Wedding Forum - Gay weddings...

ANybody else here had or having a gay / lesbian wedding?

Just wondering what the civil ceremonies are like, assuming run of the mill like any registry office ceremony.

What things did you do that were different to a straight wedding?

My fiancee and i are having the dress debate at the moment, everyone would LOVE to see her in a dress for the ceremony at least, but she isnt so keen and wants a suit ( but in her words doesnt want a dudes suit, but wants trosuers, a waistcoat and cravat lmao)

We are thinking of having a sand ceremony too, but instead of just us pouring the sand in the vases, all of our guests will pour a little bit in.

We are having a rose ceremony and an anniversary box ceremony but we can't do that in the registry office we have decided to just have the normal registry office then a friend is going to over see the other ceremonies on the beach where we live so that way we can have our ideal ceremony and have it ourdoors :)
I'm not sure about civil wedding though but I think as far as the registry office go it's pretty much the same as any other type of wedding. It's best to check with them neaer the time tbh.

we have been lucky with our venue and (a beach front hotel) they have let us have the hall for the whole day for free if we use their chef for the food so they have said that if it rains we can hold the ceremony in the hall. all bases covered that way :) I think seaside venue are easier to find on a budget as theres so many trying to get your business so you can knock their prices right down if your nice enough to them :)

We do live near a beach, but i am not sure what the prices are like there....we DID think of having the offical bit in the registry then finding somewhere else outside, with a family member residing over a vow and sand ceremony....due to the cost of having the registrar go outside the offices...
there is a leisure center, a few post restaurants..an italian one.... suppose it is all worth looking into. Thanks


Sadly it will be just my partners side of the family, dont talk to any of mine for various reasons, some dont talk to me since i came out as being in a realtionship with amie 18 months ago.
I was previously in a 12 year long marriage to a man, that was on and of for the 12 years, never saw myself as gay as such, just knew something wasnt quite "me" if that makes sense, we split up beore i even knew my fiance, and once i met her i just knew that she was who i wanted to be with.
We were engaged within 3 months lol, another lesbian friend told me gay relationships move quick, she wasnt joking ha ha ha

we dont know what colours to ahve yet, maybe pink and lilac. There a FEW sets on bay e sometimes, not cheap but nice ones. Other than those we havnet found any yet....

see thats what we are all suggesting, a dress literally for the ceremony and photos, and then change into a suit.
she's such a dizzy dyke though, takes her a month to decide what colour trousers she wanted to wear!

and thank you!

ooooooooooooooh cool idea!

I agree LittleMissBossy. I think trouser suits are sexy and classy on girls, I am bi. x

My W2B has no skirts or dresses in her regular wardrobe but she does love getting her glad rags on for black tie and formal events. To my delight, she is insistent on wearing a dress for our wedding :-) We won't see each other's outfits before walking down the aisle though.

I'm a bit worried still as she has chosen her dress (not bought it yet) and any time she shows a picture to friends, their responses tend to be "Really?!" or "I didn't imagine you'd choose that!" or "Won't your shoulders look broad?" uh oh.

I agree Janie, it doesn't matter what our W2Bs wear- they'll look gorgeous to us :-) and at least we can get "married" nowadays

So @Janie and @Gracelet what is happening when you walk up the aisle? Are you walking in together? Or are you meeting your b2b at the altar (or registrar)? Are you travelling to the church together?

On another note, I think it is virtually impossible for a bride to look cr.ap on their wedding day. I think all brides are beautiful, not only because they exude an air of happiness (which automatically makes you look beautiful), but because they just do. No matter what outfit brides wear, they always look amazing. She will look lovely whatever she wears Janie
xxx

The walking down the aisle thing is going to be a timing nightmare...

Both of us will be given away by our fathers. Elle wants me to walk down the aisle first and then her after a wee pause. As our wedding is in a castle with accomodation, I'll spend the night there whilst she is spending it at her family home which is 20 mins away. In true diva style, she wants to arrive in a helicopter and for all the guests to go our and greet her. I have to wait inside!!

Going to have to get our best men (yes, there are 3 of them...) to somehow co-ordinate so that I know when to come out as I want everyone watching ME walking down the aisle too but obviously they'll need a bit of time to get inside the room where we are having the ceremony.

Hmmm. unsure.

That does sound complicated!

@Kimmie Lesbian relationships are never fair.... :-p sigh. @Janie @JEm1905 do you agree?!

I am confused too. I hadn't thought of having two aisles. That might work, not sure about spacing- will have to ask the wedding planner at the venue.

and do you know what else w2b announced last night? she wants to go and see the PANDAS in China for part of our honeymoon "because they are cute". Why am I marrying a woman with such expensive tastes?!!!

Take her to Scotland, Panda's have just arrived there!

There are very cute Pandas in the zoo in Vienna! :-)

ooh iwanted a helicopter!
i DID want a pink tank, yes your read right, a PINK TANK, and my Oh rather sarcastically said "if you can find a pink f*****g tank you can have one",
that was - until I found one! Then she said NO f*****G way are you having THAT lOL

yeah i googled it found ONE in london, but by time we paid transport fees and costs it was over 2k

wow why didnt i think of a pink limo!
I might see if i can find one up here and maybe suprise amie with it on the day

think i will look into it, but not sure i can afford it. A few years ago there was a pink london cab going round this area, but i ahvent seen that in years so dont think it is still about

Pink tank = Amazing x

Why not introduce your own? :) Is there anything particular to you & your fiance that you didn't do before? Or something your lesbian friends have introduced you to? :) Xx

Thats brilliant news Shirley. My gay wedding is the first ive ever been too.. it wasnt ment to be a friend was ment to tie the know 18 days before me but now had to put it back a year.. Damn it!

me too. we're actually the first of ALL of our friends to get married which means that we haven't a clue in general, nor can I swap tips with my friends. hence on the forum with all you lovely ladies :-)

You are the pioneers of a new generation! Way to go ladies!

i totally agreed x