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    • VictoriaB
      CommentAuthorVictoriaB
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    Ok so I know this site isn't all daisy chains and fluffy bears ,no relationship or wedding is perfect, everyone has there ups and downs when planning and today I am extremely down down down on planning.

    H2b hasn't been well (man flu) and he's been kinda short with speaking to me so I've just generally stayed out of his way to save an argument BUT I just overheard him talking on the phone to one of his friends all cheery laughs and jokes and speaking about buying a house together, well excuse me but isn't this something you should speak to your future wife about?!? We get married in 8 weeks and he's speaking about buying another house without speaking to me about it when he would be using "our" savings that I personally have worked very hard to save!! So I asked him and the argument started and well I must be stupid because "youve always known I wanted to buy houses to do up and sell" ermm well yes I have but not with half my bloody money without even informing me!!

    So come on,I know all of your relationships aren't 100%perfect so what's your other half done this week to really get on your nerves and make you go ARGgggGggHhhh!!! ?
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    • Nicky2988
      CommentAuthorNicky2988
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    Sorry he's being a muppet hun. Withdraw all bedroom activity until he will discuss it rationally with you!

    H2b is recovering from an operation and is spending literally all day on the playstation while i run around after our almost 8 month old son, who is at the cruising around the furniture stage and is getting into eveything! I'm exhausted as h2b has been off work since July and has needed 2 life saving operations in that time (our son was born in june.) I've looked after our son since he was a newborn with little help as h2b was so ill, i've done all the housework, cooking and errands. And i'm tired! Thank goodness he's back to work a week today. One less baby to look after! Lol xx
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    • AllishiaW
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    Quite frankly he sometimes breathes and it gets on my nerves lol!! In all fairness he's actually been good the last few weeks (he's probably hit his head at work ;)
    Not 2 sure what to say tho hun :/ sum times men think they've had a discussion with you when they actually haven't-maybe he's don't that x
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    • Crawf
      CommentAuthorCrawf
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    Ah I love finally telling it like it is :) nothing is always roses!
    This week OH got up and made us breakfast, two weetabix... Nothing challenging, but thoughtful none the less... Until...Then less than an hour later when I asked him how long it was til we went out he threw it back in my face, supposedly he was taking a long time as he HAD to make our breakfast, oh yeah.. Cus putting weetabix in a bowl is tough!!!! 'How dare I not respect what he did for me.' I cook every meal every day for us, fend for him and his mates on a weekend when they are round, and he is stroppy about weetabix in a bowl?!
    Cue big argument.
    All over pretty quick but it's sooooooo annoying

    Xxx
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    • LauraY27
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    Hahaa, hubby2be has been quite good this week. Well we had one spat on Saturday night. We went to the pub with our group of friends and their 3 babies, one being a tiny 5 week old (sooo cute). I had a few vodka and cokes, get home and he says to me, "hurry up and get pregnant", like it's all down to me! I just stormed off for a cry, because after trying for three years were now under a consultant waiting to start treatment. He then said to me, "what are you crying for? It's not a big deal", so I told him that he clearly doesn't understand how hard it is for a woman to accept that she can't do the one thing nature intended and have a child without help.

    I personally think that these silly men don't think before they speak!x
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    • *KelBel*
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    Annoying thing about mine is when he speaks without thinking especially when causing an argument with people (not arguments with me,just others) he's just very opinionated but I think he needs to tone it down!

    P.S - I agree with you over the money thing...I don't care whether you're married or not, I don't know where he thinks he's getting off thinking it's ok to use your savings to buy a house, his own,well maybe, but not yours without discussion. You're supposed to be a 'unit' so finances are one of the things you should be discussing as a 'couple' to him and his friend discussing as a 'couple' x

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    • MrsH-2B
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    Mine has been a pain in the bum for the last 5-6 nights, I feel guilty cause it's not actually HIS fault lol, but for those nights he has been snoring sooooo bad !!!!!! Saturday night I didn't get to sleep until gone 5am !!!! I was nearly in tears !!!! Last night I put my headphone in with music on an I think I fell asleep within an hour but it hurts my ears having earphones in to sleep :-(

    I know it's not his fault but OMG I could throttle him in his sleep sometimes !! Lol xxx

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    • LauraY27
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    Hahaaaa, know how you feel georgi. Think it must be a universal man thing!!x
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    • Whovianbride
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    My Oh is off work thins week and had a go at me for leaving too many tabs open on the laptop and leaving a programe open when he does the same. He does this really annoying thing muttering under his breath when I go upstairs but I can hear him. Hes the one who hates when my mum gets mad and shouts at me if I like accidental break something.

    Luckly later I blanked him and he picked up I was upset so I told him how I felt and appoligised and said he was really sorry, its partly nicotine withdrawral, an gave me hugs an said he loved me!

    Your oh is way out of line, if he atleast disscuses it with you , youd prob agree as these type things bring in much better interest than in the bank. But he can't just expect to just go do it

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    • MrsH-2B
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    Haha Laura ! I haven't mentioned it to him cause he feels so bad about keeping me awake and I really don't want him to sleep in the kids room like he's offered before but if it carries on I'm going to have to ask him to get snoring remedies from boots or something xxx

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    • BethanyS
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    I would be incredibly upset. Sometimes I get a little upset, as bad as it sounds, when its little things that he's planned without me. It just feels horrible when you feel something is going on behind your back. x
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    • SandyG83
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    H2b asked me a week ago what did I want to do on my bday I told him id like a meal out and left it at that. So this evening my bday im sitting patiently hoping he remembered then he asked me uf I had booked anywhere and then got upset with me when i said i thought he would . not sure if im being unreasonable thinking he would book somewhere or for getting upset he didnt think he should, so argument starts because he cant understand why I got upset.

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    • Soldier Wife to be!
      CommentAuthorSoldier Wife to be!
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    out of order! sorry for you hun!

    My H2Bs cousin is so attention seeking and rude and everything that goes with it and she has upset me with a dress that is almost the same to my bridesmaids dresses (iv put a more detailed post up) but he wont stick up for me and tell her she cant or that she shouldnt wear bridesmaid colourss etc and is just saying 'leave it'. not the biigesst issue but its annoying!! Its because she is like this ALL the time with one thing or another. grr i feel like saying me or her haha!

    not as big of a deal as a lot on here but u know.. little things!!!

    hugs girls


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    • LauraK7
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    Nothing yet but watch this space it's not normally long before something comes up haha

    I agree he shouldn't be spending YOUR savings on that without you agreeing
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    • VictoriaB
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    Well we talked this morning after I went to bed with hump on lastnight lol and he says he wouldn't ever do anything without talking to me first they were just looking and he would talk to me first before spending our money,I explained that it upset me to think he would spend our savings that I too work to make sure we have for the future without asking me what I thought and that just because I knew HE wanted to do something doesn't necessarily mean that I want the same and it's half my money,felt a bit childish saying it's half my money because it's like this is mine this is yours but it's the truth and OUR money was put aside for a better future for OUR family when WE decided mutually what we wished to do with it lol.
    We've made up now. :D love eh!! Haha x
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    • VictoriaB
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    P.S. I'm so pleased that you all are normal and do have lovers tiffs and real life dramas,even if it is about preparing weetabix. lol x
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    • LauraF89
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    Aww glad you got it sorted!!

    My OH is terrible for decision making too, he's far too quick to buy stuff without thinking if he even needs it! Luckily we still have separate bank accounts as well as a joint one and a savings one so if he does want to buy something it's coming out of his own pocket, not mine! :D

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    • katielea100
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    My OH pretends to be in a mood to annoy me then when he's put me in a mood he laughs n finds it hilarious
    I found it hilarious getting him back by getting my satisfaction in the bedroom n then leaving him hanging ahhhh :) haha
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    • Officially Mrs M
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    I really can't complain about hubby this week he's been a gods send looking after me while I've been suffering with pregnancy symptoms. He has cooked, cleaned the whole house top to bottom while I went out for lunch and has been awesome.

    well so far he has. he annoys me when he makes it out that I do nothing at the moment to his family. they all know that I can't because i'm just so sick with morning sickness and migraines so they take no notice but that annoys me

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    • almost a year wife!!
      CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
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    well i feel well sorry for mine! hes having a right shiz time in work, yesterday his boss called him a pr!ck and a mard ar$e and also said nothing would make him happier than having him (h2b) f*ck off somewhere else or better yet f*ck off home then he proceeded to tell him to f*ck off and then put the phone down on him! h2b did nothing wrong and this is not the first time this has happened! and i was working a night shift last night so i couldnt even be with him so he could vent...
    i hate his boss, hes a total *insert expletive here*
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    • DawnK21
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    We are so close to the wedding now that I've been buying and paying for lots of things. Nearly every time he hears about it I get the same "HOW MUCH!?!" comment. I'm bored of explaining everything now. Lol.
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    • SandyG83
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    Omg missweedles that horrible what a nasty bully is there nothing your h2b can do about this?

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    • lala "mod" bunni
      CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
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    now im going take a different tack here ..... i your hubby's/h2bs are getting on your wick for various reasons BUT at least they are here to annoy you, i will see Mr lala face to face for a total of 10 weeks this year....i hate that no one is there to give me cuddles when im in pain with my leg, stressed with the lack of empathy from work etc ... no one to cook for or even discuss what to have for dinner..no one to help out with house work ( not easy on crutches )
    i get to speak with him via Skype at weekends only and then it cant be a conversation like normal as he is on call 24/7 so we are quite often interrupted by him getting calls etc.

    So while i would be joining you no doubt to whinge about things if here were here at least he would be here ...

    from a very jealous of all of you Lala

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    • VictoriaB
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    Aww lala I know we shouldn't moan but that's what woman do best (according to men)
    It sucks that he's not there with you but bet you have the best time ever when he is, makes you appreciate him more than probably any of us appreciate our h2bs when they're constantly there you do tend to forget to appreciate each other and little things niggle.
    In a way I'd say you're lucky because I bet you love him as much now as when you first met him!

    I'd say I love my h2b 70%as much as I did when I first met him lol 6years of living with his snoring , mardy bum mood swings,lack of knowing how to tidy up after himself and slight selfishness would do that.
    But on the other hand here's some posatives...

    He can be caring,he's the best dad I've ever met and when I watch him playing with our son and caring for him I feel so content and full of love and proud of him as a parent to our son, he's thoughtful, protective, he does the best job of putting the clothes washing on the radiators haha , he looks after me when I'm poorly,he defends me (even when I'm sometimes wrong) he doesnt go out every weekend and wee away our hard earnings, we can talk about absolutely anything and never find it difficult to find something to have a conversation about, he argue and burst out laughing at each other, I don't mind that he thinks he's hillariously funny even though iv heard him repeat jokes, he's good looking, VERY charming a real sweet talker.and finally he's my best friend.

    So even though our h2bs annoy us sometimes we are still in love enough with them to make vows to spend the rest of our lives together xx
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    • Nicky2988
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    Aww, Lala. That must be so hard.

    As much as h2b drives me up the wall, I wouldn't be without him. I've nearly lost him twice this year to a horrid illness so the little arguments seem trivial now. It made me realise how much I love him and how much I'm not me without him. He's the best daddy in the world to our baby son, he's my soul mate, my rock and is a complete hottie!! :D xx
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    • StephHsoon2bBodkin
      CommentAuthorStephHsoon2bBodkin
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    My other half doesn't annoy me. I have no issues with my partner and to me relationship is perfect. It's what you make of it. Everyone might disagree with me but if it's the small things why let it bother you. It's the big things you should stress. Like using you mine to buy a house. That's harsh!!

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    • Becky1608
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    Glad things are sorted! I would have been furious with the idea of savings being spent on that!! Xxx

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    • ChrissyH
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    Oh Lala, I only really see my H2B for half of the year. As a farmer he is out from early hours to 10-11pm at night during the Spring, Summer and Autumn. It'I love seeing him in the Winter but that's only on weekends or in the evening after work. It is tough. There are times when I do see him I want to throttle him but I love the guy. (Thank goodness as we get married soon!) Just know that I'm thinking about you while you are alone. x




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    • Soldier Wife to be!
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    aw lala i feel terrible now because in the 7 months my H2B was in afghanistan i would have loved him to have been here to annoy me! so i am on a similar page now i have read that!!

    am glad you sorted things victoria!!xxxxxxx

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