i asked my 2 closest friends to be bridesmaids well i thought one was one of my closest but since ive asked her to bee my bridesmaid she hasmt hardly spoke to me :/ i asked her to be my cheif bridesmaid too, she was sayin this that n the other about all these things i dont even want for my hen nite. how do i tell her that im not happy with how shes been n if she carries on ill have t pick someone else to be my bridemaid?

Just sit her down and say, I know you have a lot of ideas and are enthusiastic but I'm not too sure about everything you have suggested, so could we just change some stuff. She should understand, it is your hen night after all.

I'm having the same problems and i've actually had to ask my other bridesmaid to step up to be the chief because she just isn't bothered. I was the same and haven't sent her the hen night text yet as i need to meet with her and tell her how she's made me feel and tarnished the planning by chasing her round all the time. I've also asked someone else to be the bridesmaid as i feel i can't even rely on her for that but i haven't told her this yet as i want to tell her to her face rather than over text/email.

just sit her down let her explain where she has been and also then tell her how she has made you feel and that you feel she cannot forfil her duties anymore and you have to do what you see fit for your wedding and you think it would be best if you gave her duties to someone else, unless she suggests it first.

give my thread a read (maid of Honour rant/confusion) see if it helps as a lot of the girls have made good suggestions on there of what to do