Ok so h2b and I have been talking and come to loggerheads over gifts. He would like a gift list. But I personally feel uncomfortable asking for gifts. Is it rude???? I know loads of people do it so not sure why I think it's rude or why I'm uncomfortable. I am not fussed about receiving gifts. Getting married is enough, I guess it's part of my personality not liking to cause a fuss or be centre of attention il just be happy if people turn up. But then I guess some people will want to give us a gift so do we make it easy for them or.... Arggh so rambling just so confused :/
Also we already have a house together with the things we want so would it just be getting gifts for the sake of it of we did a guest list. We have already sorted honeymoon so vouchers for that aren't an option.
What do you all think??? What are you all doing? Xxx
CommentAuthorBobsi
No it's not rude it's a tradition. If there is stuff u need then have a gift list but We are the sane as u so we are just putting a little note to ask for money instead. Xx
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CommentAuthorMrs P*R*C*2013
Have a gift lift prepared but only give it out if a guest asks you for it. If a guest wants to buy you a present let them, you're not asking them to buy you anything, just accepting their generosity xx
CommentAuthorInDreamland
We are having a gift list. It's not rude but I think what we will do is on the additional information sheet that we send to guests, we will have a line in there that says something to the effect of "we really hope that you can spend the day with us and celebrate and will really appreciate you being there. We do not expect any gifts as your presence is enough, however if you would like to buy us a gift we have set up a list at ............................"
Don't feel cheeky hun, people will want to buy you a gift so if you don't give details of a list people will ask for it and if you don't set one up you will end up with tonnes of stuff you hate or don't want/need .............and 5 toasters lol. xxx
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CommentAuthorphoebee
We are having a post box where guests can put their cards. In the invitations we politely said we didn't want gifts as we live together and have everything we need already, but if they did want to give us something then they can put a small amount of money in the card so we can use it when we need it. I wrote a small poem and printed them out and put them in with the invites, they went out to all of our guests. X
I felt the same when we first started planning the wedding. I didn't want a gift list as i felt uncomfortable telling people what to buy me. But it is a wedding so people will buy you gifts, and everyone kept telling me that they'd rather me have a gift list because they wouldn't know what to buy and wanted to get me something i'd actually want and would use. xxx
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CommentAuthorhigginszajac
Why not ask for vouchers for a couple of shops then you can use them to get what you want later xx
CommentAuthorMrsAndrew2B
I am the same. Not fussed about gifts as long as people turn up. We've lived together for over 7 years so got everything. If people ask about a gift list I just say vouchers of cash will be fine but we don't expect anything xx
CommentAuthorMrsShaw
We're not having a gift list. We already live together and don't need anything for the house so there'd be no point. We've asked for honeymoon thomas cook vouchers instead and its not even the wedding and we have enough to have a decent honeymoon already :) any further cash will just allow us to go on an even better one :) Some people have sent us cheques, and we will probably use them as spends for activities when we go :)
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CommentAuthorChelz3110
are there things you need? if so you could make a gift list and as someone said, hand it out if people ask x
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CommentAuthorVickie
We aren't making a gift list, if people want to give us anything we are going to get money/vouchers towards honeymoon You can get a honeymoon gift list now where people put money towards your honeymoon. We already live together and there is nothing particular we would like, we have not had a proper holiday together and OH will be in uni still when we get married so we will be going a year later when he finishes uni to relax before he starts work etc. Going to have a mini moon somewhere (parents have a place in Spain so prob there) after wedding.
CommentAuthorLegoWife
We've just asked for vouchers from popular department stores and if people want to get us a psychical gift they can get us whatever.
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CommentAuthorCaitlinD
We aren't asking for gifts, mainly because we live together and have everything we need that is traditionally bought as wedding gifts! Instead, we are going to set up an account with the travel agents where we book our honeymoon and guests can pay whatever amount they wish into that account which will go towards paying off our honeymoon or spending money. We would be much more grateful for that help than a toaster! Lol. All our guests are cool with that, think it's a great idea! Xx
CommentAuthorMel D
We didn't want a gift list or to ask for anything as we've already got everything we want. People kept asking us, so in the end we asked for vouchers towards our honeymoon
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CommentAuthorbridalmiss
Afriend got married last year and they'd been living together 2 years and had all the home things, but she was 7 months when they got married so they had a gift list and when you looked on it, the only thing you could get were vouchers for John lewis, so they could buy the baby things and they're also moving house this year so they could wait a while to use the vouchers. Could be a plan?
CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
We've not got a gift list or anything. We just want folk to turn up lol. The venue isnt all that close to home so I guess its cos they'll have to travel 45 mins to an hour to get there, I would feel bad having a gift list.
I dont mind though, like you said, getting married is enough for me. Im not fussed about presents - although some cash would be lovely hahaha
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CommentAuthorMrs Davro
We are having a bit of a discussion about gift lists. We don't want a debenhams or john lewis one as we want different things from different people so we were going to ask for money but I've now found a company that does a gift list for lots of places.
CommentAuthorbambi.mk
There are some good ideas here! Thankyou, think I've come to terms with it not being rude :) but still a little uneasy about it but I guess if people don't like it then they don't have to do it. What company is it Katie? Can you write it on my wall? Not sure of forum rules. How are people going about asking for money? H2b said it can be done through a website kind of like just giving but not to a charity :/ or are people just accepting money in cards?
Thanks for all your help girls. H2b and I have loved all your ideas and opinions although i think he is getting slightly frustrated with me pausing the tv to read him each new post lol xxxxx
CommentAuthormelliecake
We were originally going to ask for money for our honeymoon but h2b's mum has very kindly said she would pay for it! People started asking for a gift list when we sent invitations out so we went to a well known departments store beginning with D to set one up to get a few new things for our home. We hated the experience as everything was so expensive, for example £22 for two glass tumblers...We don't want to even ask people to buy us things so ridiculously priced so haven't bothered letting anyone know about the list.
My dad has started making us a wishing well anyway which was for cards and the honeymoon money so will just try to spread by word of mouth that we would like money then we can shop around for the things we would like afterwards instead of being restricted to the expensive stores. And if we get a few gifts unexpectedly that's fine, our guests know our style so shouldn't be anything hideous! I think trying the gift list suggested by katie would be a good idea for you bambi and just tell people about it if they ask so that wouldn't be rude at all.xxx
CommentAuthorMrs Davro
Tbh I can't remember the name of it but just google online gift list. It has places like b&q argos even debs I think.
