Having veggie soup for lunch. Yummy and healthy.

So sorry for your loss Sarah. Good luck for today hope it all goes ok x

It will be Christmas before you know it, people tend to be prepared in December because they know people go off but at least they have given you time haha! xx

I had some certain rye products for lunch, cannot wait for dinner tonight, smelling gorgeous, going to do it with some mash and sweetheart cabbage.

Fingers crossed Sarah, we are all here supporting you in spirit.

Good luck Sarah. They really can't do anything to you without good grounds. They might not tell you who made the complaint but they know, and if it's shown up to be totally ridiculous maybe they'll come back on the person who made the claims for wasting their time. Is the thing that you're off sick for something that would prevent you being able to do any other work as well? Could evidence from a doctor help? The thing about reading up about disciplinary proceedings could well just be a standard letter that they give to everyone.

Oh MMW2B you've made me want fish finger sarnies now!

PP I do hope your daughter feels better soon. It sounds really rotten. I've escaped getting migraines but my mum gets them occasionally. I don't think she is sick but she gets a really bad headache and generally is achy, and has to basically lie in bed.

Thanks ec I'm off because of work, they have made my job a nightmare and spoken to me like crap. I got an email Friday before the letter arrived with this meeting request and I phoned in to talk to the person who emailed me but she decided to email me on Friday at4pm when she finished so I couldn't talk to her. I got the financial director on the phone and He said there isn't much they can do until they talk to me but what can they do when there allegation is ridiculous and not true the whole thing is a joke! Xx

I'm looking forward to getting home tonight. The work on the house has finally started, so we've got a carpenter in laying floors. He won't finish today, it's going to take him four or five days, but I'm really looking forward to seeing how far he's got. We've also got a plumber joining him so we will finally have a shower that works, and hopefully the leaky radiator will be fixed as well. They're basically a bit of a cover all company, the guy who runs it is a plumber by trade but they've got other people that have other areas of expertise, as well as some who are more like general labourers. By this time next week the house should have been transformed, and hopefully won't feel like a cross between a house and a building site anymore. Then a week today a removal van is arriving from my parents in law, who are downsizing after Christmas and getting rid of a lot of stuff. We're getting a piano, three piece suite, single bed, large mirror, various bits of smaller furniture, a baby bath (hubby was bathed in it), various pictures, and I can't remember what else, We can finally start getting the place straight next week. I can't wait.

It sounds like you would be better off out of there Sarah, but that's obviously easier said than done as you need an income, and if you quit you lose redundancy. I hope you manage to escape with your reputation intact.

MMW2B I'm so jealous! Love fish fingers.

Oh no Becci, if your organisation recognises a TU they should let you know. Is there someone you can ask? Other colleagues might know. They're going about it the wrong way, if they did that to me and my colleagues they'd never get away with it.

Last time I went through a restructuring in our department the senior managers got absolute h311 from us. I pulled apart their consultation paper line by line then made so many valid points along with my colleagues the management just looked a jok. Afterwards a TU rep said to me we don't need the union as we can fight it well ourselves. If you're going to do it to HR professionals though you had better do it properly but they completely messed up. The union rep said she actually felt sorry for management because we showed them up so badly.

I don't think I dare try and raise flaws with it. Hr already hate me for things linked to the crash just going to have to put up with it I think .. If I don't keep my role after the interviews and they offer me a rubbish alternative I hade until January to find a new job!

Becci it does sound like looking into a union would be helpful. Union reps. will not be phased by HR, and will not let you be unfairly treated. HR have no right to be annoyed with you because of the crash, you're doing everything that you're entitled to do. Will you at least get a decent redundancy package if you lose out at this point?

That's a shame. At least after 18 months you wouldn't lose a lot of money by turning down the role. My husband has a colleague who desperately wants to leave, as she works part time and since she had her second child the childcare is costing her more than she earns. However she's been there 11 years so even on a part time salary she will waive goodbye to a very hefty amount of money if she just gives her notice in. Unfortunately on the last review her area wasn't reduced at all, but my husband reckons it won't be long before they reduce numbers again, and surely her team has to be included.

Yum sounds lovely, I had a boring microwave pasta and sauce!

We have had our advent calendars for about 2 weeks haha we wanted to make sure we had a good choice in the shops so thought we'd get them early haha!

I know! Where has this year gone?!

And it is chucking it down now out there, typical, just in time for the school to let out

I used to get 2 advent calendars when I was younger - one at my mums and one at my dads. I only ever used to visit my dad's twice a week though so I always had a few chocolates to catch up on in one go. Perks of having a split family!

We have got the dog and the rabbit one each too, can't wait to see how they go down lol! Not real ones though, dog and rabbit friendly chocolate ones!

I've never heard of rabbit ones either lol that's cute!

Ozzy loves it having one.. He sits and waits for it before we go to work then totters off to bed

Call me greedy but I think I'd just prefer the chocolate EC! Hehe.

Becci HR should be impartial and neutral, they are there to advise and guide managers yes but they are also there to protect the organisation and minimise risk, that means ensuring management do what they should by legislation, case law and best practice.

HR don't take sides, if they do then they are poor practitioners, they can support management if management is right but ultimately they should be a "critical friend" to stop managers or influence managers to not do the wrong thing which could be extremely costly if they end up in employment tribunal, I'm talking financial and reputational cost.

And I made it very clear I find there allegation completely ridiculous and that when I choose to leave I will be courteous and work required notice! I hope my point was put across well xx