and they take a frickin mile, so h2b doesnt go out very much now i wont drown on about why, and niether do i just because it doesnt intrest me anymore.

so gorgeouse sunny day today and i thought i bet he could do with a nice cold pint when he gets home from workin out all day in it.

so i said why dunt you go out for an hour and have a quick pint, that was at 5, no call,txt and still not home, he wasnt goin to pub he was goin to his friends gf's mum's as thats where his mate was.

basically whats happened now is why he doesnt go out anymore, cant just go for a quicky, the last time he went for a quickie he did manage to stay out a bit late but not this late, so i didnt mind as much.

i dont wanna stop him goin out but i dont see why i should have to stay in all time we kids, if he'd have come home and id said come on where goin out for an hour wi kids or just me and u, he would have said no i cant be bothered!!!

so basically im quiet annoyed, pi$$ed off and disapointed in him.

im gunna go to bed soon out the way cause i dont wanna argue when he comes in cause then he gets annoyed and mad at me for gettin munk on with him!!!! omg im so annoyed with him and gettin madder with him more and more every minute.

wouldnt be as bad if hed txt or rung just to say im stayin out but NO, and hes goin out on an all dayer sunday with all his mates while ill be stuck in wi kids again on me own. x

sorry rant over!!

Feel for you hun I hate it when they do it too. Maybe you should arrange to do it one night, pop and see a friend or a relative and leave him with the kids - see how he likes it! xx

he wont come back groverling he'll come in pi$$ed out his face stumbling all over and go straight to bed, i have gone from annoyed to mad to angry to fumming to im gunna knock him freakin out to im gunna lock him out, the inconsiderate a$$hole i am so mad but tryin my hardest not to ring/txt him kickin off. who the hell do they think they are to treat us like this????????????!!!!!!

hayley i have done that 3 times and each time ended up with some huge massive incident and police been called im that nagry now i cant be bothered typin it but ask me another day and i will.

thanks twirler.

im gunna go to bed out the way cause i dont wanna be up when he comes in.

Ok hun try and get some sleep and see how you feel in the morning - hope everything works out ok xx

i hope your ok this morning

I know how your feeling hun, mine wont even txt me and yet iv been told by his mother he was up and having a fag in garden so clearly ignoring me! x

But you say that he rarely goes out anymore because he cant make it just a quicky............so you suggested go out for a change it doesnt sound like you are always left home alone with the kids? What is stopping you going out to a friends house or something one day? You say you choose not to go out because it doesnt interest you, surely theres something you would enjoy doing?

I am home alone 2 or 3 nights a weke while h2b goes out to his bike club. When it was 3 4 or 5 nights a week it was getting too much but we spoke about it and it is limited to 2 nights now so that i can go out if i want to and we can still have evenings in together.
No point getting angry and fuming when they go out for an evening though, i take the chance to relax, soak in the bath, watch whatever i want on tv or just have music on while i read my book, or treat myself to indian as h2b cant stand the smell of it.... No point getting worked up and angry about it.

Hope you are ok this morning.

well he came in about 5 mins aftre i got in bed then i heared voices and the door close, so i got out of bed and he was sat in garden drinking with one of his mates.

i left it half hour then txt sayin that must have been a big pint pot its took you 6 and half hours to drink it. he txt bac sayin am in garden so i played tsupid and said what u on about, then he rang and his mate said why dont u come down for a drink with us, so i got up had ago at him asked if heis fingers where broke then laught at his mate cause he said we've been sat in garden since 7.30 and i couldnt help but laugh.

but i have had a seriouse talk to him and told him he is out of order, and that he doesnt need to be rude when his mates are around. as he doesnt that everytime one of his mates is there.

hes not fully forgiven but he knows how i felt and he will now kiss my arse for a few days haha.

he has gone out today somewhere with his mate which im slightly annoyed about as i had plans but he said he wont be long ( we'll see) and we'll go when he gets bac.

thanks ladies for puttin up with my rants x

Ah i get you. I hope you dont think i was having a go coz it wasnt meant like that.
I was a single mum for quite a while before me and h2b got together, before that i was in an abusive relationship with a man who constantly was out with his freinds, also couldnt just got for 1, quite often wouldnt come home till 4 - 5 am, if at all.
I learnt if i wanted to do something, do it myself. I would take the kids out for walks, to the park etc by myself. Friends had children and we would try to arrange to all get together on the weekend. H2b now does a lot with us, weekend is family time as we both work, but i do get where you are coming from now and i would suggest going out with the kids and if he cant be bothered to come then its his loss.

Ah of course he isnt that bad and your in love, your getting married!! woohoo!!!
But if you and the kids are feeling stressed out from being in the house 24/7 then get out and do something with them and have some fun, he doesnt have to be there and maybe if he starts realising that you are going out having fun without him he will want to come join in :D

ah hun, your going to have to sit down and talk to him, i know it may be hard but you have got too. try giving him the guilt trip. I sat h2b down and said about money and he is trying now bless him. x

tell him that you really want to take the kids out, that they have been in all week and deserve a day out x

i do becky thats why im not goin out :-(

anyway i tried we argued and are currently not talking since yesterday, we're takin kids somewhere today though, im a control freak and hes my puppet on strings apparently x

Aww, how rubbish. I'm so lucky that my Clive is good with money, or if he wants something he asks me first. For the house that is, what he spends his own cash is up to him, but he if wants something for the house he always asks first and we consider if we need it before spending the money.

Sounds a bit rough on the kids. If he is such a worrier is it worth spending so much on the wedding if you dont have the money to do normal day to day things? It is unfair to say you are controlling and he is like a puppet. If he is not happy about money why cant he just say no?

yes but u luk after the kids so its shared money!!! meeeeeeennnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn!

i would be the same as you but i would take the money and make it stick up so he new i took it and i would take the kids out when he asks where its gone or where you got it from id say found it and go somewhere nice he might of been keeping it for you but then surley he would of told you or hinted

faeth he isnt saving it up for me i know that for certain!!!!

yes becky i agree but he makes it out as though i take all the money and spend it, i take the money and pay the bills!!!!


abi hes just sly and kjhfdwpieurhfpqew (well u can unjumble what that could say lol)

rye we have gone threw a budget a million times or at least i have tried and every time, he says it will cost what it cost as long as its no more than £15,000/£17,000.

he is never happy he could have a million in bank and would still worry over money. he's due his tax bac and av told him this time he can put it in his isa and do what he wants with it. To which he replied i thought it was goin on wedding, i said no i dont want it u can have it its your money do what u want with it.

ok as for today i took the kids out on my own and its cost me £1 for a cuppa, other than that we took a picnic and the kids had an amazing time played in the big park and in the water pools and fountains that where there, they wanna go bac tomorrow. Only reason were home now is because my daughter decided to ignore me when i told her to take a change of clothes when she got wet but she didnt :@ so complained she was cold.

so ive just got in and hes not here surprise surprise hes gone out,so i checked where the money he'd hiddin was and its gone plus the money that was in the kitchen cupboard so its gone from him only needin £20 to him takin £55 out for the day.

we still havent spoke to each other and hes slept on sofa for last 2 nights it will be his 3rd night tonight.

o and just so u all know hes out with his mates who are all out together with there girlfriends

oh just got back can imagen what you ment my h2b is good and i can all the money if i want it but MEN!!!!

lol u do rite lass

make him buy u sumthing too