dance with them at the wedding reception. After the reception, a groomsman assists with moving wedding gifts and other items belonging to the happy couple.
Being a groomsman entails certain costs. Wedding etiquette dictates that a groomsman pays for his own attire for the ceremony. He is expected to handle the costs of traveling to the wedding and securing a hotel room, if needed. A groomsman is also charged with helping the best man host and pay for a bachelor party. Furthermore, he is expected to provide one shower or engagement gift and one wedding gift
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CommentAuthorlillylou
aw thanks for going to all that trouble :-) I think we'll go for 2 ushers and the best man. The 2 ushers can be people who know lots of the guests so h2b's uncle and brother. Thinking of recruiting one for my side too, will see how it goes. Thanks again! x
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
your welcome babe
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CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
I thought Groommen were an Americian tradition? Never seen them at a British wedding.
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CommentAuthorMrsB
we're having 5 grooms men! because there all special to my H2B plus there getting people to there seats handing out confetti cones order of service I think there a good idea x
CommentAuthorEmsy5000
we're having a best man and four ushar/groomsment so h2b is doing better than me with attendants lol but they have a lot of work to do so its good
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CommentAuthorRoxii
We're having 1 Groomsman lol.. Just cause H2B wants him to have a part in the wedding, I couldn't be that fussed either way TBH I've seen him twice in the whole time we've been together, so he's not really much of a part of my life. But H2B is good friends with him (don't see him often as he lives so far away) so I can't really grumble. x
