Hey Ladies.
I am now getting married in less than 6 months but am getting really nervous that NOTHING is going to be done in time. I don't have cold feet about marrying him, I am just scared that I am not prepared enough. We are still waiting to finalise his divorce, he lost his job this week, we have still not booked a reception venue, transport or even given notice of marriage at the registry office!!! Then there are the little things like favours and activity packs to entertain the kids. I know the logical thing would be to put the wedding back but we are getting married on our anniversary and that is very important to us. It falls on a Saturday this year and won't be on a weekend again til 2016!!!!!
We don't have a budget as such because funds are so low right now so it's a case of finding the money for each individual thing at a time which is the main reason we are so far behind. We are really cutting back on as much as possible and are going to be making bouquets with supermarket flowers, making the stationery (MIL has already made the invites, I am doing the rest), Doing our own buffet, FIL is our photographer, BMs are getting there own dresses, etc, etc so we are doing well so far but I feel sick at the thought of the important things not being done in time!!
Am I over-reacting?? We got until June 25th. xxxxx

take a deep breath and count backwards from 10. try not to stress so much, u'll go all bridezilla on everyone lol. just try and think about the bigger picture. things will happen. u just have to make them happen. get h2b to find out when divorce is finalised, and as he got time on his hands he can start looking at potential reception venues as well. the smaller things can still be done. arrange a time to go and give notice to marry at the registry office.
just think - there is still time! xx

We are looking at 3 venues on Thursday but one of them I would already like to go with. It's not far for me to get to, is easy to find for my out-of-town guests, they are happy to have children, they don't have another wedding on that day, they are happy with outside catering, and will only charge £180 for the room hire. They can also sort out a DJ for us for £150 which we will pay direct to the DJ on the night. I could probably find one cheaper but it would be one less thing for me to stress over if we go with theirs. xxxxx

Kris, We can't give notice of marriage until he has his decree absolute and it is going to cost something like £75 each when we go to do that. xxx

don't worry it will all fall into place you will see

I am so nervous too! i just dread all the organising im really scatty and have the brian and meomry of a sieve!
Its nice to know im not the only one stressing!!!

I'm Really indecisive thats whats setting me back lol because i can't keep to one idea it changes every other day lol! worried i'll change my mind the day before the wedding on what i want lol
xx

....but I think nerves are completely normal, exceptable and will all just add to the amazing high on the day xx

i am getting married in may we dont have transport(will be taxi lol),venue yet.just tommorow we will go to book a church.so relax ,its can be done.we have just one income so we pay as go

Thank you everyone, nice to know I am not the only one!! lol. xxx

Amiejade, Thats exactly what I am like, I got a special notebook which is my Wedding Planning Book and EVERYTHING gets put in there. from silly little ideas on a whim to important things that need to get done, I even cut pics out for hair ideas and stuck them in. It's nice to have one place to go to for everything. xx

Crocadillo, thats lovely about your parents, it's nice to hear that it can be done. PS, you are getting married exactly 2 weeks before me! lol. xx

Butterflydreamer, I have been chopping and changing my mind on things too but luckily it's on things that we have not sorted yet and I keep changing my mind to quicker, cheaper and easier ideas!! lol. xx

Thank you Katkin, will set myself an hour, a glass of wine and some chocolate to do that this evening. xx

Rags, our printer doesn't work!! lol. We are going to order some "Just Married" Rock sweets and give guests 2 each as favours. I am kinda planning on wrapping them in tissue and ribbon so that they look pretty. xx

yay another june bride!!... thats loads time!! you WILL get it all done on time positive thinking and just remember to bargian them down as some of he best deals are done last minute as they are unlikely to get any other booking... i got doves for 200 instead of 500 on sunday as im booking for a few months time and most people have booked months and months in advance xx

yay!!!!!! getting married early... noon as we are going on honey moon on our wedding night and leaving at 10pm so we went for an early ceremony but not to early so at least i am awake and not grouchy!!

oh ive got loads... need to find a photographer as mine is an ar3e and ive sacked them haha :(, need to assemble 100 favours from scratch, got tastings, invites to decide on, need to meet up with florist to discuss flowers, need to go see registrar, need to book a dj (apparently ive got one but not payed a depoisit until 7 days before but am penciled in!!) gotta get hold of piccies of everyone that in the wedding, gotta make 100 escort cards, make the crystal drops for them..... OMG am not bricking it am gonna stop before i cry at how much is left to do!! need under ware etc etc

what about you???

<off to find gin to settle nerves!!> xx

Now I KNOW I'm not the only one!!! lol.
I start thinking "I need to do this" and then it develops into "oh, and that, and there's that too, can't forget this either, also need to sort that and then there is this and OH MY GOD THERE IS STILL LOADS TO DO!!!!!!!!!" LOL.
Anyone else the same??? lol. xxxxx

Thank you Spooney.
I have been taking all your advice and taing it all one step at a time. We are going to look at 3 places tomorrow for our reception and will hopefully make a booking within the next week (depending on the cost of the deposit) and we get enough money next week to pay for the last part of his divorce without leaving us short. We can't meet the registrar til he has his decree absolute so I am just going to put that to one side for the moment. We have the booking provisionally made anyway. While we are waiting for his decree absolute, we are going to sort out the favours and get the invites sent out.
Do you think I should wait until I got the RSVPs before making the place cards??