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    • KatyR91
      CommentAuthorKatyR91
      Posted: Apr 27th 2018
     
    Hi All,

    H2B has asked a female work colleague to be his GroomsMaid/BestWoman, and although to his face I say I'm not bothered that he has asked her, inside I am pulling myself apart.
    They work together, and there has been rumours circulating around work that they were having an affair (totally not true, as she is recently married and frankly H2B is not the type at all). But a part of me is just frazzled.
    I just need some reassurance that this is a totally normal feeling, I'm not jealous but I cant describe how I feel either.
    We are having a small wedding, only 40 for the day, including us and maybe 80 for the night, so its not like she can be lost in the crowds either, she is going to be quite prominent in the day with her being BestWoman/GroomsMaid. We get married in June 2019.
    Please just tell me I am being paranoid...
    Thank you :)
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Apr 29th 2018
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    I wouldn't be happy either if hubby had a female colleague as his BM. That however is because generally I'm an insecure person and don't lile feeling like there is another female he might be close to who isn't a relative.

    Could you speak to him about it?

    What do you have to be paranoid about if you're certain they'd never have an affair.

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    • KatyR91
      CommentAuthorKatyR91
      Posted: Apr 29th 2018
     
    I'm only paranoid as i am insecure too. Previous relationship before H2B was highly abusive and i am still trying to recover 8 years down the line.

    I am 100% certain that he hasn't had an affair, he seriously is head over heels for me, so i know it wouldn't have happened, I have also met the woman so i know from her point of view that she loves her husband dearly and wouldn't go any where near my H2B.

    I think i just needed somewhere to vent and get my head in line!
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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Apr 30th 2018
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    I think you will be fine then. Just remind yourself of what you said.

    A good friend of mine when she got married her hubby had a Best woman ............married and very heavily pregnant (8 months) at the time so he had to have a backup best man just in case. She was awesome! Probably one of the better best man speeches I'd ever heard.

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    • StaceyH989
      CommentAuthorStaceyH989
      Got married 22 months ago
      Posted: Apr 30th 2018
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    My H2B has a best woman and I'm not worried at all, we are great friends and she is the reason we are together. I wanted to have my best friend who is male as my man of honour but my H2B wasn't comfortable with the idea because he is very traditional and now he has a best woman.

    What you could be feeling is the struggle to accept a new tradition best woman and bridesmen are a relatively new idea in weddings still.
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    • KatyR91
      CommentAuthorKatyR91
      Posted: May 1st 2018
     
    I cant honestly say i am traditional in the slightest, we are not traditional.
    I'm just torn it hurts.
    K :)
 
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