Wedding Forum - Groom's Cake :-(...

Decided to start a new thread as to not post my opinion in anyones and make it "personal", so am I the only person that doesnt understand or agree with a groom's cake?

I have noticed loads of talk of it on the board lately and I havent said anything as I dont see the point. Is the wedding cake, the bride's cake? I think that it makes it more separate and not a joint day.

The groom's cake seems to be a surprise for the groom from the bride. But to me, that just means that the wedding cake is more for the bride. Which isnt really my thing.

We have one cake, "Our Wedding Cake"

Borrowed from good old google some info about a grooms cake:-

The origins of the Groom's Cake are somewhat unclear. Traditionally, the groom's cake is packaged into small, single-serving boxes for guests to take home. The roots of this custom may date back to early Rome when guests would scramble for fallen crumbs after the wedding cake had been broken over the bride's head. The cake and the crumbs were thought to bring good fortune to those who ate it.

Another theory dates back to the eighteenth century, when it was traditional to pass out small pieces of the wedding cake through a wedding ring whose owner was happily married. Victorian bridesmaids would practice this ritual on the eve of the wedding. They would wrap the pieces and, on the day of the wedding, would give them out to all the unmarried guests. These unmarried women would then place the piece of wedding cake under their pillow in order to dream about a future husband. This same custom also dates back to nineteenth century Southern tradition, when the same process was followed.

The Groom's Cake still retains the concept that it is a gift from the bride to her groom, a special way of honoring him and including him in wedding ritual. The Groom's Cake is a second, sometimes a simpler version of the wedding cake, with one or two layers. While the wedding cake is served to all the wedding guests, the groom's cake is used for extra pieces that are packaged into tiny boxes with ribbons or into envelopes, for guests to take home and "dream on." Sometimes the small packages are displayed on a table for guests to help themselves. The Groom's Cake may also be used as a way to include children and others who could not attend the wedding, a way of allowing them to "share" in the couple's good fortune. Incidentally, there is a superstition that holds the notion that a bride who keeps a piece of her wedding cake will have a faithful and loving husband.

Today the Groom's Cake has become a way to honor the groom by reflecting his interests and personality. The cake can be decorated to show his hobby, favorite sport, alma mater or occupation. Brides are becoming more and more creative with the groom's cake, having it created in any number of shapes and styles. This makes the Groom's Cake a great place to be funny, silly and outrageous . . . a real stress-buster!

The Groom's Cake may be presented at any one of several times during the wedding celebration. It is entirely up to the bride and groom as to when they wish to serve the cake. Some couples serve it at the rehearsal dinner, as a toast to the groom, or a special way of thanking wedding attendants and special guests. Couples can choose to have miniature versions of the Groom's Cake to give out as a way of saying "Thank you." Some couples serve it as alternate dessert with the wedding cake. Sometimes it is included as one of the layers in the bridal cake. Others keep it to serve as a late night dessert for the wedding party and close friends. Regardless of when the cake is served, either the groom or the groom and his family should cut and serve.

Traditionally, the bride orders the Groom's Cake from the same baker who is providing the wedding cake. The inclusion of a groom's cake is a way to balance the scales and to include and honor the groom who might feel neglected. A Groom's Cake is certainly not necessary, but it adds a nice touch. Regardless of what it tastes like, its design, when it's served and who orders it, the Groom's Cake can be one of the most delightful parts of the wedding celebration.

I'm only giving Steve a grooms cake because he really wanted a fruit sponge wedding cake but I am allergic to it so I said no as I didn't want to have a wedding cake that I wouldn't be able to eat. So his groom's cake is going to be a fruit cake, he know's he's having one, it's not a surprise, he just doesn't know what the cake will be, he thinks it's just a duplicate of the wedding cake

Think its more of an american thing to be honest and altho i do like the idea, i think its just an extra expense that we could do without!

There are some BRILLANT ones out there tho!

We are kind of having a grooms cake as its the h2b's birthday on our wedding day so we are having an extra cake for him to blow his candles out. If it wasn't his birthday we wouldn't do it though.

It's down to the individual. There's nothing wrong with having one or not having one