We don't have a gift list as we already live together so don't need towels, toaster etc. We've got an insert saying something along the lines 'whilst having you share our special day is all we ask, if you wish to give a gift, a small donation towards our honeymoon would be appreciated'.
H2b thinks we should include these in the evening invite but I'm not sure??
What's everyone else doing about gift lists etc in the evening?
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CommentAuthorAprilS61
We're adding an insert with the invitations. People may say its rude to ask for money but it's the done thing now, times have changed. Majority of people live together now before getting married after all! X
Mr & Mrs Swan 04/04/15
CommentAuthorInDreamland
We didn't give any gift list details in our evening invites, only for those guests invited to the entire day. It didn't feel right mentioning gifts to those only getting an invite to the evening reception x
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CommentAuthorSonya
See that's how I feel about it. Did your evening guests ask you what you wanted or did they buy you gifts?
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
No they didn't ask but they all came with gifts, gift vouchers for department stores and photo frames.
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We aren't having the gift list on our evening invites or our day invites...we are just having the details of our wedding website that has a gift list section on it. We are also having my mum's email address and phone number - super traditional haha! the way I see it is if people want to find out what we want gift/contribute whatever then they will either go on there or call my mum...if they are the type of people who wanna do there own thing then they will! i personally wouldn't include it on an evening invite though...xx
CommentAuthor**MrsFarrelly2B**
We're doing like kitty Harris....included wedding website address and there's a section on there for gifts - honeymoon experiences. X
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CommentAuthor**MrsFarrelly2B**
Most probably will buy you a gift of some description so why not get your list in there somehow as its better they can choose something you want if they're gonna spend money....x
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CommentAuthorToniB17
We did a gift list at a department store and included the gift list cards in the evening invites - it's not really the "done thing" but I know most people will still get a gift and didn't want 30 photo frames!
CommentAuthorSonya
Argh! Really don't know what to do. Feels cheeky including it but we don't need any photo frames, towels etc.
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CommentAuthorbarbie86
We included it after much to-ing and fro-ing as there are a few evening guests who will definitely want to get us a gift and we just thought it easier to include our registry information from the get-go.
I was in two minds as traditionally you don't because they don't get a meal etc like the day guests, but in our case it was difficult as the main reason we were limited for the day was space, so we've made every effort to try to make sure the evening guests don't feel like second-class citizens eg we have lots of entertainment, we're saving cutting the cake for the evening, and we've put on a big spread of food as well as put lots of money (£2.5k) behind the bar. So, there are some family members and friends getting an evening only invitation who will still want to get us gifts.
CommentAuthorVickyB70
We included our gift request with evening and day. The way we worded it made it clear we didn't expect a gift but at the same time we didn't want people wasting their money on something we didn't need/want (hope that doesn't sound selfish) x
CommentAuthorAprilS61
We dont have a wedding website, so for us it's either include an insert in the invites, or get 10 photo frames and 5 marriage certificate holders etc. we're making itclear that we want the, to share our day with us though, not that they are invited for gifts/money x
Mr & Mrs Swan 04/04/15
CommentAuthorVelcro
we didnt have a gift list for the day guests, but if we did i wouldnt add it to the evening invites, i don't think i would feel right doing that x
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CommentAuthorSallyB180
We have added a polite, fun poem printed in our day and evening invitations saying we would prefer cash if considering getting us a gift, it's light hearted enough for nobody to feel obligated :-) x
CommentAuthorSonya
So after stressing about it we included it. As others have done it's not a gift list as such just a little paragraph, hopefully enough to let people know we don't expect anything but if they wish to that we don't need gifts but contributions towards our honeymoon
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CommentAuthorMrsCross2be
We included it also. We made a little card on V1sta Pr1nt with a poem asking for donations to honeymoon but for those who are funny about giving money we went and did a gift list at JL - even though we have everything we need we chose random things and had a real fun time. Id sign up even if you dont want people to buy anything haha its worth it for the free glass of bubbly and free coffee and cakes!
CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
We will be adding a little poem saying pretty much the same thing. Already with not even a year to go yet 2 guests have already bought us something so we've already put on the wedding event page on FB the poem to ask people not to as we don't have the room and we have everything we can possibly need.
Going to get a couple of hat boxes and make a Mad Hatters card box for them to drop donations to honeymoon in at the wedding.
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CommentAuthorFlossie
I was wondering about this last night - we will be using the poems to send out with our invitations but I didn't know whether it would be cheeky to send them to the evening guests as well.. I guess evening guests would bring a gift or money with them wouldn't they? Wouldn't want to sound presumptuous though! xx
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CommentAuthorEdwennaH
We have got a really nice poem to go in our invites and it mentions putting the money in a wishing well and placing a wish for the couple. Its a nice of way of asking for money rather than a gift. As most people these days have already set up home together, and some people, like us cannot afford a honeymoon as we are saving for the wedding ourselves. So any money received can go towards that. Most people I find don't like to turn up to a wedding whether it is day or evening empty handed, and most people would prefer to give the married couple something they want. I think it's fine to put a request for money in with the evening invites as well. :) I'll post the poem if I can find.
CommentAuthorEdwennaH
To save you looking, shopping or buying. Here is an idea, we hope you like trying! Come to our wedding, to wish us both well, And make some use of our little wishing well. Just put some money into a card, Now make a wish…see that wasn’t hard! Now that we have saved you, all that fuss. We hope you will come, and celebrate with us. Please don’t be offended at this type of request, As our day will be complete just having you as our guest.
CommentAuthorFlossie
I found a nice one yesterday which we will probably use..
"We've lived together quite a while, with all our pots and pans, and as we don't need homely gifts, we've got another plan! We know it's not traditional, and not the way it's done, but rather than a wedding list, we'd love a bit of sun. So if you'd like to give a gift, and send us on our way, a donation to our honeymoon, would really make our day! But the choice is really up to you, and we would like to say, that the best gift that we could receive, is you, here, on our special day."
Happily married
18th June 2016
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CommentAuthorEdwennaH
That's lovely MrsP2Bx :0
CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
That's exactly the poem were having MrsP2Bx
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CommentAuthorFlossie
I'm just making a draft insert up to go with our invitations.. what should I put as the 'title'??
Honeymoon Wish? Gift Wish?
Happily married
18th June 2016
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CommentAuthorJennK
Which computer program are you using for mock ups flossie? :) I want to play too!
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CommentAuthorFlossie
I'm just using Word at the moment! They're not coming out too badly :) am converting to PDF before printing which makes the quality better. Also using our printer at work which is super duper lol x
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CommentAuthorclairenina
We inserted a paragraph of text (not a poem) in with our day invites only.
