Hi ladies, I'm having my grandad walking me down the aisle as he practically brought me up. But this has seemed to of caused a rift for other family members?! As they don't agree?! My dad's invited to my wedding but have a slight feeling he won't show, but my mother is barred along with my siblings. This is the only way I can get a smooth wedding but now, my so-called mother and siblings have stopped me from seeing or speaking to my dad and I don't know what to do?! Thank you x
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
Since I seem to be online way to late or early in the morning; I seem to be the only one replying :P
That does seem like a difficult solution; it is horrible that your family have turned against you and are barring you from speaking to your own father. I can undertand you wanting your grandad to walk down the isle as he sounds like more of a dad then your real one (I don't know so drawing no conclusions here) as they may be a bit offended but should understand.
Maybe you need to arrange a mutual place where you can all sit down and discuss the situation or at least ask them why they are being like they are. :S
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CommentAuthorsarah
I'm confused. Why have you barred your mother and siblings from the wedding? How can they keep you from seeing/speaking to your father? It's hard to give any advice without knowing specifics. 25 months is a long time, I hope your family situation will become more harmonious during this time.
I'm sorry you're going through this, it sounds like a very difficult situation.
CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
H2B's neice was brought up by his parents as his sister is a waste of space and the dad went off to have another family.. She started seeing her dad again at 16 and invited him to her wedding 6 years later (last year) but she still had her grandad walk her down the aisle as those 6 years of contact could never make up for the fact he left and would never replace the fact that her grandad is more of her dad.. xxx
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
As an adult you have the right to speak to who you want. Presumable if you've invited your dad you have some contact details for him? Your mother can't tell you what to do. She probably always imagined that she would have pride of place at her daughter's wedding as mother of the bride, but there is obviously a reason why this is not appropriate.
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If you're a lot closer with your Grandad then it shouldn't really come as a surprise that you have asked him to walk you down the aisle.
You need to focus on what will make you and your H2B happy on the big day and try not to let other people stress you out (easier said than done I know!) xxx
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CommentAuthorbendy_jendy
My mother is barred as she abused me growing up and got my siblings to cover for her every time I phoned police, social or childline. I would say more but I'm be here forever trying to write it all down lol. And for the last 5 years I've not spoken to her or siblings but my dad still lives with her, and I moved away from it all for a fresh start. And I don't want my mother or siblings in my life anymore, it would cost me my H2B and grandparents..and they are the people in my life I don't want to lose..and taught me to be the person I am. I am having my grandad do the honours...it's what I want, weather people like it or not. X
CommentAuthorbrilly
so sorry to hear this Jenna hun, If your Grandad is who you want to give you away hun that is entirely your decision regardless of what any family members may think. Hope you manage to resolve the issue hun and hope your dad turns up in your special day for you. Aslong as you have those around you that you love thats the main thing hun x
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CommentAuthorbendy_jendy
If my dad don't turn up its his lose at the end of the day...he knows all about it so now the balls in his court weather he chooses to or not...but I'm gonna stand by my decision and have my grandad do the honours..x
